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One thing I’ve always wondered about bachelorette parties is if the bride to be actually does a stripper/etc. obviously I know it’s not the norm, but does it actually ever happen?
 

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The norm? Nope. Not in my experience at least. I’ve been to a lot of bachelorette parties, and most are completely boring. A few drunken parties back in my early 20s, but strippers were rare and if so, were in a public venue.
 
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I've been in the bridal party three times.

One wedding was cancelled.

One bride I took to see a comedy show with the rest of the bridal party. It was pretty good. It was in the hotel where the wedding/reception was. We stayed there overnight to be in bed early and up early to get ready. We gave each other facials to be prepared for a day of photography.

The other wedding the bachelorette party was my responsibility as maid of honor. This was my first wedding as part of the bridal party. I invited all of her friends from work and college, and the bridesmaids. I tried to organize a trip to Foxwoods to gamble and to see Chris Rock. This fell through. I suspect most of the women could not afford this trip, even with the group discounts and casino comps. So, I planned a night of clubbing at a beautiful venue. Guest list. Waived cover charge. VIP seating, access to the VIP DJ and dance floor. Likely encounters with celebrities. Free bottles of Moet until midnight. Minimum purchase of $300 for each table. Easily doable since there were at least a dozen guests who said they would be there. Each table sat six. I did not count myself among the guests, and I did not attend. I hate clubs. I preferred to stay home with my cat and catch up on sleep. I had just returned from hiding a friend from an abusive partner at my boyfriend's apartment two states away. I feel guilty because I did pretend I was going. I also made them dinner reservations at the bride's favorite noodle house. I thought about going to the dinner, but I actually got stuck in traffic on the GWB and legitimately missed it. I hear they loved the party I threw and had a good time.

As for the bride who called off her wedding, she has no other friends and no siblings or cousins. I would have paid her weed dealer, ordered takeout, given her a facial, put her hair up on rollers, finished decorating her cake, and then joined her for the last bowl of the night, and fallen asleep in front of an action flick.

Maybe my friends and I are just boring. Maybe it is because we all married around age 28 or 29. I have never been to a wild bachelorette party. I do not feel deprived.
 
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I've never been to a bachelorette party. Not many of my friends have any interest in marriage. The ones who are/were, didn't throw one or it was a distant acquaintance so I wouldn't have been invited.
 

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Omg. You guys are so lucky! I’ve been to at least 50 bachelorette parties! Maybe more. I used to be a musician, and play at the wedding - got invited many times through that avenue. I’ve been a bridesmaid at least a dozen times, so I had to attend. Plus, girlfriends galore getting married. No party I’d complete without LaFemme, you know. :eek:

One of the bonuses of getting older is that second or third marriages don’t require a bachelorette party anymore. At most a few friends might gather for a quiet dinner and some wine, if that. Thank god. And no more ugly dresses as a bridesmaid, either.
 

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And no more ugly dresses as a bridesmaid, either.
My two brides didn't make me wear an ugly dress. The first chose an elegant, tea-length, strapless cocktail dress in black with champagne trim. It was the kind of thing I might choose for myself. I wore it many times, in fact. When I lost too much weight to wear it, I gave it to a younger woman who was thrilled to receive it. She has sent me photos of herself in it at special events. I paid $265 including custom tailoring and additional tailoring after I lost some weight. Money well spent since at least two women got good use from it, and it made my bestie happy on her wedding day.

The other dress wasn't my style. It was nice enough. It was a prom dress, really. The bride was trying to keep things cheap. It was $79 on clearance. There was a problem though. I was the only one who followed her instructions to buy the dress and have the shoes dyed to match immediately. The other women could not find the dress in their sizes four months later when they finally went shopping. I was given the choice of keeping the dress I bought, or allowing the other women to buy me the dress they ended up with. That thing was fugly. I wore the original dress. It was simple. Inoffensive. I kept being mistaken for maid of honor because my dress was different. The bride and I still laugh about this.
 
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My two brides didn't make me wear an ugly dress. The first chose an elegant, tea-length, strapless cocktail dress in black with champagne trim. It was the kind of thing I might choose for myself. I wore it many times, in fact. When I lost too much weight to wear it, I gave it to a younger woman who was thrilled to receive it. She has sent me photos of herself in it at special events. I paid $265 including custom tailoring and additional tailoring after I lost some weight. Money well spent since at least two women got good use from it, and it made my bestie happy on her wedding day.

The other dress wasn't my style. It was nice enough. It was a prom dress, really. The bride was trying to keep things cheap. It was $79 on clearance. There was a problem though. I was the only one who followed her instructions to buy the dress and have the shoes dyed to match immediately. The other women could not find the dress in their sizes four months later when they finally went shopping. I was given the choice of keeping the dress I bought, or allowing the other women to buy me the dress they ended up with. That thing was fugly. I wore the original dress. It was simple. Inoffensive. I kept being mistaken for maid of honor because my dress was different. The bride and I still laugh about this.
Almost every bridesmaid dress I’ve worn has been pretty awful. I’ve even been forced to carry a parasol. None were ever worn twice. I don’t think there exists a dress that looks good on six different body types. Or ten, depending on how many bridesmaids there are. You really have to love the bride to pay that kind of money to look that bad up in front of god, your friends, and everybody!
 
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I've been to quite a few myself. Some were crazy, some were boring. None had a hired stripper.

I was matron of honor for my sister. I had a lot of say so about our dresses! LOL! I've had some pretty awful ones though.
 

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Almost every bridesmaid dress I’ve worn has been pretty awful. I’ve even been forced to carry a parasol. None were ever worn twice. I don’t think there exists a dress that looks good on six different body types. Or ten, depending on how many bridesmaids there are. You really have to love the bride to pay that kind of money to look that bad up in front of god, your friends, and everybody!
That first really nice dress was chosen because it looked good on the two of us who were apple-shaped, and the skinny model type who could wear anything. All four of us went shopping together. We shopped for 6 months. We shopped until we found a dress that everyone look nice in and agreed they could see themselves wearing again. It was a little expensive, far more than I would ordinarily pay for a dress, but it really was beautiful, and we all looked great. Our only complaint was the bride chose these outrageous shoes with five and a half inch heels. I still wear the shoes. But only laying down.

Edit: the bride was able to convince us to wear those shoes by paying for them.
 
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I’ve been to a few. I hate them. There was no stripper. Tho for one we went to a Puppetry of the Penis show.

If I was to ever get married I wouldn’t want a bachelorette party. I’d probably just take my mum with me to a day spa for a day of pampering. I don’t actually want a wedding either, elopement is my preference.
 
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