So this is I believe the third thread in the (hopefully) trilogy. At this time, 'relations' between myself and the potential mother of my (or not my...) potential baby are non existent. I have not been particularly "difficult" or standoffish. Just all of a sudden, since she has a new "boyfriend" she is hatin' on me (that's the only way to describe it, coming out with complete, spiteful bullshit) and apparently I am not to be at the birth, my name is not going on the birth certificate and the child (if it is mine) can choose to see me "when she's older". We have not spoken for a long time and the last communique was her telling me the above. Recently I have also discovered that she is on a 'dating' website looking for a threesome partner for her and her new boyfriend. Which I think is a little bit abhorrent (just a little), since she is heavily pregnant. I am just wondering what people think I should do. Here are the questions/issues I would like some input on. Bearing in mind I am in the GB. 1. Family are telling me that if my name is not on the birth certificate that she can't "pursue" me for child maintenance. Is this correct? I read around and it doesn't seem to be the case but wondered if someone else (crackoff?) might know more. 2. To determine paternity I would require a DNA test. I would expect this to take at least a month. During which time I would not see the baby. Would this make me look bad? Not sure of the protocol in this situation. 3. Assuming all the paternity are belong to us, I would prefer to have some sort of access/visitation whereby I see the baby and just the baby. Which means not seeing the baby mama, her boyfriend or her family. Is this possible or not? Many thanks for reading. Many more thanks for replying!