Bathhouse

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  1. chrisandy18

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    Hi guys, have you ever been to any bathhouses to your countries? Bathhouses are places where men go cruising around and have all kinds of sex with each other - it usually has jacuzzi, dark maze rooms and all.

    I went to one yesterday and twas okay. I'm just not that comfortable having the feeling of doing it with random guys. I know I'm crazy. The guy wanted to fuck me but I didn't let him. He kept on inserting it bare for a bit with lube but I'm not really into it. In the end, he fingered me for a few minutes. He really tried to force it in me - I was just so paranoid. I know I shouldn't get myself into these situations but my hormone is just unstoppable. I always end up regretting my actions after I do these kind of stuff. Now I'm thinking what consequence could I have gotten from doing such acts? He also sucked me for a minute I guess and I sucked him since he kept on insisting. We did some kissing but not much tongue action. He didn't cum and I cummed on the wall since the room ran out of tissue paper.

    I hope someone can keep me calm haha. Am I just paranoid? I always try to be safe. I'm hoping I won't get any diseases (stds), hiv from this experience.
     
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    It's stupid to do what you don't want to do! And yes, getting an STD is a very likely possibility in this situation and ones like it.
     
  3. chrisandy18

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    I know. So are you saying that my chances of getting infected are high? considering what I've done. - suck, get sucked, get fingered, kiss. I'm certain he has no cuts/wound in his fingers. no french kissing. No cumming on anyone's mouth.
     
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    Remember, that the place you are having sex has little to do with a person's health status. You could meet a lovely person in an art gallery date them for 3 weeks, have sex in your own home and still find out that a month ago they had unprotected sex with 6 guys at a party. Always play safe and only do what you want to do. Don't feel guilty about saying "no" "stop" or reporting a person that is harrassing you. I met my partner at a bathhouse and we've been together for over 16 years. Sometimes just going to these places to watch and be in a sexual and free atmosphere is fun without actually doing anything or very limited action.
     
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    Well, there's a chance you have an STD... but I wouldn't really worry about HIV... to catch that, you really need to have some blood-blood or blood-sperm contact...

    If you really want to be sure... go to a clinic and get tested!
     
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    If you can't control your hormones, it is best to avoid those situations I think.
     
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    just practice safe sex ALWAYS....get checked out at your local STD
     
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    Be very careful of the STDs. When you are young and your hormone level is raging, you can be blindsided to having unprotected sex.
     
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    You're not paranoid. Someone who is aggressively trying to get unprotected sex in a bathhouse is probably among one of the most dangerous groups for HIV. Although you're probably fine, there's no harm in getting tested. And I agree: Avoid going into bathhouses and similar situations if you can't control the hormones. If they're overwhelming you, just jack off instead.

    This is just me, but I'd also avoid sex with anyone who pressures you into a sex act when you seem uncomfortable with it.
     
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    Really good advice. Some people seem to be more into the moment than staying alive. Unfortunately, if you're a passive type, it is tempting to give in to someone who's dominant, but in this situation it's absolutely essential to stay in charge and NOT to let anyone do something to you that you don't think is safe.

    Something even the safest bathhouse sex can easily give you is crabs, and you might as well just making washing your pubes with one of those keroseney soaps part of your routine.
     
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    Enjoy your youth.
     
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    Thanks all! I actually got tested for HIV 2 weeks ago and result came out as negative. yes, i'm aware of the window period cause I've been to bathhouses months before as well. But usual acts I've done there were just mutual jerk offs and kissing. Guys would always attempt to suck my cock so I'll them away.

    Can you advise what other STDs most likely I could get from these? I'll be refraining myself from going to these bathhouses now and resort to porn in the net from now on.
     
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    congrats. i have never been to one of those before. but have been tempted. but afraid of diseases. so never went. in 99 i worked with a girl whom had a gay roomate with aids and he caught it at a bathouse
     
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    Get vaccinated against HPV (Gardasil) in order to prevent genital warts and possibly tumors of viral origin in the anogenital and oral region.
     
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    I have been to several bathhouses in EU and in the US and I am appalled by the irresponsible behavior you find in US bathhousees compared to the old continent. No wonder HIV spread so much there. Safe sex is the standard here and bathhouses do not save on condoms and lube.
     
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    I've been to bathhouses many times. they can be intimidating but there is a general rule of conduct that is usually respected by all members. No means No. You will get some guys that are hot on the trail of fresh young twinks, who think persistence pays off. Who knows, perhaps it does but it's your call. You are in control of what you do there.

    I'm fully aware of the risky behaviors that go on there and choose not to participate in them. I go, I watch, I play, and when I'm ready to go home, I usually very quietly, sometimes with, sometimes without assistance, get myself off and leave. I laughingly call my activities 'learning by the braille method'... where allowed I enjoy handling others packages. It's amazing how may different dick and balls textures and sizes there are out there. I keep it harmless fun and respect even the slightest indication of a lack of interest emanating from the other person. If so, I move on. The same occurs in reverse. Not everyone is my cup of tea. Sometimes age is an issue, and sometimes not.

    I've never felt the slightest pressure to give into some someone's advances and have no issues brushing away unwanted interest from others. I do it in a most respectful manner and 99.9% of the guys respect the communication.

    Whatever you do, no matter how cute, butch, good looking, studly or whatever adjective you care to use, NEVER, NEVER let someone penetrate you without protection now matter how "harmless" they make it seem. It takes only one penetration to give you HPV or genital warts, and only takes the slightest amount of semen to give you HIV. Why stress yourself out for the rest of your life over one seemingly "hot" guy.

    Enjoy, but BE SAFE and SMART about it.
     
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    chrisandy- Hope our talk on yahoo last night helped. You are right to worry about it, but worrying about it as much as you are is not healthy either. Just don't do it again and play safe always. :)
     
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    ... but not so much you don't get to enjoy your old age.
     
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    "Whatever you do, no matter how cute, butch, good looking, studly or whatever adjective you care to use, NEVER, NEVER let someone penetrate you without protection now matter how "harmless" they make it seem. It takes only one penetration to give you HPV or genital warts, and only takes the slightest amount of semen to give you HIV. Why stress yourself out for the rest of your life over one seemingly "hot" guy."

    I'm not sure the OP questions were ever really answered, and the above is partial, but what I'd like to know is this:

    1- What am I risking with letting a guy perform oral on me?
    2- What am I risking with performing oral on a guy?

    The quote above says that HPV can be given thru penetration, but what about thru oral either giving or receiving? And what about herpes as well? Does there have to be sores on the guys penis to pass it on? What if he has a sore on/in his mouth?

    Thanks. Sorry for hyjacking the thread.
     
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    you should always use a condom
     
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