being compared to past boyfriends

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  1. Hung Low in Thiva

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    Have you ever had a girlfriend tell you how much bigger you are than your ex? If so, what did she say and what was your reaction.
     
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    I haven't fucked many girls who fucked my last ex, what with him being gay and all
     
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    soory about that. The question also applies to bf's comparing you to past lovers
     
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    Most times yeah, the first time with my current girlfriend sticks in my mind.

    She wasn't a virgin so I didn't expect any bleeding, to spare you from the details all I'll say is that I didn't just have to wash the sheets but buy a new matress!! (sorry, I know that's sick)
    Well as you can imagine I was a little confused so she described her ex and showed me how big he was. Basically he was at best half my size and didn't even manage to break her in!!
     
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    Everytime! I wanna try and sound blazé about it...but secretly I love it!
     
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    I can think of no better way to slime my present love interest than to compare her to any of the previous ones. People are too precious and unique as individuals and they deserve better than that. I know, it sounds preachy, but that sort of thing hits me where I live. I've gotten all sorts of praise from a woman who was cheating on me with her ex and all the while telling me what a superior lover I was compared to him. Such comparisons are usually without value, and are sometimes quite insincere.

    When a woman tells me how much bigger I am than her prior guys I just shush her and fuck her some more. It works best for me to stay in the moment.
     
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    everytime i hear something along the lines of "OMG thats twice as big as my ex-boyfriend"
     
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    Well in my limited experience, all I can say is the psycho ex told me that the last guy she 'did stuff with' or whatever the fuck she calls it, was tiny. She said he used to brag and one time he said somethin like 'look at this!' and pulled his pants down, and apparently there was nothing there. She didn't explicitly say I was big, but I think the implication was such.

    Also, post that episode, and after we broke up she told me I was the biggest she'd seen 'no one's bigger than you' etc etc.

    My current girlfriend hasn't seen my cock yet, only felt it. I think (99% sure) I'm her first (sexual partner) and definitely her first boyfriend. Haven't asked her if she's a virgin or anything as I don't want any emphasis being put on sex. Anyway, she keeps goin on about how big my feet are.
     
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    For me, it depends on what is said. Most women comment on how big I am or that I am the biggest they've had. That's cool, and honestly it is such an ego boost.

    But I have been with a couple of women who made it a point to say how much bigger I was than so and so, or so and so is just so small compared to me. I don't care to hear that, and it tells me a lot about the woman. And none of what it tells me is positive.
     
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    Well, since one of my last gf's was considerate enough to leave an old pic of them hanging around her dresser, fully nude, he easily was smaller erect than I was flaccid by a %.

    Her 1st time with me, she gasped because she admitted she'd never experienced anything as gargantuan as me with any of her bf's in past, including the afore mentioned Muscles McGirk, who by the way was also a serious beefer bodybuilder, and had one of those clunky old back of the mag pumps, you know, the kind that had the aquarium motors, just to keep him reasonably erect, according to her.
     
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    mine has said agian and agian that im way bigger than all her old bfs and one was balck
    she said im bigger han all three combined
     
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    That can't be true because we know for a fact that all black guys must be hung like elephants. They also must all like watermelon, be criminals, and run really fast. Enough with the old stereotypes people, please.

    Anyway, I actually hate the size comments for a couple reasons. First, most women who have had a decent amount of partners have been with someone bigger than I am. I have a weird variance, sometimes I'm under six inches when I don't have one of those "rock-hard" erections, but in the morning when I wake up aroused I'm an inch or so bigger. Nothing too much, but I'm happy enough as it is with my "unit". I don't need someone else trying to massage my ego with false words, you know?

    Second of all, if a woman is making that many comments about my penis size, she's missing out on the other parts of me that make me who I am, such as my personality and views on life. Talk about the size of ex's is just plain dumb to me. Move on with your life, and like I've said before.....trashing the hell out of someone that you used to date is stupid. If they were so bad as a person, why did you stay? If their dick was so small and he sucked in bed, why didn't you say anything to him so that he could improve in the bedroom?
     
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    My current g/f told a good friend of mine the fist time that she felt my package she thought to herself "WOW, its gonna hurt to have sex with him." So I feel pretty good about my size, plus the first time we had sex she was a virgin and I tore her apart.
     
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    The only kind of comparisons I make between J and my ex is the whole love and sensitivity thing. Granted, the physical difference is quite impressive also. Needless to say he's reaping the benefits of furious Kegeling. (necessary to feel anything with previous partners... sigh...)
     
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    Feom a girls point of view even if size doen't matter to you, you still can't help but compare. Just like if one boyfriend is taller it doesn't matter but you notice. You just don't let the guy know.
    Katie
     
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    I was fooling around with a girl who was depressed about a recent break up. She'd smile at me though and tell me "you're bigger than him." And if that's all she liked about me it was ok with me since this was not headed towards a relationship. I've had another girl put it in her mouth, then take it out after a while and say "I'm not used to that...now thats girth!"
     
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    I think the comparison thing is somewhat natural. I do feel that if you are the one to bring it up, they are more likely to tell you what you want to hear. For most guys, however, I'd file it under "don't ask unless you really want to know." The whole subject came up a lot more when I was younger. Now it only comes up when the differences are extreme or when I am the first after she came out of a long term relationship and every difference is magnified.
     
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    Kind of a funny coincidence, since I first posted to this thread Friday morning:

    I was out with a girlfriend on Friday night when a guy ambled up to the bar, say down next to me and then turned and said "Hi" to my friend. She sort of blushed and greeted him back. A few minutes later she whispered to me "That's Larry, the guy I told you about." I looked glanced back at him and said "Damn, you didn't tell me that he was that big." (The guy was about 6'5" and heavy framed.) She whispered back "Don't worry, you're still longer than him. A lot longer." Weird, but right up the alley of the comparison topic.
     
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    I've never pried and asked, nor do i particularly want to know about any girl's past experiences...however, I've never been with a girl who hasn't commented on my size at some point...I'll just leave it at that
     
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    I don't think any girlfriend ever really compared me to a previous b/f outside of saying something catty like "The only orgasm he was interested in was his."

    Usually, the rare ex-b/f conversation was something like "I got to love going to hockey games with ___."
     
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