Being a Friends Caretaker

[helgaleena]

Sorry, but this one seems like it should be in Fictitious Stories or at best some type of fantasy. The kid's best friend is involved in a terrible accident and the first thing he thinks of is that he needs to jack the guy off? Come on! IF the friend was so seriously injured that he would require Home Health and hospital beds etc, where are his parents? He is 20! No way would I let another 20 year old guy be the sole caretaker of my son. Slip this one in another thread cause it smacks of fantasy instead of truth.

Read the OP's first post, heartless...

 

[likes2seemore]

Some time ago,a casual friend[work friend] had a surguy and ended up contracting gerome barret [spelled wrong] syndrome. this left him paralized from the neck down with only very limited use of his arms and no use of his hands.He had no family,close friends,children,no one to take care of him.When he came home from the hospital,he was totally helpless.I felt human compassion for him and started taking care of him.I have to tell you,it was the hardest thing i've ever done in my life.through bouts of depressions/crying spells,constipation,dihirea,and other accidents ,I can tell you sex is the last thing on any ones mind!I can't wipe your rear and jack you off at the same time...the smell of poop and puke kills the mood.Oh,it took 3 months to get public assistance to get him a nurse...who needs health care reform?!!

 

[Gillette]

His penis is going to be fine, at worst he'll have nocturnal emissions.

Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner.

In the grand scheme of things ejaculation isn't likely to be a high priority for him.

If you think he'll die without release and you want to be a bud get a hooker to blow him.

 

[billyporn]

As someone who has had to do this for a friend, I assure you there is nothing sexual about it, including the showering since you'll be fully clothed. As someone pointed out they are going to be very embarrassed, at least initially. Imagine not being able to do the most basic things in life anymore (bathing, eating, using the bathroom) and having your friend, family member or a paid assistant do that for you. It's something they will get over.

You are both straight (according to your profile and the description of your friend) so I wouldn't imagine the showering would cause anything besides a natural variation in dick blood flow. If he gets wood from you washing his dick then see where he goes. If he ignores it. Ignore it. If he apologizes for it, tell him not to worry about it and that warm water and a little friction would do that to anyone. If he has a look of horror on his face, same advice as the last situation. He is going to be most uncomfortable, do what you can to put him at ease.

Before you actually have to do this for someone you think you can't do it. You will be able to and you will get used to having to do it. In the end, unless either of you are total assholes at heart (which I can't imagine someone being willing to do this being) you will really bond through the experience.

 

[007Member]

Sorry, but this one seems like it should be in Fictitious Stories or at best some type of fantasy. The kid's best friend is involved in a terrible accident and the first thing he thinks of is that he needs to jack the guy off? Come on! IF the friend was so seriously injured that he would require Home Health and hospital beds etc, where are his parents? He is 20! No way would I let another 20 year old guy be the sole caretaker of my son. Slip this one in another thread cause it smacks of fantasy instead of truth.

Well at the rate that people post good helpful information I figured it would take a while to get some good stable advice. But to answer your all too quick to remember self..... His parents are normal middle class people that have to work for a living in New York. And as a friend and I offered for him to live with me until he's back up and go'n.

The doctors say that his healing time will be long but that doesn't mean he's not the same guy i know just because he had a bad day. He's gonna be sore but come on,... WE"RE guys and let me challenge you to NOTHING sexual for over 8 weeks and let me know how it goes.

Also I think someone had pointed out that we're 20... what about college..
He's still in college and I'm going online but have already retired when I was 19... THANK YOU for those late night college inventions.

 

[Gowheels]

I am the best guy here for some advice on this subject. I am a spinal cord injured quadriplegic. I have been disabled for 28 years. I get lots of erections and I have sexual function, but I can't jerk myself off. I have caregivers that help me with dressing, shower and bathroom. I have had a couple of them offer to help me out in getting off but they just were not the right person to do that for me. No chemistry for that. I let a good looking str8 guy jerk me once and afterward things were uncomfortable. I wanted it more and he felt that it would be too gay for him. So you should be cautious so you don't ruin your friendship. I did have a helper once that became my best friend, partner and lover. We were together for 11 years until a DRUNK hit him and took his life. I haven't gotten off in almost 5 years now. OUCH! I'm a handsome masculine guy. When you can't get yourself off it has to be the right special person to do it for you. My situation is permanent and your friend will and get his abilities back.

Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you that is willing to see him through this difficult time in his life. I myself would be uncomfortable having a previously good friend bath and toilet me. I have never asked a helper to jerk me off. If he wants it then let him give you some signs that he wants that. You could make a joke and say "man are you ever gonna get blue balls" and see what he says. If something happens it could be a good thing but there's a good chance it could strain or end your friendship.

 

[rbkwp]

Thanks Gowheels
been waiting for someone to legitimize the thread
Personally i think whatever happens, will happen
Any sexual behaviour is secondary to the task at hand..?
and could also be a reward of sorts
give & take by both parties
feel sure it will work out for the best..the injured guys interests at heart.
and they are best friends' & roomates
enz

 

[billyporn]

The doctors say that his healing time will be long but that doesn't mean he's not the same guy i know just because he had a bad day. He's gonna be sore but come on,... WE"RE guys and let me challenge you to NOTHING sexual for over 8 weeks and let me know how it goes.

Maybe I misunderstood our original post. Are you imagining that at one point maybe you guys are sitting around watching TV one day and he may ask you to jerk him off, or maybe you'll ask him if it's ok? That scenario is a bit different. You shoudl go with your gut on that front.

 

[Fredro]

If you think he'll die without release and you want to be a bud get a hooker to blow him.

Oh yeah, that'd be great. Let's just throw a case of clap on him on top of everything else.

 

[luvmycock]

I think if he asks you to jerk him off, and if you are really concerned about all of his different needs, then I say yes jerk your buddy off. He wouldn't ask unless he really needed or wanted it. Especially if the two of you do not have that type of jerk a buddy off relationship. But let him ask because if you ask he my take it the wrong way or see it as weird. If I were in that situation and had a wonderful friend like you looking after me, I would ask and hope you would not mind.

 

[mattsrod7]

only way i would bring it up is if your washing him and he gets a woody, from a fellow ncer

 

[hungcuriousnc]

From another fellow NC'er.... I say give it about a week. Bring it up. Nothing worse than him getting a hard on in front of you and then you two setting there trying to decide whether or not to jerk his dick for him.

Offer a hand to the guy! Offer to get a sex toy if he'd prefer that. Don't be shy about bringing it up. Shoot man, you're gonna be taking care of his EVERY need, even the bad ones..... what's the problem with jackin him off if he wants it.

 

[Pitbull]

If you think he'll die without release and you want to be a bud get a hooker to blow him.

Oh yeah, that'd be great. Let's just throw a case of clap on him on top of everything else.

OK.
Hire a hooker to give him a handjob.

If I am to understand the situation - GF in Europe.If he didn't have an accident then his only release would be masturbation (unless he found another woman)

So if the OP was to help in the following manner:

If he gets an erection, just point blankly ask him "do you want me to take care of that"

I am assuming handjob as the only option.

So some woman can do that.
Or if that causes GF issues
1.) She can come back
2.) Hire a male escort to give the handjob

There are machines that do the job.
(But as caregiver you would be stuck with the clean up)

Check with his insurance.
Maybe it covers sex therapy :tongue:

 

[rbkwp]

I am beginning to fear EVSN
that there may be an excessive requirement from your buddy
2/3 times a 24 hr period .. not unusual for your/his age' ha
How can you refuse a friend?
(you are going to be a busy boy?) ha
enz

whatever you do .. dont show him our thoughts,
while he may Laff, he may possibly 'up the requirement'....

 

[deleted69654]

you're a great friend. i def understand that things might be awkward but you're friends.

 

[MovingForward]

As a caretaker, i just tried to be confident and took a its normal approach. Like wiping someones ass, was like an everyday thing. I would never make comments and even tried to have a conversation

 

[007Member]

Well the madness starts tomorrow so Pray for me.... HomeHealth will be in and out this week then it's all up to me.

 

[noladude]

As a nurse all I can say is you are really taking on a chore. Do you realized what you are getting in to? Bathing, feeding, dressing are all easy. Bed pans are not. I doubt he will feel frisky for awhile because he will be in pain, but when he does feel better you can be assured that erections will pop up daily. My advice is to ignore them and let him make the first move. If you are close friends he might beg you to help him out. Maybe position pillows around his body so he could rub against them. When he cums on the pillow just throw the cover in the washer and do not say anything about it unless he mentions it first.

keep us posted

 

[actioncfc]

Happy Valentines Day!

Well the madness starts tomorrow so Pray for me.... HomeHealth will be in and out this week then it's all up to me.

 

[007Member]

I'll be celebrating Singles Awareness Day tomorrow :/