Background:
Me and the girl started out as best friends (my junior year in high school), about a year into our friendship we became boyfriend/girlfriend (my senior year) the relationship lasted about 8 months. When it ended it was do to her wanting to know what other guys are like (I was her first boyfriend) she said we would always be best buds even if she has a boyfriend.
A couple months later she gets a new boyfriend, she loses her virginity to him and so on. They last off and on for about a year and half, they broke up probably over 10 times. She cheated (actually had sex with another guy) on him a handful of times. When they finally called it quits it was very rough involving a lot of name calling and so on.
Where I am now:
For the most part of her relationship with the guy she continued to talk and hangout with me. We would go snowboarding, go to hockey games, dinner, she even asked me to one of her school dances and not her boyfriend(she's a year younger than me), and we made two weekend trips out of the state. It got to the point where me and her would see eachother more then him and her
Whenever she would talk to the guy and I was with her she would say she was with one of her friends, which I perfectly understood because he hates me and it would be bad for him to find out that me and her hangout. Well ever since they've actually been over we have been talking a lot more.
She never tells any of her friends that we talk and hangout, even the friends that we have in common. She has alot of friends that like me and several that dont, but she wont even tell the people who like me that we hangout. One time she was home from college and she brought a friend with her and we all hungout, along with another friend of ours. Alcohol was involved and our friend told her friend that we dated in high school. The friend asked my ex and she denied it, which kind of pissed me off. I couldn't really tell if she was just being funny and deny it or was being serious. I can totally understand her not being like "the guy we are going to hangout with I dated in high school" because it is not her business, but when you are confronted about it why lie about it?
Now to facebook, she recently began talking to the other ex on facebook. She leaves comments on my pictures and when she does she deletes the statement on her page saying that she commented on my page. She also never leaves comments on my page ever since she started talking to him. What she does do is send me messages or texts. Its almost as if she doesnt want him to see that we talk.
I am what you call her go-to-guy, when she has a problem, bad day, has a question, or is in trouble she calls me. When she was with the guy she even continued to call me and not him.
So here is my dillemma, does she just not want her friends that dont like me and her ex to find out that we talk? Or is she ashamed of me? Either way it sucks
Me and the girl started out as best friends (my junior year in high school), about a year into our friendship we became boyfriend/girlfriend (my senior year) the relationship lasted about 8 months. When it ended it was do to her wanting to know what other guys are like (I was her first boyfriend) she said we would always be best buds even if she has a boyfriend.
A couple months later she gets a new boyfriend, she loses her virginity to him and so on. They last off and on for about a year and half, they broke up probably over 10 times. She cheated (actually had sex with another guy) on him a handful of times. When they finally called it quits it was very rough involving a lot of name calling and so on.
Where I am now:
For the most part of her relationship with the guy she continued to talk and hangout with me. We would go snowboarding, go to hockey games, dinner, she even asked me to one of her school dances and not her boyfriend(she's a year younger than me), and we made two weekend trips out of the state. It got to the point where me and her would see eachother more then him and her
Whenever she would talk to the guy and I was with her she would say she was with one of her friends, which I perfectly understood because he hates me and it would be bad for him to find out that me and her hangout. Well ever since they've actually been over we have been talking a lot more.
She never tells any of her friends that we talk and hangout, even the friends that we have in common. She has alot of friends that like me and several that dont, but she wont even tell the people who like me that we hangout. One time she was home from college and she brought a friend with her and we all hungout, along with another friend of ours. Alcohol was involved and our friend told her friend that we dated in high school. The friend asked my ex and she denied it, which kind of pissed me off. I couldn't really tell if she was just being funny and deny it or was being serious. I can totally understand her not being like "the guy we are going to hangout with I dated in high school" because it is not her business, but when you are confronted about it why lie about it?
Now to facebook, she recently began talking to the other ex on facebook. She leaves comments on my pictures and when she does she deletes the statement on her page saying that she commented on my page. She also never leaves comments on my page ever since she started talking to him. What she does do is send me messages or texts. Its almost as if she doesnt want him to see that we talk.
I am what you call her go-to-guy, when she has a problem, bad day, has a question, or is in trouble she calls me. When she was with the guy she even continued to call me and not him.
So here is my dillemma, does she just not want her friends that dont like me and her ex to find out that we talk? Or is she ashamed of me? Either way it sucks