Honestly arse-play is something I tend to steer clear of... but I hear people constantly go on and on about how great it is. Well a little while ago I was with a guy and I noticed he started to put his finger in the general area. I was nervous, but just thought I'd let it happen. So lube was involved and I was quite relaxed... and it was quite slow... it went in easy... but I didn't experience anything ... amazing... Almost the opposite. It was uncomfortable... and I felt a distinct burning impression... nothing pleasurable... anything anyone could suggest? I feel like I'm missing something.