Alright... I'll spare the long and full of the story for the sake of this thread, but you can read about my troubles here: http://www.lpsg.org/62125-anyone-else-have-this-problem.html#post1013756 (there is a similar thread in Women's Issues that was created at the same time just to get more hits http://www.lpsg.org/62126-have-you-ever-had-happen.html) Please note the date of those threads. As an official follow-up, I finally had a completely hands-off, girlfriend-induced orgasm in September of this year (that's about 4 years into this relationship), and I have had no more than 5 additionally. For a few weeks I thought all was well, but the problem persisted and it's just wearing on me physically, emotionally, and spiritually. So my question is, what do I do about this relationship? The thought of ending it all seems unbearable, and I truly believe I want to save us, but my body tells me differently. I think about other women constantly... I wonder if my problem is just because of lack of sexual experience with other partners, lack of knowing what I need to get-off, etc... or would my unfortunate circumstances carry over no matter the woman? I used to be a well put-together young man, but now I feel like a wreck inside. I find myself hoping to be put in a situation where a woman makes advances on me, simply because, in my current head space, I know I wouldn't be able to resist. I've worked so hard my entire life to not be a stereotypical cheating, meat-head male, but the longer this goes on the more I want to be that POS person. What do I say? How do I have this conversation with her to let her know how badly I need things to change without completely crushing her? I'm sorry if this seems like rambling to you... I'm starting to panic. Thanks for any help.