Because i'm on lpsg i have no right to complain about being sent an unsolicited dick pic

[Wave85]

Honey, just because I am an exhibitionist doesn't mean I come here looking for cock pictures.

Not to sound arrogant, but I've been here long enough to have a following. When I update my gallery I do it for men and women too. There are some bi women here who like to look at me. There are straight women who like to ogle Mr Rouge so I put photos up for them and gay/bi men alike who enjoy seeing my husband.

My pictures on here in no way ask for nude photos in return. I'm simply contributing to the eye candy. But I've never messaged someone male or female to show them my photos unsolicited, even if I think they might respond kindly.

And those of us who like to exhibit and look are very appreciative of and respect that. Thanks for all the help today TG.

 

[rtg]

Well at least we got an effective case study to look at while the thread was going on to prove that this is in fact an issue haha

 

[EndowedDave87]

Sadly guys get harassed on here too. It's amazing the amount of hostility I've seen just because I tell someone I'm straight. Shows a lot about who those people really are...

 

[rtg]

Sadly guys get harassed on here too. It's amazing the amount of hostility I've seen just because I tell someone I'm straight. Shows a lot about who those people really are...

I definitely empathise wit a lot guys too who experience this. I know there's a lot of guys who claim to be straight here but clearly aren't... so then perhaps some men think that all guys (regardless of what they have down as their sexual preference) want to ogle over their dick. I'm not at all excusing this behaviour or downplaying what you're saying.... I guess I'm just trying to understand why guys would think straight guys would entertain that sort of thing. And I'm sure there's even plenty of guys who aren't straight who don't want to receive unsolicited dick pics! We are all human after all (although, some more than others ).

 

[EndowedDave87]

I definitely empathise wit a lot guys too who experience this. I know there's a lot of guys who claim to be straight here but clearly aren't... so then perhaps some men think that all guys (regardless of what they have down as their sexual preference) want to ogle over their dick. I'm not at all excusing this behaviour or downplaying what you're saying.... I guess I'm just trying to understand why guys would think straight guys would entertain that sort of thing. And I'm sure there's even plenty of guys who aren't straight who don't want to receive unsolicited dick pics! We are all human after all (although, some more than others ).

I think you nailed part of the problem exactly. At least on this site the term straight has lost a lot of meaning. If I tell someone I'm straight I expect them to respect that and back off. Unfortunately, I can't tell you how many times I've had people try to argue with me about what that means or tell me that it's "ok" even if I am straight. A lot of people get all upset about "labels", but we have a language with words that actually have definitions for a reason. I'm not labeling myself or anyone else if I say I'm straight, it's a descriptive term that should obviously mean I'm not interested in other guys at all on any level. I shouldn't have to explain why I'm not interested, saying straight should be enough.

Obviously women have dealt with much more harassment than men in this world, but it's fascinating when the shoe is on the other foot. It's not ok to harass anyone from either sex, but sadly it shows just how many people are assholes.

 

[rtg]

I think you nailed part of the problem exactly. At least on this site the term straight has lost a lot of meaning. If I tell someone I'm straight I expect them to respect that and back off. Unfortunately, I can't tell you how many times I've had people try to argue with me about what that means or tell me that it's "ok" even if I am straight. A lot of people get all upset about "labels", but we have a language with words that actually have definitions for a reason. I'm not labeling myself or anyone else if I say I'm straight, it's a descriptive term that should obviously mean I'm not interested in other guys at all on any level. I shouldn't have to explain why I'm not interested, saying straight should be enough.

Obviously women have dealt with much more harassment than men in this world, but it's fascinating when the shoe is on the other foot. It's not ok to harass anyone from either sex, but sadly it shows just how many people are assholes.

Totally agree with you. And if I was on a vagina site I certainly wouldn't want other women sending me photos of their vaginas or breasts!

The internet is big enough, and we are all smart enough, to find whatever we want to see on our own terms. No one should dictate to anyone what we choose to see and then tell us we have no right to say that we don't want to see it. I think there's just a lot of people who live in some sad internet world where they think that porn is real life and everyone wants to be bukaki'd and slapped in the face with a dick

 

[EndowedDave87]

Totally agree with you. And if I was on a vagina site I certainly wouldn't want other women sending me photos of their vaginas or breasts!

