Can you possibly try to teach her what's expected of her? I know what it's like to have an unresponsive lover on line. I find it a total turn-off. I'm a very passionate woman and I find that a total turn off. Although, there are some people simply not capable of passion. I know someone who has a large penis and he seems to expect that to be his ticket for success. You need more then a large penis to turn a woman on. You need to be responsive. Maybe your not stimulating her. It takes two to Tango. If you keep trying and she lays there as if it's a chore what kind of pleasure is that for you? There are plenty of fish in the sea. I'd want to feel the passion of being wanted. I need to know I gave some pleasure to my lover otherwise I'd feel like I was not desirable and definately stray.