being asked if you masturbate?

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  1. dave2006

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    has anyone ever come right out and asked if you masturbate?

    For some reason guys in junior high thought it was hilarious to confront other guys on this.Most denied of course and the one guy who did got ridiculed for the rest of the year.I remember sgetting dressed in the lockerroom one time and a couple of the older guys came in from the weight room to shower.one guy ask me if i jerked off yet.i didn't say anything and started to get dressed.his friend was like yeah he does look at his face getting all red!!! I don't know if it really was but i was mortified. At that time I was 14 and had just started doing so for several months.I quickly got out of there.
    my dad would make comments thank god never when my mom was around.This would usuaaly happen if there was a breif sex scene or a women topless in a movie.I was watching a horror movie with my dad called They Live.It ended with a topless women riding an alien.It was brief but at the age it was enough!I told my dad I was going to bed that I was tired. At that point he said sure you are and making a jerking motion.He was right but I wasn't going to confirm it.At least I knew he was ok with it.
     
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    Hello David and for all the others on this site,

    When I first started to masturbate it was difficult to be honest about it. Then as time went on, after about a year, it was fairly established that most, if not all young males frequently masturbate so the topic was not really discussed or shame associated with the habit.

    Yes, in Middle School, or Junior High, back in my era, it was often joked about, but I quickly learned that joking about a topic was the same as admitting to the habit.

    I do believe a more proper question would be, "When did you start masturbating?" or, "How often do you Masturbate."

    These questions then confirm that the person asking the question does in fact self pleasure.

    Yes, it is normal. When my Sons were teenagers I frequently discussed safe sex with them and always informed them that self pleasuring, a.k.a. masturbation was far more acceptable than coming down with any dreaded disease or even having a female come up in the family way.
     
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    According to recent statistics, approximately 97% of the adult population of the world admit to masturbating. The remaining 3% lie.
     
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    It's like asking a person if they breathe, because everybody does it. But it's nobody's business but my own. I usually ask people why they want to know. If that doesn't give them pause, I ask them if they brush their teeth.

    Some people are just rude and intrusive, though.
     
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    Yeah, I find that I hear more from girls wondering if I masturbate, how frequently, and "how". But other than that, it's only happened one time. When my father tried to give me "the talk", not being a man of much tact or skill with words the first thing he uttered was "Sooo....son....do you play with yourself at night?", too embarassed I concocted some story which I'm sure he could see right through. Needless to say, he never tried to have "the talk" again.
     
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    I was already asked by friends and answered honnestly.
     
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    I just have one question for you Dave - Do you masturbate? :eek:
     
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    Nobody has ever asked me No Mabye they just assume i do :rolleyes:
     
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    I just assume all guys do. I can't recall if anyone specifically asked me, but I did ask a str8 guy friend once ( I don't recall how we got onto that subject) But he said he didn't and I believe him, he had no reason to lie.

    I think some girls do and some don't. (but I wouldn't even care to guess the %)
     
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    I was asked in directly, so I countered with "do you?".

    THen we both admitted to it, and to surfing porn ,and then nothing else was said.
     
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    People have asked me about it since junior high school and I was always honest, but I also started masturbating at a young age (my earliest memory of it was around 5 or 6, I didn't really know what I was doing). I think it's kind of stupid that people ask that, but something tells me that those guys were just trying to make you uncomfortable for fun, and at the time they had probably jerked off much more than you had.
     
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    Yes.

    Kids in HS, and my dad once (just cuz I was taking too many naps and I was tired all day)

    Nothing weird in any of those.
     
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    In middle school, talking about masturbation was taboo. Those who admitted to it were ridiculed and it was a topic that was highly joked about among the guys.

    In high school, it was like a coming out party. Guys would actually be honest and admit to jacking off and usually no one was made fun of. It was joked about, but more in an open manner than one of ridicule.

    I have been asked before and in middle school, I lied and said I did not. In high school, I admitted to it. The most embarrassing situation was when my father asked me.
     
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    I think for girls it is a lot different...I think in the younger years girls did it, I know I did, but felt it was something to be ashamed of and you never spoke of it. At least I wasn't as open about stuff like that when I was younger and finding myself.

    At my age now though people, well my friends, are much more open about things and I think it is just assumed everyone does it. We go together to buy vibrators, or at least we make recomendations on what to buy. You don't have to ask because we volunteer the information to each other. It is a comfort thing for sure, to know that other people are doing it and it is acceptable.
     
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    That is so true Sar_1982. While men are slapping each other on the back in highschool and congradulating each other, women are forced to live in the dark, being taught that pleasuring themselves is "dirty" or "wrong".

    It is good to hear that Today's women are going out together, buying vibrators, and talking about it, the way men do.:biggrin1:
     
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    I don't go out and buy vibrators with people.. or alone. :wink:
     
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    Ummm, pretty sure you were raving about how great your new vibrator was in This thread.

    See, you did say it:biggrin1:
     
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    You just confused me so much that I actually went back and looked for it that post. :redface:
     
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    I've been asked by a couple of friends. When i was 14-15 i used to deny, then i have always admitted i masturbated.

    I know it is a bit embarassing, but most people know that virtually all youngsters do masturbate.

    I have never been asked by my parents.
     
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    My doctor asked when I was 30 years old.He was concerned with proper prostate function and said if I didn't I should.Yikes Doc!!!!!
     
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