]i once had a strictly non-sexual friendship with a girl which morphed into an emotional relationship from hell with a really fucked-up poor little insane bitch ... i started off being too nice and helpful and considerate and then she got hooked and dependent and demanding and controlling and judgemntal and interfering ... i had to call it off many times in person by phone and by email and she still woulddnt get the message ... i kept not responding or sending shorter messages but that made her send longer ones until finally i sent a one word message 'stop' and then she did stop emailing me but she still stalked me ... she would not let go or close even though i never promised her anything[/FONT]
(actually i've had this problem with a couple of girls ... i dont know why ... because i'm always upfront about being gay)
You sound like me. In grad school, a similar type of woman "selected" me as her "best friend." After strenuous attempts to decline the "honor," I gave up and let her spend time with me. For about two years, off and on. Yes, I was weak.
I eventually had to tell her the truth--that I'd always thought she was crazy, from day one--before she became offended and broke the "friendship" off with me.
NCbear (who's damned glad he found a way to get rid of her)