Being Described as 'Nice'

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When it first happened I automatically took it as a negative gesture, something that would never get me laid by a girl. After a while, it was clear that most girls (in my experience some crazy hot girls) didn't mean anything negative when they said it. 'Nice' isn't always a bad thing.
 

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it's a woman's way of saying she's not really into you. you're not offensice but you're turning her on either. she's neutral about you.
 

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Positive, I am really nice. But I'm also bisexual. Gay, bi and nice usually go hand in hand. I still get laid being nice. But not from gals or guys who think nice is a weakness. I'm just happy that I get to be who I wanna be.
 

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Hmm, so to you guys, it depends on the scenario and person?

OK, lets say the following people said it, would you deem it to vary depending on the person?

- Someone you were trying to hook up with
- A Friend
- A Work colleague
 

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nice is nice, but nice is also kind of lame because there's nothing specific about it.... anyone can be 'nice', but if someone is interested in a person i would hope that they could come up with something better than that.... intelligent? beautiful/handsome? unique? now THOSE are adjectives a person can sink their teeth in to.... nice is just nice.... that's it....
 

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It depends on context.

"You're nice, but...." FAIL.

"You're a nice guy." Thanks!

"You're so nice. I thought you would be more of a jerk." I've gotten this one. Good times.

Nice is one of the weakest adjectives around in most settings, but given how many aggressive and insensitive guys are around, I think it actually carries a fair bit of weight if someone applies it to you.
 

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It depends on context.

"You're nice, but...." FAIL.

"You're a nice guy." Thanks!

"You're so nice. I thought you would be more of a jerk." I've gotten this one. Good times.

Nice is one of the weakest adjectives around in most settings,[color] but given how many aggressive and insensitive guys are around, I think it actually carries a fair bit of weight if someone applies it to you.



Another "WEAK" one and one that I find more negative and insensitive...
.....it's the word......INTERESTING.

Oh that's an interesting dress.....or oh, that's an interesting painting...sort of like...
well, she plays the piano really well.....:dunno:

Wow, when you really do not know want to say anything...do not want to be committed...
or you are indifferent...or just want to give a back-handed slap/compliment...just use....

...................................INTERESTING

it's so lame...I'd rather nothing was said...or have them say..."I have no opinion"..
 

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OK, lets say the following people said it, would you deem it to vary depending on the person?

- Someone you were trying to hook up with

Yeah, then it's time to put your balls on the table. "Nice" means you've neutered yourself to try to be appealing.

- A Friend

That's no problem. You're probably not really close if you're calling each other "nice" though.

- A Work colleague

You're just colleagues. Not friends.
 

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shrugs---I get the "you're so nice, you;re so sweet, you're so caring" line a lot. It is my nature, but in general, people aren't attracted to nature, they are attracted to looks, no matter what they may want you to believe. Once ESTABLISHED, a relationship depends much more on your mutual natures and how they fit to each other, but the initial connection always starts from the physical.
 

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If you had asked me this about ten years ago i would have reacted positively to it. Now i'm more neutral boarding on skeptical. I've heard the term being used negatively so much from many different walks of life that i don't think it holds the same meaning it use to.

Some use it to describe people that don't stand up for themselves, some for people they aren't interested in, some for political reasons (as a show for why you should vote for them, as if that was the only thing that mattered).

I've heard people described as nice even though they just did something horrible to another person. I've heard people be called nice while they were in the process of screwing another person over. And then theres the "but he/she was such a nice guy/girl/man/woman" comment i see on tv or read about after someone does something fucked up.

Dunno just not too sure the idea of a nice person even exist. Maybe a person that does nice things or a person that is known for doing nice things.
 

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I think there is something to this whole "nice guys finish last" thing but that's a separate issue to its overuse.

I don't like it because I think it's a bit lazy... like the word you use when you can't think of anything more interesting! But that's just me. I like words. I also know that there are plenty of people who use it as an apt term of endearment.
 

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I think you need to look at the big picture when you are getting called "nice"; As with most everything in life take it from where it comes. For me personally, I have never used nice when describing a guy to mean anything other than as a compliment. I will take a nice guy any day over some of the alternatives out there. The proof is that I married a nice guy. It's funny but if you ask people who have met or know my husband, most of them will say, "He's a helluva nice guy". By no means is he boring, weak or any other negative implication; actually quite the opposite.