Bashful bladder cure

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  1. D_Barasiah Teabagher

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    I was at a concert not too long ago, and I went into the men's room. There was a line of guys waiting to use the facilities. As the line moved into the restroom, I noticed that there was a wall with sinks on it, and on the back side of the wall was a line of urinals with no dividers. Those waiting in line were coming past the sinks and into the room with the urinals, which meant that you had an unbelievable view of 24 penises in a row peeing.
    Now, I've always had a bit of trouble peeing when I know that there's other guys seeing or waiting, and the only thing that I've noticed that works even slightly is for me to let the thought of "they really like seeing my dick" go through my mind, and then sometimes I can pee.
    When my turn came, of course it was the urinal right in the middle of the penis lineup, and, as usual, I couldn't pee much at all. I forced some out, and then had to stop as I was getting more and more embarrassed.
    Has anyone found any techniques to help in combating pee shyness?
     
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    just imagine everyone in their underwear.....oh wait.......


    I generally try to imagine dividers. But thats more so i dont look or they dont think i am looking not the other way around. I dunno if that will work for you?
     
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    I remember reading a short story somewhere were a guy had a problem going and he would try to count prime numbers in his head. 2,3,5,7,11,13, etc... I've actually tried that myself and sometimes it helps... I get distracted once I run out of the lower ones and actually have to do some math to see if its prime or not. Of course, I'm also a nerd. so that might have something to do with it too.
     
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    the thing that works best for me is relaxing....it takes practice
     
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    I always have a cupcake in my pocket. It always relaxes me to eat a cupcake while I pee.
     
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    I close my eyes and try to block everything out.

    Sometimes even if I'm in a stall and its noisy I can't get my stream going.

    If that doesn't work, blowing air lightly on your dick can help.
     
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    I think the guys who are not pee shy probably simply have experience pissing in front of people, probably as kids. When I was a kid, and I had to piss during a road tip, my parents would just pull off on the side of the road and let me go in the grass. I had brothers and sisters all sharing one bathroom. By the time I was 10 I was pissing outdoors in front of friends when I needed to. By the time I was 14 I was attending a boarding school...which drove away any residual modesty pretty effectively.

    That said, obviously you can't piss in front of people to numb yourself to the experience...but some of the ideas guys have here of distracting yourself might be a step in the right direction, and maybe some extra efforts like pissing in urinals instead of using toilet stalls might help too. Maybe its just a matter of desensitization...
     
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    Counting "numbers" sometimes helps...at least with me. I have a problem though if someone is standing behind me waiting.
     
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    Don't feel too bad on this one! I have an ex roommate who for years has done gay porn because he is very well endowed. This same guy who has in his lifetime performed every sex act on the planet with another man at one time or another can't go into a men's restroom and urinate in any situation where his genitals can be seen!

    The ONLY way to deal with this is to literally force yourself to do it. The fear could come from something that happened during your childhood. Very often it happens from some very minor thing and it is common for people not to remember what it was that caused it. The ONLY cure is to force yourself first in rest rooms that are not real crowded and then work your way "up" so to speak to those that are.


    Good Luck,
    This one isn't easy......
     
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    I used to be real pee shy, but came up with a method to defeat my shyness. Before I get to the urinals I start to let relax my bladder and let it feel like the pee is moving towards my cock, if you understand what I'm saying. Then I'm at the point where I really have to go and then I go up to the urinal and it's easy to get started. After a couple of years using that method I got over my shyness and generally don't have any problem going. As someone above stated, experience helps, and once you do it a number of times you will get used to the situational shyness.
     
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    I'm 63. When I was young, I would have occasional bashful bladder episodes. The real cure, in my case, has been old age. Now, when I have to go, I literally race to the urinal, unzipping myself along the way, in hopes of making it there in time not to have an accident.
     
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    I have a weird method but it works. Heard it from a guy I used to work with years ago. When you get to the urinal and you are having trouble getting started, imagine that you're pissing on the face of the guy next to you. Works every time.

    I told you it was weird.
     
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    I used to have that happen to me when I was younger. What I did was to close my eyes when I got to the urinal and only open them when it was all flowing. Once you start with a good flow, it seems to continue on its own.

    And as a couple of people have said, once you are used to it, you are relaxed, don't think about anything, and you just piss naturally, no matter who is beside you.
     
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    I have terrible pee shyness. Heard from a llesbian how to cure it and it's helped every time. Do math in your head. 1+1=2, 2+2=4, 4+4=8,8+8=16and so on...
     
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    I used to have trouble when there weren't dividers. Doing math in my head helped some of the times. Then a couple of years ago I happened to witness a demonstration of a therapeutic method called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Basically it involves tapping oneself at specific body points and repeating and affirmative message to oneself. The person doing the demonstration was working with someone who had a phobia of flying. She started sweating and shaking just talking about it. The person doing the demonstration invited the audience to work on something that worried them as he worked with this young woman. So I followed along tapping on the top of my head, the bridge of my nose..... all the while repeating to myself "no more pee shyness." My problem did not resolve itself immediately but has now resolved about 95%. After a few minutes the young woman was able to talk comfortably about flying.
    How this works is unclear but there is a good bit of information about EFT on the internet and many therapists have been trained in it. It could be a worthwhile investment in ridding oneslf of a lifetime nuisance.
    Dave
     
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    I have a simillar problem, but kinda different at the same time. I don't have any problem peeing, at least at first. However, I start to get an erection lol. It doesn't matter if I'm alone or if others around. I guess it's the excitement of being exposed in public (most urinals don't have deviders) but I dont conciously feel excited. I usually just use a stall to avoid odd looks...
     
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    I can tell it's going to be a difficult pee about the time I reach the urinal. If that happens I do a few quick reverse kegels as I'm unzipping. Works for me.
     
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    I imagine myself all alone in the woods. It takes some practise to be able to do it. It has helped me.
     
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    Unfortunately here in the U.S. now, dividers are common. Damn it! :mad:
     
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    First of all, don't freak out and clam up. It's a psychological hurdle that is only as high as you allow. No big deal, right?
    Second, you need a distraction to relax. I focus on my breathing and linear ideas and motion. Take a deep breath and exhale very slowly while focusing your eyes on some linear feature around you. I often focus on a corner of the room or a grout line on the tile. As you slowly exhale, slowly, steadily follow this line with your eyes trying to sync the pace of your eyes and your breath. Believe it will work! Faith is powerful. Before you know it you are peeing. I think that the linear thinking might promote a physiological process that starts the flow. Kinda weird, but it almost always works for me.
     
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