The internet is big enough, and we are all smart enough, to find whatever we want to see on our own terms. No one should dictate to anyone what we choose to see and then tell us we have no right to say that we don't want to see it. I think there's just a lot of people who live in some sad internet world where they think that porn is real life and everyone wants to be bukaki'd and slapped in the face with a dick

I might argue about everyone being smart enough...

 

[rtg]

I might argue about everyone being smart enough...

Haha... okay everyone should be smart enough

 

[Snakebyte]

Sadly guys get harassed on here too. It's amazing the amount of hostility I've seen just because I tell someone I'm straight. Shows a lot about who those people really are...

What actually helped me in getting no weird messages anymore was deleting any info on my location, gender and sexual preference. Since that day silence from weirdos.

 

[185248]

It's the internet....

Deletter, Depicture, Deplane

 

[AlteredEgo]

What actually helped me in getting no weird messages anymore was deleting any info on my location, gender and sexual preference. Since that day silence from weirdos.

I haven't had silence since doing the same, but I seldom get more than one or two unwanted pricks a year, and maybe two strangelings who write to me but aren't actually saying anything. With the former, I tell them not to send that kind of thing to me. With the latter, I give them a few chances to come out of their shells and spit out whatever it is on their minds, but if by the 4th message exchange they are still on boring, artless small talk I stop responding. I do feel like if you're the one initiating contact, and I have no idea who you are from any kind of previos interactions at all, it is up to you to establish an agenda and tone for the conversation.

It's the internet....

Deletter, Depicture, Deplane

Why are you being dismissive? Do you think those of us who complain about this don't know how to do those things? Personally, I don't dismiss repeated patterns of shitty behavior. That's not how progress is made.

 

[Snakebyte]

I haven't had silence since doing the same, but I seldom get more than one or two unwanted pricks a year, and maybe two strangelings who write to me but aren't actually saying anything. With the former, I tell them not to send that kind of thing to me. With the latter, I give them a few chances to come out of their shells and spit out whatever it is on their minds, but if by the 4th message exchange they are still on boring, artless small talk I stop responding. I do feel like if you're the one initiating contact, and I have no idea who you are from any kind of previos interactions at all, it is up to you to establish an agenda and tone for the conversation.

Maybe straight guys hav.. uh... are bigger dicks in general (excluding the subject at hand). Or just way more desperate. Anyways lots of guys not only have dicks but are such.


(Of course the logic answer is that there are only few women here to target)

 

[185248]

I'm not being dismissive of personal interaction. I met my love who I have been with for the past 10 years online. When we met for the first time over a couple of drinks, she casually mentioned upon us leaving she had a hood piercing.

Now, if I wished to, or wanted to I could have just deleted that from my mind and moved on. But, because I had met her, we sat and chatted for hours, circumstances and body language became more to the fore.

It just so happened we had a connection on other levels.

If someone wished on the other hand just to send photos of cock or vagina, and that would seem the sole purpose of their communication, then don't answer, move on, if someone wishes to know you, they will make the attempt to actually know you.

I often get accused of, stupidity, dumbfuckery and having a bar set to high.

What a lot of people do not see, and the majority of the time I do not allow myself to show it, is my depth, my honesty and my stupid at times ( and I curse ) conscience which for some reason I have inherited from somewhere which steers my life.

I have become comfortable in the years getting to know me.

I am dismissive of the internet because it has drifted from a place of enjoyment and knowledge sharing, to a place of opinion. It allows everyone to express an opinion, without really knowing everyone else.

This might droll on a bit, but....My first wife used to work in Data, when the first computers punched holes in cards for your personal information to be stored. Before credit cards, bank cards or ID.

These days, people think it is all new..that they can enter the internet and it's all hush, hush .

The only true interaction is going to be between individuals. I am dismissive of the aura of the almighty internet to control lives. Because it knows all anyway, it was uploaded from previous technology.

If you do not want an identity on the internet to influence your life, you delete them. If you feel there is something there, you meet them.

