bad side of being a fuckbuddy

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gigantikok: Very well said! You go Tender!

Yea, we may not know the full story. Yea, the guy may be embellishing. Eh, who cares? I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. Judging by the way the post was written, and the attitude the guy had when writing it, I highly doubt he CAME to us for a pity party. I think his intention was more to inform us about his trouble with a fuck buddy. Maybe to warn. We turned it into a pity party, yes, but that is because the woman's behavior was so appalling. I don't really think the guy writing this topic had any reason to lie, and if you are going to approach it in that direction, Tigerwolf, who's to say that everyone that logs onto LPSG isn't lieing? Hmm? Gotta give people the benefit of the doubt every once in awhile. Anyway, whatever.

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

I had something to add here.

I have a pretty good bud in graduate school and we jack off on occasion. We did it quite a bit more than we do now because we had the time for it, and the last couple of times we tried, though it was pretty fun, he got off and I didn't.

There are so many possibilities to consider. I don't know his masturbation schedule, but I usually make it a daily occurrence unless I'm consciously trying to prolong the time between sessions. I stay pretty busy with school and it's quite the preoccupation. Maybe it's a psychological head trip, and maybe it's not. He said that he hadn't spooged it in about a week and I got off earlier this morning. You know something, though? The sad reality could be that, though the bud and I get along pretty well, the sexual interest in my fuckbuddy might be waning more than I realize.

The sad thing about a fuckbuddy is that there isn't any commitment toward a prolonged, meaningful contact to maintain, if anything, a continuous sexual interest. By definition, it can't really work that way. A fuckbuddy isn't the type of person you fall for emotionally, not one bit. (That's not to say that you can't develop feelings; it's just antithetical to the arrangement already set up.)

Well, you guys know me -- I get a little overboard trying to rationalize things out, and the minute I start surfing impotence web sites, I had to make the call.

"Yo," I said, stuttering a bit because it's difficult to talk about that sort of thing, "I know the last time we jacked, you shot and I didn't, and I didn't want you to get uncomfortable or self-conscious about things."

I explained that I hardly knew myself as to why I wasn't reaching orgasm, but that I was a bit concerned, and if he felt the same, he wasn't the only one. He laughed it off, thanked me, and said that he wasn't concerned at all.

That still leaves me at odds for what I really want. It's sad to admit but I have had a bit of fun over the past couple of months and everything's worked fine. I don't know... maybe the "bud" matters more than the "fuck" right now.

 

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longtimelurker: [quote author=DeeBlackthorne link=board=sex;num=1066804468;start=20#21 date=10/28/03 at 20:22:41]  I don't know... maybe the "bud" matters more than the "fuck" right now.

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Oh dear - that sounds like the 'maybe we should just be friends' line to me .