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Just wondering what the worst thing was your best friend did to you. Were you able to forgive them (easier said than done), move on from their betrayal and put it behind you, or are you still upset and resentful about it years later? Are you still friends with them, or was the betrayal absolutely unforgivable?
 

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I'll kick things off.....

Years and years ago, a so-called friend lost his job and his apt and was living out of a storage unit. I couldn't stand the thought of that so I invited him to stay with me and my then-bf. Big mistake; I caught them making out not three hours after he got there, and then caught them jacking each other off two hours after that. The next morning, my hidden camcorder in the laundry basket in the corner of the bedroom caught them in our bed, finally sealing the deal.

That evening I played the tape for them, and calmly informed them both they had to go. I never raised my voice and I wasn't even mad at them, because I wasn't surprised how things went down; the bf had cheated on me before, and the friend had a long history of hurting people trying to help him.

I saw him a few years ago and he's apparently still mad since he ignored me. *Shrug*
 

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I asked a co worker to join me as a dept head. I’d sacrificed some money but I thought it was a good thing to do as we had different skills and it would be helping someone up the ladder. We had been very good friends. She threw me under the bus. Wanted the position only for the money. Lied about me to the boss. It was such a fucked up thing to do. In my mind, she should have been fired for the machinations. She is still in the position and mediocre at best. I really try to be pleasant and certainly took the higher road. Others clearly saw what she did. They don’t respect her at all. Maybe a few do but they are mediocre too. I’m not pleased with myself that I want Karma to kick her. But I hope she gets a dose of it one day. She even try’s to get me to do her job at times. I find something else to do so I’m too busy to help.
 

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I believe in KARMA! And karma is a bitch!
With me? You get one chance and one chance only!
Doesn't matter how close we were. But what you did? Big or small to lose my trust!
Doesn't matter who you are. Friend or family! One chance and only one chance!
 
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I'm on the other end of the spectrum. Fucked my best friend's girl, after they broke up. And yes, we are still friend's.

Do you feel any guilt or remorse for what you did? Does your friend know, and did he forgive you? Was it a serious relationship he was in, or was it just a fuckbud?
 

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I believe in KARMA! And karma is a bitch!
With me? You get one chance and one chance only!
Doesn't matter how close we were. But what you did? Big or small to lose my trust!
Doesn't matter who you are. Friend or family! One chance and only one chance!
I do not

Too often people go through life inflicting themselves on others and by and large nothing happens

think about Stalin or chairman mao

both were pretty evil and if anyone would have karma kick there ass it would be them.

nope both died at an elderly age pretty much in luxury

some times someone does something wrong and by coincidence it bites them in the ass.

we call it karma
 
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I'll kick things off.....

Years and years ago, a so-called friend lost his job and his apt and was living out of a storage unit. I couldn't stand the thought of that so I invited him to stay with me and my then-bf. Big mistake; I caught them making out not three hours after he got there, and then caught them jacking each other off two hours after that. The next morning, my hidden camcorder in the laundry basket in the corner of the bedroom caught them in our bed, finally sealing the deal.

That evening I played the tape for them, and calmly informed them both they had to go. I never raised my voice and I wasn't even mad at them, because I wasn't surprised how things went down; the bf had cheated on me before, and the friend had a long history of hurting people trying to help him.

I saw him a few years ago and he's apparently still mad since he ignored me. *Shrug*
That's really shitty.

The other side to that is, maybe you should look at that part of yourself that allows people like that into your life. Your partner was a serial cheater, yet you always forgave him. And, the guy you rescued was a piece of shit as well. Then you put the two of them together under the same roof.

I'm not saying any of what happened was your fault. I am saying that some people let toxic people in their lives and have a harder time saying No to the behavior to nip it in the bud. There are a lot of people that I've seen along the way that just let their "friends" walk all over them. For a while I was there, but it was mostly out of desperation/financial hardship that I allowed things to go on.
 

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Do you feel any guilt or remorse for what you did? Does your friend know, and did he forgive you? Was it a serious relationship he was in, or was it just a fuckbud?

He knew, and this has been at least 45 years ago. He turned gay, so it was no big thing to him. At the time, he just didn't figure out that he liked boys more than girls. We had jerked each other off a couple times before she was his G/F. Still were at the experimental stage. He decided guys were more his cup of tea after that. I decided that girl's were more my thing, however I do still like a little guy play now and then! Make any sense? Him and I are still friend's, but Texas and Iowa are a few miles apart. He still usually makes it to Iowa for July 4th and we get together.
 

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That's really shitty.

The other side to that is, maybe you should look at that part of yourself that allows people like that into your life. Your partner was a serial cheater, yet you always forgave him. And, the guy you rescued was a piece of shit as well. Then you put the two of them together under the same roof.

