Being gay but finding women attractive.

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  1. D_Sal_Manilla

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    So I consider myself as gay. I like having sex with guys.
    but I do find women attractive. Well some.

    I just like their physical features and looks mostly. I would never consider them as partners.

    I bet this is normal but who else is in the same boat?

    Btw I'm not a top.
     
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    Well we all know what is and what is not attractive whether we be sexually attracted to them or not. Just like with guys, you know if they're hot even if you don't wanna bone. Even the straight guys that won't admit it knows if a guy is hot or not. I'm the same way except I enjoy sex with a girl so maybe it's a step farther than you. It might make sense to blame the urge to reproduce in human nature :p
     
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    My percentage of gay is due to finding some men attractive, but not considering them as partners. I guess that might be normal.
     
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    All such positions are normal.
     
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    I fine men attractive but I will never sleep with a man. women can have kids to pass on my DNA.
     
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    I'm not in the same boat as you, OP, but yes, it's very normal. And I have it on good account that there are women out there who love sleeping with gay guys - bottom, top, or the vast majority that's in-between.

    Enjoy.
     
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    Are there any gay guys here that are attracted to guys....but not enough to really have sex with them...I Kind of relate more to that group.
     
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    that seems a little close-minded. there's many other options out there these days for a gay couple to have a family :smile:
     
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    I recall being surprised by a passage in The Best Little Boy in the World, Andrew Tobias's account of growing up gay. He remembers hearing guys talk about women with great legs, and thinking to himself that the concept entirely escaped him. As far as females were concerned, he couldn't see what was attractive in them, even feature-by-feature.

    I'm not that way, and I often perceive beautiful legs, or eyes, or hands. In men or women. I'm not straight, but I'm not blind.
     
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    What's wrong with enjoying looking at something or someone who is aesthetically pleasing?
    I get a lot of non-sexual pleasure from knowing that such beauty exists in the world.
    As unlikely as it may seem not all pleasure has to be taken in a sexual context.
     
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    Dude, new to the site here. Great forum. I guess I should check out all the pics after this. I look at myself as being gay, but not out-there, in-your-face GAY. I'm attracted to guys, but there are some women who I find amazing. If I really clicked with a woman AND she knew my history, I'd go for it. The guy dating department sucks anyway in the Rockies. At least for me. I also can go both ways in the sex department. I keep my options open!
     
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    Actually the opposite of your thread posting is also possible. "Being straight but finding males attractive". It can go both ways. I've found in my own life that there are some guys who I think are extremely attractive. Now whether I want to get intimate with them is a whole other question.
     
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    I'm the same way Vladimir. I'm gay but find women attractive and check them out. But I have no desire to become intimate with them. I'm also a top like you.
     
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    I have a few friends like that and coincidentally they are all black.
     
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    em I'm a bottom. Not a top but I do top everyone in a blue moon.
     
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    I find women attractive, but don't have the desire to sleep with them. It happens on the rare occasion, but I don't pursue it. I find the human body beautiful in many forms. Women are just one aspect of it.
     
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