I am male, and have sex a few times a week with my best friend (female). We are each other's only sexual partners, and each other's firsts. She has said that she likes it when I'm a little more forceful or rough. We both enjoy sex a lot with each other, but she just said that she'd like it if I were every so often (orgasms galore, etc lol). I'm more playful and slow about sex and being more assertive just isn't my style, though I'd like to try... but it's hard. I don't really know what to do so much. It's especially hard becuase she isn't in the mood nearly as often as I am, and I don't want to push things when she doesn't want to... it's just weird. I guess I'm asking for tips, things I could do when we are in the mood and good to go. The special circumstances I was alluding to in the topic title I will mention now. She was raped by her first boyfriend when she was 16. 3 of my other friends were raped or molested. My mom worked for Juvenile court and I remember hearing awful things that happened to children and teens. I know I'd never do anything like that, but the last thing I'd want to do is stur up memories of what happened to her... which is what happened the first time we had sex. I stopped and just held her all night (she initiated the sex). She even has nightmeres still. Basically, I want to give her what she wants without being disgusting and being like the scum that did that to her. I love her more than anything else in the world. Any help is appreciated, thank you for your time BTW, I don't have anyone to talk to about this, because all of my friends either know her, or aren't sexually active (or I don't respect their opinions). I've seen some insightful posts on here, and would love to hear from some of you guys and girls. Sensitive subject and all. Thanks again.