Body language has always been my clincher.

No, I am not dismissive, nor am I that liberally permissive either. Well, I like the odd, the different, the kinky and unusual. But, it's one of those things I have come to accept about myself, anyone who does not like it. Tough.

 

[Sangana]

I would only do it if i were much much bigger

 

[TexanStar]

I would only do it if i were much much bigger

There's always that one...

 

[C41ara]

Wow, I miss one day here and I find 10 more pages of this thread, I wanna say congratulations to the ones who have the patience to answer everytime to that guy to try to bring this issue on topic

 

[AlteredEgo]

I'm not being dismissive of personal interaction. I met my love who I have been with for the past 10 years online. When we met for the first time over a couple of drinks, she casually mentioned upon us leaving she had a hood piercing.

Now, if I wished to, or wanted to I could have just deleted that from my mind and moved on. But, because I had met her, we sat and chatted for hours, circumstances and body language became more to the fore.

It just so happened we had a connection on other levels.

If someone wished on the other hand just to send photos of cock or vagina, and that would seem the sole purpose of their communication, then don't answer, move on, if someone wishes to know you, they will make the attempt to actually know you.

I often get accused of, stupidity, dumbfuckery and having a bar set to high.

What a lot of people do not see, and the majority of the time I do not allow myself to show it, is my depth, my honesty and my stupid at times ( and I curse ) conscience which for some reason I have inherited from somewhere which steers my life.

I have become comfortable in the years getting to know me.

I am dismissive of the internet because it has drifted from a place of enjoyment and knowledge sharing, to a place of opinion. It allows everyone to express an opinion, without really knowing everyone else.

This might droll on a bit, but....My first wife used to work in Data, when the first computers punched holes in cards for your personal information to be stored. Before credit cards, bank cards or ID.

These days, people think it is all new..that they can enter the internet and it's all hush, hush .

The only true interaction is going to be between individuals. I am dismissive of the aura of the almighty internet to control lives. Because it knows all anyway, it was uploaded from previous technology.

If you do not want an identity on the internet to influence your life, you delete them. If you feel there is something there, you meet them.

Body language has always been my clincher.

No, I am not dismissive, nor am I that liberally permissive either. Well, I like the odd, the different, the kinky and unusual. But, it's one of those things I have come to accept about myself, anyone who does not like it. Tough.

The thread is about women being told they are not allowed to complain about unsolicited photos of penises because of their participation here. None of the women posting in this thread are new to LPSG nor the Internet. So, your entry, 14 pages in, that those interactions should just be deleted and waved off is absolutely dismissive. Dismissive is exactly the right descriptor of your behavior. Patronizing comes to mind too. Again you post instructions on how to react. No one here needs help reacting. The topic at hand is not what to do after some asshole has behaved badly, but the fact that women here are not seen as valid, autonomous, adult entities, entitled to their own agendas and a sense of personal space. So, when faced with aggregious breaches in etiquette, said women are told they deserve and should expect to be treated like they owe the exhibitionists their attention. Not one thing you've said is relevant to that point, other than to be just one more dismissive voice in the chorus, ironically demonstrating precisely the point of the conversation. You're above that. More is expected of you.

 

[185248]

The thread is about women being told they are not allowed to complain about unsolicited photos of penises because of their participation here. None of the women posting in this thread are new to LPSG nor the Internet. So, your entry, 14 pages in, that those interactions should just be deleted and waved off is absolutely dismissive. Dismissive is exactly the right descriptor of your behavior. Patronizing comes to mind too. Again you post instructions on how to react. No one here needs help reacting. The topic at hand is not what to do after some asshole has behaved badly, but the fact that women here are not seen as valid, autonomous, adult entities, entitled to their own agendas and a sense of personal space. So, when faced with aggregious breaches in etiquette, said women are told they deserve and should expect to be treated like they owe the exhibitionists their attention. Not one thing you've said is relevant to that point, other than to be just one more dismissive voice in the chorus, ironically demonstrating precisely the point of the conversation. You're above that. More is expected of you.

I post opinions here, agreeing, disagreeing, expressing. It's one of the reasons I do not visit chartrooms.

