Bad skin? Not for me thanks!

Would you dump someone after you found out they have a skin condition?

  • Yes, bad skin like eczema or proriasis is too gross for me.

    Votes: 7 15.2%
  • No, if I'm attracted to a person, I don't care about things like that.

    Votes: 27 58.7%
  • Dunno, depends on... (please state)

    Votes: 12 26.1%

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Rugbypup

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Here's one for you.

I would like to know, if you started going out with someone (male, female, straight, bi, gay, dosent matter for this question, all are welcome to reply) and it's going well and you are interested in the person, you then find out they have a skin condition, eczema or psoriasis (a very common condition, more so then guys with big cocks) What would you do?

Would you be too grossed out to see them again? Would it matter to you if you found the person really attractive?

There are folks out there that live with these conditions for their whole lives, how does it effect them in their love lives?

What do you think guys?
 

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Here's one for you.

I would like to know, if you started going out with someone (male, female, straight, bi, gay, dosent matter for this question, all are welcome to reply) and it's going well and you are interested in the person, you then find out they have a skin condition, eczema or psoriasis (a very common condition, more so then guys with big cocks) What would you do?

Would you be too grossed out to see them again? Would it matter to you if you found the person really attractive?

There are folks out there that live with these conditions for their whole lives, how does it effect them in their love lives?

What do you think guys?

Your question doesn't make much sense, RP. I assume you aren't talking about people who are visibly disfigured by their condition, since you ask from the position of already dating and finding out later somehow.

If you're already involved with them, then what's to find out that you don't already know? For many, the symptoms are often invisible.

I could wholly understand not being attracted to someone with a visible skin condition or scarring, but the idea of changing your mind about someone you're already involved with just strikes me as being extremely shallow.
 

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Your question doesn't make much sense, RP. I assume you aren't talking about people who are visibly disfigured by their condition, since you ask from the position of already dating and finding out later somehow.

If you're already involved with them, then what's to find out that you don't already know? For many, the symptoms are often invisible.

I could wholly understand not being attracted to someone with a visible skin condition or scarring, but the idea of changing your mind about someone you're already involved with just strikes me as being extremely shallow.

No, that covers all bases.

A lot of folks with such conditions go out their way to cover them up. You could easily date a guy or girl and not know they have a skin problem. What I would like to know, is once you did find out, ie one or two date then things go further and you find, say, their thigh is covered in eczema, how would you feel about being in or going further in a relationship with that person?

The question does make sense HG. I didn't mean in reference to hospitalised people, i meant everyday folk that at first you wouldn't know.
 

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Attraction for me consists of what is on the outside and the inside. If I were to find out that someone had a skin disorder I wouldn't stop seeing that person. No one is perfect and beside that would be superficial on my part.
 

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I don't want the word 'shallow' to become a major slur in this thread. We all know it would be shallow but the truth is, people are from time to time, some more than others.

I'm asking for honesty here, we know it would be a shallow thing to do, but I don't want people giving PC answers for fear of being slapped as shallow.

Please guys, be honest with me.

The palm of the hand is 1% of the bodies skin coverage, on that calculation, I would indeed have resevations on persueing a relationship with someone if they had more than 10% coverage and if I wasn't in fact deeply attacted to their personality.

Shallow? Kinda. True? Yes.
 

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I think it's case-by-case. You have to weigh the intensity of the overall attraction vs. every odd, quirky or socially unattractive quality they have ... and EVERYBODY has SOMETHING.

One thing I will tell you is that people's attitudes about their "black marks" is part of what makes them attractive. If you hate something about yourself and it shows somehow, people are likely to pick up on that, even subconsciously.
 

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Intersting post?

I wonder how you might react had someone posted that in reference to black guys?

you're not the brightest crayon in the box are you?? i was being sarcastic. besides, the way you're talking about these people it sounds like thats what you'd want
 

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I think an important factor would be how widespread the condition was.
I sometimes have eczema between two toes ... and you would almost have to be giving me a foot massage to notice it.
But some people have a considerable portion of their skin involved ... sometimes 10 or 20 percent of the body's surface, or even more.
And then, there's the question of how badly involved the affected area is.
Some eczema and psoriasis is not upsetting to look at, imo.
But I've seen photographs of skin areas that were deeply involved and produced, at least in me, an uncomfortable reaction.
It would all be case by case.
Sorry I can't give a more definite answer, rugbypup.
 

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you're not the brightest crayon in the box are you?? i was being sarcastic. besides, the way you're talking about these people it sounds like thats what you'd want

Is that hindsight sarcasm?

As for not being the brightest crayon, well, probably best you and I don't converse from here on out.
 

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I don't think that would affect my feelings for someone, so long as they were okay with it. For example, if the person was really self conscious about it, that could be an obstacle to a harmonious relationship as they might not want to get naked, or might be distracted by worrying about what I might think of them. Also, if the condition was painful, I wouldn't want to do anything to hurt them.
 

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I have some skin related problems that my bad web cam doesnt pick up on thank God! It's a good thing i dont do pro porn where the insane bright lights are all over your body.

As attractive as people find me on here- even i have things i cover with make up and clothing.
 

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I have some skin related problems that my bad web cam doesnt pick up on thank God! It's a good thing i dont do pro porn where the insane bright lights are all over your body.

As attractive as people find me on here- even i have things i cover with make up and clothing.

Being as you're married and very popular on here, I find that reassuring, thank you MR.
 

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Pup...no one is perfect. If an individual is self conscious about their "imperfection" it shows. On the other hand, self confidence is a very attractive feature. That is something that has to be built up over time. If you were to take a poll about peoples imperfections, I am sure you would see that everyone has them!