I'm not saying any of what happened was your fault. I am saying that some people let toxic people in their lives and have a harder time saying No to the behavior to nip it in the bud. There are a lot of people that I've seen along the way that just let their "friends" walk all over them. For a while I was there, but it was mostly out of desperation/financial hardship that I allowed things to go on.

Thanks but that happened long long long ago and I'm a totally different person now. Back then I believed in people and gave chance after chance. Now, as the saying goes, when someone shows me who they are, I believe them and I move on if necessary.
 

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this friend of mine we had gone on a weekend get away together she asked me why I had never made a move on her. I told her I did not know so that night we had sex it was great she seemed to enjoy it as much as I did a month later we were at a club and her brother came to me and said so I heard to fucked my sister. I asked where did you hear that he said oh she told me she said it was great first circumcised guy she had been with in a while. then he proceeded to tell me that usually circumcised guys are shorter than uncircumcised guys. I broke it off with her never fucked her again.
 
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My best friend of 20 years went a bit funny after the birth of her 3rd kid and decided/believed that I had mortally offended her. She didn't say anything at the time but about a month later I had a call from my oldest friend asking, "Did I want to share a taxi on Friday?" A taxi to where? I asked. "Sarah's wedding?" he replied... and then I realised that she had not invited me to her second wedding. You should probably know that I was her chief bridesmaid first time. She unfriended my other half and my family from Facebook, told her kids they couldn't play with my daughter and then started spreading rumours... yeah. Total cut off, vicious aftertaste - and without an argument. I was gobsmacked.

You think you know someone, and that they know you.

She came back, 5 years later. Her mother was dying and she was having a hard time at home, the newest kid has autism... tears... the good old days... and I was polite but I thought, Why are you telling me this? You have friends and family who can share your burdens. I owe you nothing. Once bitten, twice shy.

Friendship is not like a tap, to be turned off and on.

I did ask to see her mum again but what with Covid it never quite happened.
 

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My best friend of 20 years went a bit funny after the birth of her 3rd kid and decided/believed that I had mortally offended her. She didn't say anything at the time but about a month later I had a call from my oldest friend asking, "Did I want to share a taxi on Friday?" A taxi to where? I asked. "Sarah's wedding?" he replied... and then I realised that she had not invited me to her second wedding. You should probably know that I was her chief bridesmaid first time. She unfriended my other half and my family from Facebook, told her kids they couldn't play with my daughter and then started spreading rumours... yeah. Total cut off, vicious aftertaste - and without an argument. I was gobsmacked.

You think you know someone, and that they know you.

She came back, 5 years later. Her mother was dying and she was having a hard time at home, the newest kid has autism... tears... the good old days... and I was polite but I thought, Why are you telling me this? You have friends and family who can share your burdens. I owe you nothing. Once bitten, twice shy.

Friendship is not like a tap, to be turned off and on.

I did ask to see her mum again but what with Covid it never quite happened.
Happens all the time. When your friend is doing well, he does not need you, as soon as he starts having problems and needs your support, you immediately become irreplaceable.
 
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Happens all the time. When your friend is doing well, he does not need you, as soon as he starts having problems and needs your support, you immediately become irreplaceable.
I stopped being a human box of kleenex a long time ago.

Some people thrive in their own misery, pluck people from their orbit when they need them, then put them back. They are emotionally and spiritually draining, and will never be there for you, but demand you be there for them.
 

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After eight years of friendship .. giving this guy a place to live, rent free, when he went through a hard time. Even got him a job at another friends business, and drove him to work and picked him up after. Turns out when we would drink (I don't drink often so when I do .. I really do lol.) He would feed me drinks but only drink soda himself, no alcohol. Which I didn't know. And when I would pass out, he would pull my pants down and would touch me. Not sure why, maybe the guilt after a while was too much, but he confessed everything to me in a text message.
 
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After eight years of friendship .. giving this guy a place to live, rent free, when he went through a hard time. Even got him a job at another friends business, and drove him to work and picked him up after. Turns out when we would drink (I don't drink often so when I do .. I really do lol.) He would feed me drinks but only drink soda himself, no alcohol. Which I didn't know. And when I would pass out, he would pull my pants down and would touch me. Not sure why, maybe the guilt after a while was too much, but he confessed everything to me in a text message.
Soooo creepy.
What did you say/do?
 
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After eight years of friendship .. giving this guy a place to live, rent free, when he went through a hard time. Even got him a job at another friends business, and drove him to work and picked him up after. Turns out when we would drink (I don't drink often so when I do .. I really do lol.) He would feed me drinks but only drink soda himself, no alcohol. Which I didn't know. And when I would pass out, he would pull my pants down and would touch me. Not sure why, maybe the guilt after a while was too much, but he confessed everything to me in a text message.
Wow, that is really messed up.
 
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