Nixxy and Chris, I'm very sorry to hear about this turn of events. I really am.
However, I'm going to be 50 this year, and I have a bushel of kids ranging from 13 to 33. We are a blended family. I already wrote this post once, and my computer froze. (SH*T!
But in a nutshell, I completely understand what you are going through, because I'm bi, and I have a bi best friend. It's like having a twin brother turned lover. HOWEVER, we have both been very faithful to our wives and families, because of the astronomical loss it would create if we got sexual with each other. So, we've had to create some boundaries to maintain a life-lasting friendship. And so far, it's working, and it appears we will be life-long friends. Our wives are friends, and even know of the attraction that we have had for each other. It's all calmed down to a comfort that we are not ashamed of, and we enjoy getting together doing workouts occasionally, and other things. I help him, he helps me, we do couple dates, guy's night out occasionally, etc. and it's good.
As a parent, I would be concerned for Chris and you. But I don't believe in the mean stuff. Your bodies and minds are still developing and the changes in your lives are extremely quick. If you get into a deep sexual relationship too early, it is doomed to disaster because you don't have all the skills and experience to make the really deep stuff work.
That's just being honest. If I was your dad, I would take you in my arms, let you have a good face wash, and listen, and try to give you as much hope and encouragement as possible, but also try to help you not let this go too far, too fast.
Chris's mom may be mean and have all the wrong approaches, but her intent and motive is probably good. She is over reacting. But you don't have to. You are bright, young, and you don't have to be mean in return.
I say to my kids,
"You're grounded till your 21. (Smile wickedly.) Now got to your room, figure it out and get back to me." Meaning, be smart, keep talking to me and negotiate things. You don't have to be afraid of mean, stupid adults, because you're better than that.
Have hope, but take a deep breath, and be smart. Keep a friendship, enjoy your time together if you have it, but keep some boundaries so you both can go on with having a good life.
Warm and fuzzies to you both.
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