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On the other hand, there are some people who subconsiously seek out certain "types" BECAUSE they're unavailable ...
Good point, M. I'm going to try to tie that in with the next quote, and a couple of thoughts of my own...
I tend to be drawn more towards personalities. I do find certain types physically attractive but you have to draw me with your personality. A kind heart, tender strength, and a good sense of humor are tops in my book. An average looking person with those qualities is hot to me. A super good looking person without those qualities is a Zero to me.
Perfectly illustrated, hootie. If the personality is irrelevant, and the appearance (type) is all that matters, why not just stroke it looking at a magazine?
I've known guys who were so specific about their type that it just amazed me they could
ever find anyone. For instance, one guy was only interested in girls who were [hyperbole] 1648.461 millimeters tall, blonde hair reaching to halfway down the shoulder blades and wavy but not curly or straight, light blue eyes with a touch of green around the pupil, 969.772 mm bust, 562.102 mm waist, 914.400 mm hips, 47.672558 kg with a slight Southwestern Nebraska accent, and preferred Stolichnaya vodka over Skyy vodka. [/hyperbole]
It doesn't sound easy, or even possible, but you
can broaden your idea of your "type." If you ease up your restrictions on what you find attractive, you end up with a much wider field of candidates.
Hootie's advice was really on-target. Just for a little while, don't worry about physical aspects, and don't worry about "finding someone." Just get out there, enjoy socializing with a variety of people, and you are more likely to find someone who is more attractive than you thought at first.
My partner, when I met him, really only fit two of my "type" criteria - intelligent and witty. As I fell in love, the physical aspects became more and more attractive over time. Now, six years later, I can't imagine being with anyone else.