When you post anything here or elsewhere publicly, you are going to get responses you like or don't like. It's not something he wasn't aware of in the first place. Let me also add that I'm not calling him any names if memory serves. And judging someone based on their poor decisions is not something any of us set out to do, it's human nature.
Me judging him wrongly would be calling him names or insults that were related to his sexual orientation, penis size, etc. Judging him based on the information that HE has in fact provided for the rest of us is not judging him in a poor way.
I don't care if it was a couple of years ago. I have a feeling he is immature and sees himself more on the level of underage people rather than as the mid-20's man that he is. That combined with feeling a false sense of security by dating people who are young enough to likely be virgins so he doesn't feel as if he is putting himself at risk is probably what the true issue is.
You've called him immature several times. You've done everything but call him a sexual predator and a pedophile. The following statement that you made:
There are people who make the most raunchy porn videos and still practice more safe sex than this guy. So how is that a correlation?
is bizzare to me. Implying that OP is completely and 100% reckless in all he does, and never practices safe sex was IMO out of bounds, and nasty.
To me, honestly, it's about content and process. Not what you say, but how you say it. I can tell that you're not one who minces words, and tends to call things as you see them. Can definitely rub some people the wrong way.
BTW, I never said someone cannot have an opinion on Safe or safer sex. That was another poster. I've just noticed that there's a lot of posters who get jumped on for having a contrary opinion, or if someone does not agree with you, they are all over you like red on neck.
In some respects, yeah, I do feel for the OP. It's clear from some of his posts that he's had some issues going on, and does not have many people to share his true self with. I just hate to see people get jumped on like that.
One of the things that I noticed, is that you brought up
thadjock and
bbucko. IMO, their responses were probably the most measured and well thought out in the thread. I do agree that in many respects, everyone who posts here does give advice to the community at large, whether they intend to, or not. However, IMO, there is a proper way to give advice, and one that can be detrimental. You can state your opinion without being judgmental and over the top about it, even if it is something that rubs you the wrong way.
Now that I've dragged this whole thread into an entirely different realm, I think I'm gonna put this away now. However, I do have a more clear understanding of where you're coming from, and I hope you have a clearer understanding of where I'm coming from.