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I'm 6'3", 260 lbs, and I'm 32 years old. I spent so many years wishing I was thinner, more muscular, basically wishing I looked like a porn star (don't we all). As I've gotten older though, I'm trying to love myself more and be more comfortable in my own skin.

As such, I've decided I want to try to embrace bear culture. Any fellas on here have any tips, pointers, suggestions, etc. to help introduce me into the culture?
 
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I used to be part of the "bear culture" or "bear scene" but it's really become so mainstream and awful, i like big guys, i like masculine men... not chubby hairy guys who are super super effeminate... and not into the scene at all anymore, however it is a friendly community for people... and you are more likely to meet somebody possibly. Go to a bear event, or party... see what happens
 

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I got into the bear community with my ex, he was super hairy and into other hairy guys. I have some body hair, definitely wish I had more hair. I went to a few bear events in the area and met a lot of really nice guys. I also recommend going to a bear event and get a feel of the other bears in your area. Hopefully you can meet some nice guys.
 

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Yeah, just be yourself. There's a lot of toxicity in some aspects of the organized "bear scene" so while I generally identify as a bear, I try to stay on the outskirts of the "scene." Especially the bears who are only into whatever type they're into and will be downright nasty to anyone not fitting that profile.

That said, there are plenty of events that are great and you can take advantage of them as venues for finding people who will find your body type attractive. Events like Texas Bear Round-Up, Provincetown Bear Week, Lazy Bear in Guerneville CA, Bear Week in Sitges Spain, and even Bears on Ice in Reykjavik Iceland. And there's always a strong bear contingent at Southern Decadence (the "Decadent Ducks" group takes over a hotel in the French Quarter and the rooftop pool has been described as "bear soup"... don't be fooled by the "ducks" name, it's bears.)
 
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