Being 50 % gay because i'm normal size?

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  1. SR_realpat

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    Okay hi everyone,
    So if you read my profile, you know that i'm bisexual ( or i think so since i'm still a virgin) but lately i was thinking about it, and just conclude that that probably that gay side was more me being insecure about myself ( cause i don't feel good enough for a lot of thing) and lacking confidence in me. (Not entirely, but a part of it i think).
    Moreover being normal here ( not big, but not small too) do not help to give me extra confidence, i'm wondering if i simply don't want a guy to "have" what i can't myself ( maybe not but i wonder) cause surely my dick won't frow 4 inches in the next month ( except if i'm a really late bloomer).
    So if anybody has any advice?
    I'm sure hung guy have problem with self esteem too and some small guy must have over confidence, but i don't know, i cannot seem to reason myself -__-.
     
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    From what I can see you're a good looking guy and have a nice body too. Some guys are small, some average, some big, and some large/xlarge in the penis department. I wouldn't let it stop you from being your total true self if it makes you happy and it's yourself. You were born with whatever you have man so enjoy it while you can.

    *you got a helluva cute ass too!*
     
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    Virgin or not, confident or not, hung or not, hairy or not, tall or not, philanthropist or not- your sexual balance or declaration should come from who turns you on. If it's only opposite gender then you are hetero. If it's only same gender, then you're homosexual, if neither does a thing for you, then you may well be asexual, if both set your motor running, then you are bisexual.
     
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    You are seriously over-thinking this whole thing, mon ami. There is no correlation between penis size and sexual orientation, and there's much less between penis size and confidence than you might imagine.

    As someone who is physically attracted to smaller-hung equipment and very confident men in the same package, I've known many very confident gay men who are perfectly content with whatever size of small or average their penises happen to be.

    Maybe it's time to shed some inhibitions and do some exploring. In my experience, the French are second only to Brazilians in the sexiness sweepstakes.
     
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    :shrug: i think if you didn't question all aspects of why, then you would never come to a personal conclusion that's right for you about your sexual identity.

    you don't need anyone else's advice on this. explore the reasons you think you might be feeling the way you are. it's healthy, and in the long run only positive things will come of it.
     
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    Perhaps I misunderstood your post, but your penis size should have nothing to do with your sexuality. Do you think that all women want big pornstar cocks? Because that is just NOT true. If you are genuinely bi-curious that's cool but I really don't see what that has to do with the size of your penis.
     
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    I really don't know, maybe i'm just wondering about myself too much. I think i'm really bisexual, ie can be attracted by the two genders.
    I don't know why i'm asking myself that, at my age, lol i'm nearly 20.
    Is it possible that i have not finished my puberty and it is just hormonal things? Cause i never asked myself those type of questions before...
     
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    Nearly 20 huh? Odd considering your profile claims you're 21 already. Is this a French thing?


    Now back to the sexuality, if you are attracted to male and female, then embrace it as what you like. Being bisexual isn't the end of the world, in fact it gives you a wider field to play upon. One reason people have difficulty using the term bisexual is that it has yet to become a standard part of the vocabulary. You can be heterosexual and people are fine with that. Many are even fine with people being homosexual. Yet when it comes to bisexuality people become confused. They can't seem to wrap their head around the idea of a man or woman being stimulated from both sides of the track.
     
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    Hum, i already say i mess my birthday date when i subscribe because i did not wanted to be known at that time, i'm 19 years old, 20 in 4 monthes.
    I think i'm attract to male and female, what i hope is i'm not attract to man because of a lack of confidence into me as far as my sexual side is concerned.
     
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    Just go with it and try not to over-analyze the "why". Rest assured if even partially gay, there are guys out there who will go crazy over your cute, furry ass. :yup:
     
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    Do you have friends? Are they concerned with these issues or do they just want to hang out and have fun? I think you should just have fun, make friends, and limit your time on sites like this that can give you "information-overload." You are at the age to have fun. Attractions to opposite and same sex are very, very common at your age but may mean nothing. If something (sex) happens you will then know a little more about yourself but probably not everything! In other words, I think you are overly-concerned. This is not a matter of life or death. It is a process. A process that requires you have experience. Experience that comes through just being yourself and having fun.
    Relax and have fun.
    :smile:
     
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    Yeah i have friends, but being in first year of medecine ( hardest in france) i do not have time to go out and have fun, so maybe i'm overthinking it, i dunno.
    Maybe that's just the though of something i won't be able to have, i'm used to it, that makes me mad.
     
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    I think it is less likely to be your confidence issues driving your sexual orientation, possibly more your orientation driving your lack of confidence especially if you are not fully comfortable with yourself.

    From the pics in your gallery its plain to see that you are a good looking guy with a good enough body (love that butt) and that ANY girl or guy that gets to know you should have zero issues with the physical part of you, so, if you have a good personality to match (and i think you do) then your confidence will sort itself out when you meet someone to have an intimate relationship with.

    You are one sexy frenchman, i wish i was born the other side of the English Channel! :)
     
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    Don't you still have the Eurostar? Be there in a flash. Well, Paris, anyway.
     
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    You'll figure it out before you are thirty. I did. :smile:
     
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    If being insecure about your cock size made a man bi, there'd be a lot more bi guys in the world and a lot of happy gay guys.
     
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    i know what you mean though man. i only started thinking big dicks were hot in porn after i realized i was barely average. if it affects your performance, then you are gonna not get as hard, and be even SMALLER! which sucks. jelque, pump. they both fix that problem. and in combination (over a looooong ass time) they may even get you an inch or so.
     
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    Yeah man, if it makes you feel better I totally understand what you mean. I'm ridiculously insecure about myself too (especially dick size). Part of me wishes that I was gay. Gay guys seem to appreciate you more for whatever reason and they seem less concerned with cock size, hence less reason for you or I to be insecure. Just do whatever feels good to you and hopefully you'll be able to work through it.
     
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    Don't think toomuch about, and don't label yourself...not yet at least. 20 years old, you should be experiencing what you think you like, then if you don't like it, well then you know not to go there again. As far as confidence, it has nothing to do with penis size, unless you wanna be a straight porn star. I'm very confident in my sexual abilities and I am average in cock size.
     
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    Yeah maybe it's just hormone speaking and making me feeling a little depress, i don't know.
    Btw thanks for all the answer there :)
     
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