1. Incocknito

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    Menfolk:

    If you are a bad fit (too big/too small) for someone do you think you could stay with that person and have a happy, fulfilling relationship.

    Womenfolk:

    If your man's penis was a bad fit (too big/too small) for your vagina would you be able to stay with them and have a happy, fulfilling relationship?

    For the people in this situation I would like to know any advice you may have or anecdotes.

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    Ten years and counting here. Sometimes we're perfect for each other, but sometimes it's a struggle. Yes, it works and it works quite well, but all it takes is patience and effort. You'll have to ask her if she has any major complaints. She has more details than me, for sure.
     
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    We had been married for about 10 years when my wife started having problems with my size. So I don't know how things would have worked if we didn't have an amazingly strong relationship already.

    She told me early in our relationship that if I were any bigger she would not have dated me. I am the biggest she's ever seen.

    That being said, the porno style hard banging, knees over the shoulders, cervix slamming sex never really happened. Oh well. :wink:
     
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    Cervix slamming sex is not desirable. It hurts. Where do you guys get this myth from? Ideally you slide on past without ouch.

    Back on topic-- 'bad fit' is not a deal breaker. Vaginal sex is not the only sort. All bodies have their beauties. Things may fit perfectly elsewhere, or there may be some special talent that rings your partner's bells so well that vaginal sex is crowded out by better things. What is more, sex is just one ingredient in a relationship . Gosh, I, you are worried about hypotheticals that may never arise with some Ms Right.
     
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    Well I expected more replies. Guess this is a rare issue?

    Anyway, the issue is that I like hard sex, pounding or at least 'fast' fucking. But that is not possible. I wonder if in time she would be able to get used to me and if not could I be sate with stop and start type sex gingerly performed.
     
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    You'll probably both adapt over time, to a sort of compromise. Depends how much you like her as a person, I guess? Or...whether the pounding is more important. :p
     
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    Oh yeah. Bad fit can definitely be a deal breaker. I've used this example before, but I see potential relationships as cars. Before I make a commitment to monthly payments, I'm going to test drive it! If I'm not satisfied with the ride, I'll be damned if I'm taking it home.
     
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    Depends on why it is 'not possible' also. She may require 1) more arousal, 2)more lube, 3) stretching with large toy 'training', 4) different orifice. These things cannot be generalized.

    But I, extra foreplay never is wasted effort :tongue:
     
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