On the contrary, I find "nice guys" to be very hot. My problem is running into guys who pretend to be nice just to get what they want.The whole nice thing, greatly reduces your chances of getting laid.
It depends on context.
"You're nice, but...." FAIL.
"You're a nice guy." Thanks!
"You're so nice. I thought you would be more of a jerk." I've gotten this one. Good times.
Nice is one of the weakest adjectives around in most settings,[color] but given how many aggressive and insensitive guys are around, I think it actually carries a fair bit of weight if someone applies it to you.
OK, lets say the following people said it, would you deem it to vary depending on the person?
- Someone you were trying to hook up with
Yeah, then it's time to put your balls on the table. "Nice" means you've neutered yourself to try to be appealing.
- A Friend
That's no problem. You're probably not really close if you're calling each other "nice" though.
- A Work colleague
You're just colleagues. Not friends.