rainfletcher: fourdeg,
Hello, my name is Rain, and I've posted pretty extensively on the problems your boyfriend is having. Click on my name and then read through my posts.
I tried to measure to my belly button and see how long that was to try and get a gauge for your boyfriends size. I'm 5'8"ish and I think it's about 7" to my belly button, which maybe makes him about the same size as me, maybe a little bigger. So let me reassure you that you should be able to take him.
The problem, I'm sure, is more in his attitude towards sex. God, can I relate to this! As I said, read through my posts and you'll get a better sense for that.
So first, you sound like an incredible woman for posting this question and wanting to help your boyfriend, and in that respect, you sound very much like my girlfriend. What she did for me, was to tell me ALL THE TIME that my cock was beautiful, the most beautiful cock in the world. ANd the way she said it, I reallybelieved her. She'd talk about the pronounced ridge around my head and how much she loved it, how she loves the feel, the texture, the smell, the taste, the shape....you get the idea. The point was to get me to the opitn where I was comfortable with my dick, and that there was nothing wrong with it.
Then, you have to let him know that sex is not a bad thing...initially, this will mean alot of attention on your part - give him head for long periods, stroke and play with him (all the whilel telling him how beautiful it all is). For my girlflriend, this stuff is also arousing for her, so it helped get her ready too. Slowly, he should come around to seeing what a beautiful thing sex really is.
I could probably go on for pages, but I hope you get the gist of my perspective. If you need additional adivice or help, please feel free to PM me.
Good luck!
Rain