Banned Teens

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  1. prepstudinsc

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    I'm still debating whether or not I feel teens should be banned. On one hand, I think they should have a place for open discussion about things, but I do think that there needs to be some moderation of what sort of things they can access.

    I for one don't think that minors should be able to access the gallery, which also leads to the discussion of avatars. Nudity in avatars used to be prohibited. The board can be accessed by anyone, even a lurker, without signing in, so a teen would be able to read the board and see avatars, so should nudity be prohibited there?

    There are lots of issues that need to be discussed before the kids just get booted off. I know it's a difficult issue for Rob and I wouldn't want to be in his shoes.

    Personally, I wish that I had a place like this to discuss some of the issues I had when I was 15 or 16, being raised by a single mother (a widow) and not really wanting to ask her questions about sex and stuff. Being an only child, I didn't have any brothers to go to, either.

    Isn't there some way that the teens and non-paying members can have limited access or funtions to maybe just Meet and Greet, Young and Hung, and Etc., Etc. and the Journals?
     
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    i must say, i haven't really given this any thought (let's just say life has somehow gotten in the way of things). my question, however, is why just give them access to these four sections only; why not access to everything save the photo gallery? how are the sections you listed different from the rest of the sections, for the exception of the gallery?

    i do agree with you for the most part as teenagers, quite obviously, need support.
     
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    Yes, I am adament and working very hard for the teens to be able to be on this board.

    RULES ACCORDING TO FOLEY:
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    Teens may not: Access gallery
    Post nude in gallery
    Pose nude for any photo
    No one may: Have nudity in avatars
    Have nudity in Profile
    Extange info except in a special forum restricted to minors.

    I think that would be fair to everyone.
     
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    I don't think teens belong here. There's nothing much creepier than a 14-year old PM'ing me to tell me how hot he thinks I am and inquiring as to the size of my cock.
     
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    As much as I agree that there is a great deal of useful information available here for a developing teen, protection and safety of the adult members is paramount. In the hateful, litigious, conservative Christian, neo-con world we currently reside in, this site and its members could be in jeopardy. I always wonder how this would sound in court and how it would look to have a 4'x6' poster of my current avatar held up in front of a jury.
     
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    I'm all for allowing teens on the site. Sometimes they may need an extra source of information or an outlet to express themselves that they don't have in real life. The SG does mean Support Group...or am I wrong on that account?

    However, I believe Mark's old policy of banning nudity in avatars and keeping minors out of the galleries was a good policy. I don't mean to spoil anyone's fun, but if this site were targeted by a government group for its content....

    Sorcerer, that does sound sort of creepy. I don't know the actual wordage of the PM, but in some ways take it as a compliment. I've gotten random PM's from time to time like that, just don't let them get to you. Anyway, I'm sure some of our "14 year olds" on the site really aren't true 14 year olds anyway (if that was bothering you as well).
     
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    I agree with everything except the last one. PM's could be restricted, but not e-mails. If a person gives his e-mail address then contact is then outside the domain of this forum.

    Second, why on Young and Hung should comments from adults be banned. They are public and should a post be inappropriate foir an adult to make to a minor, the offending post can be removed and the poster warned with posssible revokation of right to post if inappropriate comments keep being posted by the same person.

    Third, there is no true accountabiity for age. Adults can join saying they are under 18 and teens can join and say they are adults. It is an honor system now.
     
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    Well, just so long as the octogenarian has a nice cock... :rolleyes:
     
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    You always have intelligent reasonable opinions. Nice guy.
     
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    MFoley, Altarion and others have the right idea. Given suitable, appropriate restrictions (e.g., the Galleries, nudity in avatars and the like), I think to deny anyone any access to the site at all would be a shame. The possibility of youth being denied the Support we're supposed to be all about makes me sad.
     
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    The whole avatar thing is an issue with me. Why do people feel a need to show avatars that are so "iffy"? I know that there have been complaints from members about some of the avatars before. Jonb didn't like Kinkguy's butt shot, nor did I. I don't like some of the underwear shots, either. Yes, I know that this is a site devoted to penes and the problems therewith, but, that doesn't mean that immediately upon pulling up the site, we have to be subjected to looking at them. I have a penis, but I don't go flopping it out to everyone I meet, which is what some of the avatars do. To me, that does more harm and gets is in more trouble than a teen looking up information about why a condom doesn't fit properly.

