Becoming bored with people

[Almost40]

I see nothing wrong in this. I hate the nonsense that surrounds the crowds... Let's say I prefer going to the beach without my friends, who sometimes want to show off or see others and comment on their bodies or attitude. I hate that. When i am by myself everything is the way i like it and i dont need to expalin myself. At the same time, if i want to be surrounded by people that are on the same page, then i go for that as well. Let's the Venice Sunday drum circle, or some of the Skid Row underground warehouse raves are some of my favourite social moments just because there is no posing and no "must do's". But there is nothing wrong with keeping everything to yourself. As long as you dont harm anyone, including yourself, then it's absolutely fine to stay away from any rubbish that spoils your mood.

 

[johnny989]

I found myself in a similar situation a year or so ago - at one point I just realised how none of my friends actually fulfill me, hanging out with them is just plain boring me to the tears, or worse, some of them are simply too dumb and annoying.
That was a sign to me, and actually something I've given a lot of thought recently - I simply need new people around me.
I don't want to spend my time with someone whose company is not interesting enough so I just broke contact with most people I know mandatory - from school, neighborhood, simply because we were born in a certain year or live in a certain street doesnt mean we will ever have something to talk about. enough is enough.
Now I feel much better instead of exhausted from boring conversations...

 

[Auggiecakes]

Well, it's on your mind enough to discuss and it's not your typical behavior so as @Zyz suggests speak with a professional. I know it may not be for all, but it's worth trying.

Many here have tons of insight. We all hopefully benefit from it. Just don't let this go on too long unless you've decided this is what you've grown into. You may feel it's just fine. And that's that, of course. At the moment you're questioning this change.

It's not an answer, but I'm interested in your thoughts as I have them, too.

I feel better knowing i'm not the only one who is tired of people in general. i'm not pushing people away, i just simply pick and choose who i want in my life. relationships should feel like a job.

Now I feel much better instead of exhausted from boring conversations...

yup. i need thoughtful stimulation for anyone to keep my interest and attention.

 

[deleted15807]

My own father followed the hermit path and it became a downward spiral that he couldn't pull out of. As his comfort zone narrowed, he shut out the world (even family) from his life. He died a recluse - lonely and alone.

Funny thing happens though. When you get old and sick people drift away either because they die or because they are too old to get around. And the longer you are one or the other or both the more people you find have vanished.

"In the end you die in your own arms.."

 

[Phil Ayesho]

social media and your smartphone is allowing you to interact with people at a distance, without the hassle of having to go places, divide up checks, try and plan some event, spend money, out deal with their emotional neediness.

Like all of us, you are becoming more remote and isolated and yet able to have just the amount of impersonal human contact that can satisfy your core needs.

Relationships are getting harder. people are training themselves to just turn their phone face down when they don't want to engage. Its become soo easy to ignore an incoming text or email, to Not answer a phone call.


Here's an idea for a killer app of the future. An app that keeps track of all your online activity, so that when you keel over dead, all alone in your lonely little apartment, the app will realize that you must have died and call for the coroner before your neighbors start to complain about the smell.