Being in control in bed

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windtalkerways said:
Steve- love the quote!

I think variety is what keeps things
fresh and exciting. Taking turns
being the aggressor keeps the passion
ramped, as it illustrates you are both
eager for the other.

Sometimes it's very erotic to be
'taken' and at other times, the tigress
comes out and you just want to
devour your man.

Exacly how it should be. Showing aggressivness between both partners is a must. Letting just one person control every movement or motion isn't very exciting.
 

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Well, speaking for just one man here.

My daily life requires me to be in control of most everything. Work, home, kids, etc.

I am relied upon to provide answers constantly and be an "expert" in many areas. The idea of having a woman take total control for a few hours has been an exciting thought of mine for a long time.

Unfortunatly, my wife isn't capable of doing it. So it will remain a fantasy of mine for years to come. And yes she knows. It's just not in her capacity to be a "take charge" kind of gal.

Just once I would love to see her get out of character and jump my bones. Tell me what to do and completely take charge of the bedroom.

Like I said, I won't speak for all men. But this guy would love to have a chance at being on the other end and having a woman drive the bus for a while.
 

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I've mentioned this before, but I think I'd be the type that would be happy going both directions on control. There's definitely a reason that Angelina Jolie turns me on. Just knowing that there's a chick out there that can kick my ass and would look insanely hot while doing it...:biggrin1:
 

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Altairion, don't challenge my kicking abilities, and certainly don't wish to be ass-kicked by me, no good will come from it!

No, I'm not into subduing an unwilling man for my personal pleasure, to me it is important that a guy is NOT submissive. But I need to be in control over him, even when he's on top, or physically in control, whatever that means in bed. Knowing that he acts like he does because I drove him into that just gives me the emotional foundation for the greatest orgasms. Is that a mind thing, or just an unusual fetish?

What differs my situation from the one of most members who replied is that my sex usually happens with guys who don't have a relationship with me, so it's different to alter between "giving and receiving" everytime you have sex. That's the one aspect, and the other is that I can derive too much pleasure from my control position to give it up willingly. Don't worry, guys, after the first orgasm I'll usually be a lot more relaxed, and maybe will let you hold the reigns ;-)

Sex is a lot about mental things stimulating us. So maybe it'd be a right step to put up a warning sign on my bedroom door: DANGER - MIND FIELD!