    I am sure that there are some pervs out there trolling around for a 15 year old, but they are doing the same thing on My Space and the other similar sites. We have to be careful about the personal information we put online and what we reveal in PMs. It comes down to common sense.

    My suggestion of limiting the areas for teen use was because those areas are the ones that are less "sexual" than the other areas of the board. There has to be an answer to this situation out there somewhere...
     
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    I think due to the nature of the site kids are going to look, tell their friends and so on. Of course the FIRST thing they'll look at is the gallery. We'll see how hypervigilent Rob E is about keeping them off. There's only so much you can do but he's taken a step in the right direction.
     
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    Foley man, you are awesome.
     
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    What if the default lurker option was "avatars OFF"? I mean, when I get tired of someone's avatar (NEVER KinkGuy's ass), I just turn them off for a bit.

    IIRC--It wasn't that nudity was restricted--it was frontal nudity below the waist (male and female) and no sexual activities.
     
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    I like your humor.

    I'm just 54......:wink:

    After reading all the posts here is what I am hearing:

    The problems are being within the law and protecting teens from adult predators within reason. So this is what I am heaing as the solutions:

    No nudity anywhere except in galleries which would be restricted to adults.

    No pms between teens and adults. Any private conversation would need to be through e-mails. Public comments between adults and teens on the board allowed.

    Monitoring of posts for nudity and for inappropriate conversation between adults and teens.

    We should be careful not to send a message to teens that somehow all men over 18 are evil and as soon as they turn 18 they will be evil too. I am for monitoring activities. That is the most appropriate action. Humans have never been able to ban any activity. We tried prohibition. Didn't work. Drugs. No way is it controled. Premarital sex and 80 per cent of all kdis have sex before marriage. Banning has never worked and never will. We only give the appearance that something is banned.

    Teens will find a way to get on this site no matter what we do. Predators will find some teen somewhere if they want one bad enough. All we can do is provide good examples and sensible rules to help protect the truly innocent.

    I know the law and we don't want anyone to get into trouble, but what damage is being done to teens who look at adult penises anyway? Until the 1960s boys and men swam in YMCA swimming pools all nude. Maybe a hundred or so naked guys swimming. What is the difference in seeing guys swimming nude and looking at their picture? Sexual activity is another matter that is porn. Nudity is not porn.

    Nude beaches allow families to go nude together there are certainly penises from infancy to old age on display there for hours, days, months, years. It's legal there. But not on the internet.

    It all boils down to doing what we have to do to not knowingly allow the law to be broken. I buy a car that will go 100 miles an hour, but if I drive over the speed limit, I get the ticket, not General Motors. So it is a matter of protecting LPSG and its owner. If a member contacts a teen and something wrong happens, it should be that member in trouble with the law. Unless....LPSG is actively encouraging or helping that adult predator. That is when we as member and Rob E as owner may get into trouble with the law.
     
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    I do not beleive that minors belong here. Generally speaking, I beleive there are more youth-oriented forums where teens can talk about their sexual issues (for example http://teensexuality.student.com/ ) with people of the same age group.

    However, if the board finds that minors do have a place here, I suggest that links be provided to professional, teen-targeted sites.
     
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    I think that teens need a place where they can get information and support from experienced adults, not other teens as that would promote a lot of myths, misbeliefs and stereotypes.
    I think Mark had the right idea when he added the disclaimer page to the gallery entrance. The electronic signature pretty much covered his ass as far as the law was concerned. As for nudity in avatars, I don't like it, that's what the gallery is for. As has been stated in other posts, ANYONE can read the threads and view avatars without signing in.
    I pretty much agree with what mfoley stated as for what teens should be allowed to access here (except the restriction on information exchange) and would go one further and suggest that teens post be marked in some fashion so everyone knows that they're a teen.
     
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    y'all should be weighing in on this thread too, since the owner and/or moderators are likely to prioritize their available time for the admin forums.
     
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