This is the original post....

"I actually feel sad for men that believe that because a woman is on a big dick site that it's free reign to send them dick pics. I just had some guy message me and when I told him I actually would have spoken to him if he didn't send the dick pic, he tries to justify it by being horny. Then when I disagree apparently there is something wrong with me and I have a big head. Oh and also no sane man would want me because I'm on a big dick site... which is why I'm alone.

How fucking sad. So many sad, clueless men in one place. But the decent guys on here make up for it"

Why feel sad? Why feel "" fucking sad" ? Apparently the guy says "there is something wrong with her".

I am not being dismissive of rtg's post, I am being dismissive of his reply online, text comments.

I can't control what she reads, writes, looks at or does not want to look at. I never would want to.

If she feels it interferes in her life, there is nothing I can do with that either. Other than to say...delete it.

I can't wave a magic wand and delete online dickheads in the world........I may disappear myself ( not for dick pics)

It's a discussion topic. rtg is feeling sad being sent dick pics. I don't know what would make rtg happy? Maybe she has mentioned that, but it's late, and I really do not have enough sleep up my sleeve to miss any more.

 

[TexanStar]

I post opinions here, agreeing, disagreeing, expressing. It's one of the reasons I do not visit chartrooms.

This is the original post....

"I actually feel sad for men that believe that because a woman is on a big dick site that it's free reign to send them dick pics. I just had some guy message me and when I told him I actually would have spoken to him if he didn't send the dick pic, he tries to justify it by being horny. Then when I disagree apparently there is something wrong with me and I have a big head. Oh and also no sane man would want me because I'm on a big dick site... which is why I'm alone.

How fucking sad. So many sad, clueless men in one place. But the decent guys on here make up for it"

Why feel sad? Why feel "" fucking sad" ? Apparently the guy says "there is something wrong with her".

I am not being dismissive of rtg's post, I am being dismissive of his reply online, text comments.

I can't control what she reads, writes, looks at or does not want to look at. I never would want to.

If she feels it interferes in her life, there is nothing I can do with that either. Other than to say...delete it.

I can't wave a magic wand and delete online dickheads in the world........I may disappear myself ( not for dick pics)

It's a discussion topic. rtg is feeling sad being sent dick pics. I don't know what would make rtg happy? Maybe she has mentioned that, but it's late, and I really do not have enough sleep up my sleeve to miss any more.

She said she feels sad for those men, i.e., they are pathetic.

Like how did it hit the point where so many men feel like that's a good way to interact with women. It's not one or two random crazy guys, but there's seemingly limitless supplies of guys who labor under the impression that such behavior will be well received.

 

[rtg]

Why feel sad? Why feel "" fucking sad" ? Apparently the guy says "there is something wrong with her".

I am not being dismissive of rtg's post, I am being dismissive of his reply online, text comments.

Because men who act this way towards women are sad fucks, that's why. It is not normal behaviour and they clearly need help.

It still sounds exactly like you are being dismissive of my post.

I can't control what she reads, writes, looks at or does not want to look at. I never would want to.

If she feels it interferes in her life, there is nothing I can do with that either. Other than to say...delete it.

I can't wave a magic wand and delete online dickheads in the world........I may disappear myself ( not for dick pics)

No body asked you to control what I read or to solve the problem for me. Since this was posted in the women's issues forum, it was quite clearly aimed at discussing this with other women; of which you are not one.

You seem to be having trouble understanding that the key point of this thread is not actually receiving the dick pics, it's how some men act towards women after we tell them that said picture was unwanted.

It's a discussion topic. rtg is feeling sad being sent dick pics. I don't know what would make rtg happy?

Ok this would make me happy:
1. To not receive genital photos (or any photos for that matter) that I did not ask to be sent to me.
2. To not be sent abusive messages after telling men that I do not wish to be sent a photo of their penis.
3. For some men to stop posting nonsense in women's issues... like you are doing.
4. For some men to stop believing that items 1 and 2 is acceptable behaviour.
5. If people don't understand the issue at hand, or can't relate to it, then for such people to just walk away and not post dismissive comments in my thread.