Babe

[D_Hyacinth Harrytwat]

I thought of it after looking through the PMSing thread again and Dolfette had posted yet another pm where some stranger called her babe and it got me thinking - am I the only one who hates it when strangers call me babe?

I understand if it's just a word someone uses a lot in a day - like Surfer12 does lol - but I actually don't like hearing it from a bf and certainly not from a complete stranger who's trying to be endearing on a big cock website.

 

[dolfette]

I thought of it after looking through the PMSing thread again and Dolfette had posted yet another pm where some stranger called her babe and it got me thinking - am I the only one who hates it when strangers call me babe?

I understand if it's just a word someone uses a lot in a day - like Surfer12 does lol - but I actually don't like hearing it from a bf and certainly not from a complete stranger who's trying to be endearing on a big cock website.

it's like a cheesy pickup line in one word.

 

[D_Hyacinth Harrytwat]

it's like a cheesy pickup line in one word.

Yeah it crams a lot of unoriginality into four letters, doesn't it?

 

[Surfer12]

Hey super crayon, I use babe alot!?!? I didn't even realize it oops, I never had a woman complain about it, it must be a subconscious thing I do! Not really intended as a pickup line or anything, more as a friendly comment!

Surfer

 

[StraightCock4Her]

Hey super crayon, I use babe alot!?!? I didn't even realize it oops, I never had a woman complain about it, it must be a subconscious thing I do! Not really intended as a pickup line or anything, more as a friendly comment!

Surfer

I did the same thing but now I use hun and sweety before I start in with the babe but I only use babe and baby when I'm in a relationship with a girl or to denote strong friendship.

 

[Fleur]

I like it, just another term of endearment that makes me smile...but from a creepy stranger guy...not so much...but it's harmless.

 

[dolfette]

feminist mode:

to use it as a term of endearment towards a woman you feel protective over is one thing.

to use it on total strangers is insulting. babe/baby... they imply childlike. like you're attempting infantalise me. what i assume from it's use it that you're a patronising wanker who doesn't see me as an equal.

yes, i'm hard work. it's endearing!

 

[Rubenesque]

I hate being called Babe by men online who don't know me, "hey babe wotsup", you're making me cringe is what's up! Even worse is being called Baby... yeucchhhhh!

Actually, I don't like many endearments, particularly dislike "dear", an endearment that only elderly aunts should be allowed to use. It seems to be used by Asian and African men though.

I also dislike the much overused word "hun", most often used by women, online to other women.

 

[Surfer12]

One time we had to go to court for my brother and the lawyer kept putting his hands on my moms shoulders and calling her "dear" "honey" and "sweetheart", it was the first time we met him, really creepy!!!

 

[B_Nick8]

Context is everything, in this regard, no?

Yes.

Right again. As usual.

 

[helgaleena]

Indeed, Surfer, it is. In the south they tend to try to do creepy things to total strangers like that, and it is not endearing if you take it literally. As anyone from the non-south would. Dolfette now and then hits things spot on.

 

[dirk2d]

Commonly used in Australia. Men call women 'babe', women call men 'babe', women call women 'babe'. Its not used in a sleazy or cheesy way, men call men 'mate' but most women I know don't like a man calling them 'mate'.

Like someone said before, a term of endearment. But then again, as also said before, it depends on the context. The way someone here would say 'babe' is completely different to the way someone would say 'baby'. The latter is usually reserved for couples and/or player wannabes.

 

[voidout]

i can understand where dolfie is coming from, but i take it as a man claiming ownership of me in a public area. it's very alpha to me.

i don't like anyone but my significant other calling me pet names,
but that's a personal pet peeve, and probably why it seems very "owning".

 

[D_Rawkesbye Deadheade]

Personally, I rarely use "babe" unless it is the only suitable choice of word for the expression, which is quite rare.

I opt for "dear" and "me lady" in playful context.

 

[D_Hyacinth Harrytwat]

I didn't know it was used so much in Australia! All the more reason to fill out your "location" info on here, so that I won't think a guy is being a prick for calling me "babe". If I went somewhere where it's used all the time, I'm sure I wouldn't be creeped out. Where I'm from though, it's not endearing and when I hear it being used up here, I cringe.

 

[Northland]

I call men Babe all the time. 'Hey Babe how ya doin'?' 'Sorry about that Babe.' It's just something which I do, and have done to me. However, I only use it towards men, for women I go towards 'Dear and Love'. If someone objects, I don't do it again.


And now a musical interlude-which this thread brought back to me: YouTube - Hurricane Smith - "Oh Babe, What Would You Say?"

 

[TheRob]

i know.

i once taught a southern boy a lesson for calling me baby up here in NY.

to be honest the only lesson you could have taught him was that you are a bitch
I'm sure you believed you were showing himhow strong and indepedent you are but honestly it's bullshit
maybe you will grow up someday tho, babe : o )

 

[voidout]

to be honest the only lesson you could have taught him was that you are a bitch
I'm sure you believed you were showing himhow strong and indepedent you are but honestly it's bullshit
maybe you will grow up someday tho, babe : o )

to be honest, you have no idea who i am, you have no idea how the conversation went, and you are the only one looking immature by trying to provoke me with calling me "babe" and a "bitch".

showing him how strong and independent i am?
ahahaha.

the sentence was a joke about the situation. take it or leave it, but please, go take your compensation for not being manly enough in your own mind, and needing to call a woman a bitch over the internet over something you misinterpreted, somewhere else.

this alpha stuff is really getting so old.

 

[Daisy]

I don't read anything into it. I don't think that a man is trying to be an alpha male any more than a man should think I'm patronizing if I call him "honey". It's a term of endearment. If someone wants to call me babe, or sweetie, or honey, I think it's a little neurotic to get all worked up about it. :silly:

 

[voidout]

I don't read anything into it. I don't think that a man is trying to be an alpha male any more than a man should think I'm patronizing if I call him "honey". It's a term of endearment. If someone wants to call me babe, or sweetie, or honey, I think it's a little neurotic to get all worked up about it. :silly:

I don't think it's neurotic, I think that certain people just feel differently about it than you do for whatever their reasons.

Some people like it, some don't. :shrug: