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I very well may be the most flamboyant guy on this site.... I wear makeup, I own a few pairs of high heels, and I even have the fucking courage to post my own photo with makeup and feathers as my avatar.
Also, I went to an all male Catholic school, where any flamboyance got you shoved down the hall. I can tone down the flamboyance if I want to, but that's not who I am. The way I speak is with a lisp and if someone can't accept that, so be it. But I'm not going to act straigher or more masculine just because people don't like it. I really dislike threads like this because it makes me feel like less of a human for having a lisp. I'm gay and the way I move and speak is characteristic of my gayness. It's more accepted for a female to act masculine, yet I get slayed for being feminine. I saw this thread and had to put in my 2 cents as someone who truly lives and represents the gay lifestyle in its truest form... and I will defend myself to the fullest, because I'm not embarrassed any longer.
I was saying people that act like this are guilty of anything. More power to you, I don't have the balls to act gay in front of my friends, I'd be ridiculed to hell, I think. When I say I'm new to the 'community' I mean that I don't know a lot of gay people, and the ones I do know don't know that I'm gay. I guess I just want to know why it happens. As I get more comfortable with my sexuality, am I going to start acting like that too? I just think it's an odd side-effect of being gay.
Some of the Strongest men I know are drag Queens.
I was saying people that act like this are guilty of anything. More power to you, I don't have the balls to act gay in front of my friends, I'd be ridiculed to hell, I think.
When I say I'm new to the 'community' I mean that I don't know a lot of gay people, and the ones I do know don't know that I'm gay. I guess I just want to know why it happens. As I get more comfortable with my sexuality, am I going to start acting like that too? I just think it's an odd side-effect of being gay.
Then you need new friends. Or at least some that can accept what ever you are.
I am out to a few of my closest friends, and I have found that yes, I made a small jump to a greater level of flamboyancy. Within about a month of coming out to my first friend (and having her be 100% supportive of me) I am showing signs of being 'gayer'. Paying way more attention to my appearance, as well as becoming a visual perfectionist in almost everything, my manner of speaking has changed slightly, and I am absorbing a bit of the lisp, though I try to keep the last two down for professionalism.
I don't understand how any of this makes you gay? So you pay attention to detail, so did Einstein as did Tesla for that matter. Paying attention to your appearance is not an act of faggotry. There is a distinction between what appears to be "gay" than what actually is gay. As for your lisp, speech therapy comes to mind unless you have a "big ol gurl" inside just bursting to come out?
My opinion: Being flamboyant is a-okay by me; which is normal, as there is nothing anyone can do about it. But to me, it is a major sexual turn off. If I want to have sex with an emotional, feminine creature, I'd go straight, or bi. Men are supposed to be masculine.
Normal is as normal does. There is NO normal, only a socially accepted idea of "normal". To make such a statement that slams anyone who is feminine in any way, specifically members I might add, of YOUR OWN COMMUNITY gives further proof to the idea: Silly, limited notions such as these expressed here in your opinion are responsible for the fractioning of the community itself. Who's side are you on? Common sense or just ridiculous ideas of what being who you really are means?
NO!! MEN are suppose to be who they are. Whether that be in heels or construction boots. Excuse me, but you just participated in a stereotype that I find both ignorant and offensive.
No one is asking you to have sex with effeminent men either. Get over yourself.
No one is asking you to have sex with effeminent men either. Get over yourself.
I was saying people that act like this are guilty of anything. More power to you, I don't have the balls to act gay in front of my friends, I'd be ridiculed to hell, I think. When I say I'm new to the 'community' I mean that I don't know a lot of gay people, and the ones I do know don't know that I'm gay. I guess I just want to know why it happens. As I get more comfortable with my sexuality, am I going to start acting like that too? I just think it's an odd side-effect of being gay.
Flamboyancy is the antidote to social conformity and oppression. It is a rejection of everything dreary and morose. It is the outpouring of being faboulous and alive. It is the celebration of individuality over being a spec among the mediocre masses.
It is the reaffrimation that being true to yourself is more important than fitting in.
Acting flamboyant does not equal acting gay. When you eventually come out as gay to your friends and family, you will still be the same guy that you are now. You won't suddenly start acting flamboyant. That is obviously not who you are.
But that also doesn't mean that a guy who does act flamboyant is not a man. Of course he is a man. Do a Google search on the internet for the Stonewall Riots and you will find out that it was the gay drag queens who stood their ground against the harassment of the police and started the Gay Rights movement in the US. They acted quite manly that night.
A man is a man because of his DNA but also because of his actions and the character of his heart and soul. Acting flamboyant has nothing to do with determining whether or not you're a man.
I was saying people that act like this are guilty of anything. More power to you, I don't have the balls to act gay in front of my friends, I'd be ridiculed to hell, I think. When I say I'm new to the 'community' I mean that I don't know a lot of gay people, and the ones I do know don't know that I'm gay. I guess I just want to know why it happens. As I get more comfortable with my sexuality, am I going to start acting like that too? I just think it's an odd side-effect of being gay.