Girls, have you ever had sex with a guy using a condom (as it was your wish he did) only to discover either while your still doing it or after, that he removed the condom ?
It has happened to me a few times and made me very unhappy to say the least.
Yeah, this happened to me too. I was about 20 and a little bit (not much) drunk. He was 25 or 26 and I knew he was a bit of a jerk but he was a good looking jerk and for all sorts of reasons I just wanted to get laid. I'm not even sure, on reflection, he ever put the condom on. I fell asleep after sex and when I woke up he was gone. That part suited me, I didn't want to have to hang out with him. What didn't suit me was finding his cum in my vagina. I was ok in terms of pregnancy (I was on the pill, too, though I never told him that) but I was well unhappy about the STD prospects.
It just never occurred to me a guy would do that - all other partners had been fine about condoms once they'd agreed to use one. sure I'd had guys try to talk me out of it, one even succeeded when I was very naive, but it had never occurred to me that a guy would be so sneaky about it.
That incident prompted my first ever STD clinic visit and, luckily, I was clear - but it could have been otherwise. I avoided that guy (he was a friend of a friend) for a while and when I did finally see him I loudly told the group of people we were with what he had done. He got up to leave and our mutual friend, a guy, tripped him and sent him sprawling. A minor revenge but a pleasing one, nonetheless.
in my opinion,
this is rape.
it is sex in a form that was not consented to.
I certainly felt assaulted, that's for sure. I never thought the word rape in my own mind, but it does have all the hallmarks.
i'm disgusted to read this sort of victim blaming attitude here.
it's not ok.
Too fucking right.
Not that i'm a woman or my opinion really matters in this section of LPSG but I have a few friends who told me this happened to them and personally it disgusts me.
Of course your opinion matters. This isn't the Women's Opinions section, it is the Women's Issues section - I have opinions on men's issues that I think matter and I want to hear men's opinions on women's issues. I don't always agree, but then I don't always agree with the other women either.
There are a lot of things here that disgust me as well. I don't believe any of the OP's topics come from a place of actual concern and that's how I treat them. You don't like, tough noogies. Put me on block.
The OP doesn't own this topic - plenty of other women and men read here and threads go where they go. Your comments hurt dolfette and I'd be lying if I said they didn't make me feel pretty fucking small, too. You need to learn to back the fuck down and apolgise.
Like dolf, I'm grateful to chinagirl for posting this.
I must admit I never thought of it as rape as I had consented to sex. With the ones I discovered during the act, I simply put another on one them.
The concerning ones were the after the act discovery, filled me with anger, fear, loathing and distgust at the betrayal, made worse by some when their reaction was too smile.
I'm sorry that happened to you, china. I hope reading that other women have been there too helps you. It helps me and, like I just said, I'm glad you started this thread.
