I’m in my mid 30’s and my best friend is in his early 20’s
he knows I’m sexually open minded
he has this yo-yo style of attachment with me where one week he is codependent on me with everything he does and always needs my opinion, then next week he pushes me away
he can’t be around a girl from more than 2 days at most and doesn’t want a relationship with one, he just chases girls to have sex with them
he has a cycle of getting close to me, pushing away…finding a girl to sleep with…tossing her away after the deed and then he runs back to me
he also has a cycle of being a fearful avoidant, so when life is hard for him…he shuts me out completely, can’t msg him..can’t phone him…he goes into his cave and hides
He has been drunk once and admitted he finds me attractive and that he’s curios
all of our mates have thought we have hooked up because of how close we are, we hug and cuddle a lot in very intimate manners too
He did say to me once that if he ever lost me, he would need to sleep with over 1000 girls to get over me
Right now, major events have happened in his life and he’s ghosted for me 3 weeks….and he just won’t answer me as to what is happening
My question is this…..is he falling in love with me ?
he knows I’m sexually open minded
he has this yo-yo style of attachment with me where one week he is codependent on me with everything he does and always needs my opinion, then next week he pushes me away
he can’t be around a girl from more than 2 days at most and doesn’t want a relationship with one, he just chases girls to have sex with them
he has a cycle of getting close to me, pushing away…finding a girl to sleep with…tossing her away after the deed and then he runs back to me
he also has a cycle of being a fearful avoidant, so when life is hard for him…he shuts me out completely, can’t msg him..can’t phone him…he goes into his cave and hides
He has been drunk once and admitted he finds me attractive and that he’s curios
all of our mates have thought we have hooked up because of how close we are, we hug and cuddle a lot in very intimate manners too
He did say to me once that if he ever lost me, he would need to sleep with over 1000 girls to get over me
Right now, major events have happened in his life and he’s ghosted for me 3 weeks….and he just won’t answer me as to what is happening
My question is this…..is he falling in love with me ?