By the time I break up with a woman, she has known it has been coming for awhile. This is not a surprise when I break up with them beacause I am very communicative with the women I am with about our relationship while IN the relationship.
However I never cease to be amazed and dumbfounded when women start schizing out and I tell them they need to knock it off and then the schizing out escalates!
So finally I tell them that after countless warnings and asking them to stop and they don't and so I say "goodbye then. We are done. It's over." I would prefer to do this in person but by the time the end comes, they KNOW the end is near and refuse to meet me in person so it always ends up being over the phone. Hey - their decision not mine.
I have been stalked by an ex. After I broke upwith her, she said she wanted to talk and would come over. But I was at a friend's house and my house was not locked and she got to my house before I did and was naked in my bed.
I thought I would have been a bad host if I told her to put her clothes on and leave, so I took mine off and got in bed. We had amazing sex and I told her to leave, it really was over and done and that if she kept bothering me, I would have a restraining order and enforce it. So that was that.
I find women who have behaved badly, cowardly or worse know they are going to broken up with and wish they would have behaved otherwise, but just couldn't bring themselves to behave well even with countless chances by an understanding guy and when it gets to that point, DONE. No more.
And Patsy - you can beat my ass if you want, but I did end a year long relationship by text from a woman who was very abusive to me, inconsiderate and out of control. After she refused to meet in person, refused to speak on the phone and kept sending acidic, nasty texts, I sent her a text and said "It's over.". So hey - if it gets to such a point, women (or men for that matter) may want to think about how they are behaving.
So that is my two cents.