Hey guys. I'm a dude in his late 20s in a long term relationship facing a major change in said relationship. We moved to a new city living apart. We used to live with each other, now in a new city living in diff apartments.
Well during time living together I became very dependant on my partner, which was fine at the time cos it was mutual and the needs were satisfied.
Now my partner has serious career commitments, I'm taking a back seat in order to support them.
What I've realised is that without this person, I don't have much and if they broke up with me, I would be in a deep, deep hole. A life in really do not want to live.
Recently, we've had moments where we've both broke down crying because she feels she can't satisfy me and I feel like she's slipping away so early in our new chapter of life in this new city.
Right now, I'm holding this terrible pain and trying not to smother my partner during this holidays as we're away from each other. I don't want too drive her away but it's hard right now. I can't talk to family and I don't want to bother my friends. Usually she's my rock and I'm hers but I don't want to be a nuisance to her.
The depression is excruciating and I'm here suffering in silence....even though I know what I have to do to help our relationship. I need to be more emotionally independent and find happiness within myself outside the relationship.
But still these quiet holiday nights make me feel so lonely and in pain. I don't know how to cope at the moment....
Hoping to let this out to you wonderful people. In the hope that maybe you could help me and I can stop myself from slipping deeper.
Thank you and I wish you all a lovely Christmas and New Years.
Well during time living together I became very dependant on my partner, which was fine at the time cos it was mutual and the needs were satisfied.
Now my partner has serious career commitments, I'm taking a back seat in order to support them.
What I've realised is that without this person, I don't have much and if they broke up with me, I would be in a deep, deep hole. A life in really do not want to live.
Recently, we've had moments where we've both broke down crying because she feels she can't satisfy me and I feel like she's slipping away so early in our new chapter of life in this new city.
Right now, I'm holding this terrible pain and trying not to smother my partner during this holidays as we're away from each other. I don't want too drive her away but it's hard right now. I can't talk to family and I don't want to bother my friends. Usually she's my rock and I'm hers but I don't want to be a nuisance to her.
The depression is excruciating and I'm here suffering in silence....even though I know what I have to do to help our relationship. I need to be more emotionally independent and find happiness within myself outside the relationship.
But still these quiet holiday nights make me feel so lonely and in pain. I don't know how to cope at the moment....
Hoping to let this out to you wonderful people. In the hope that maybe you could help me and I can stop myself from slipping deeper.
Thank you and I wish you all a lovely Christmas and New Years.