In Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In, she writes the following:
"Women are also more reluctant to apply for promotions even when deserved, often believing that good job performance will naturally lead to rewards. Carol Frohlinger and Deborah Kolb, founders of Negotiating Women, In., describe this as "Tiara Syndrome," where women "expect that if they keep doing their job well someone will notice them and place a tiara on their head." In a perfect meritocracy, tiaras would be doled out to the deserving, but I have yet to see one floating around an office. Hard work should be recognized by others, but when they aren't, advocating for oneself becomes necessary."
So, my question is, do you advocate for yourself? Professionally: Are you requesting appropriate compensation for the value of your labor and promotions when deserved? Personally: Are you with or seeking a mate who will partner with you to succeed in your endeavors?
Has advocating for yourself been fraught with difficulty or easy? For all who feel comfortable in the role, what event(s) influenced you to begin acting on your own behalf?
"Women are also more reluctant to apply for promotions even when deserved, often believing that good job performance will naturally lead to rewards. Carol Frohlinger and Deborah Kolb, founders of Negotiating Women, In., describe this as "Tiara Syndrome," where women "expect that if they keep doing their job well someone will notice them and place a tiara on their head." In a perfect meritocracy, tiaras would be doled out to the deserving, but I have yet to see one floating around an office. Hard work should be recognized by others, but when they aren't, advocating for oneself becomes necessary."
So, my question is, do you advocate for yourself? Professionally: Are you requesting appropriate compensation for the value of your labor and promotions when deserved? Personally: Are you with or seeking a mate who will partner with you to succeed in your endeavors?
Has advocating for yourself been fraught with difficulty or easy? For all who feel comfortable in the role, what event(s) influenced you to begin acting on your own behalf?