Best Friend Fixated on my Junk - how to manage him?

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I think you guys need a sit down and talk. He must be rather confused by the friend of his that shows his cock off but isn't interested. In fact he must be hurt. I would fess up to enjoying the exhibitionism of my body and then make a clear distinction that is different than wanting sex. I actually have a friend that has done this to me. He really sends mixed signals. In my case we did talk and it cleared the air. If you value him...you need to take care of your friend and think of what he is going through.
 

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Hey PDuvalEE, I understand the situation and I am a bi guy and became obsessed with my str8 friend's big cock. he also liked showing, and comparing a bit in the locker rooms, we always talked about sex and jerking off, and even watched porn together and masturbated in the same room. He went as far as measuring each other and touching our boners together when we did so, and he even stroked my cock, but wouldn't let me touch his after that. I was very confused at first and thought he was bi or gay, but he kind of got it out of his system. Now we talk openly about it, and he always asks me if I am getting any cock, and stuff, and he changes in front of me still and loves the attention but I know there is a line, and I respect it. I had my fun and now he is just a friend with a big beautiful cock that I get to see sometimes but in a totally open way.
 

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Oooh! Maxcock you a such a naughty little devil aren't you! I love how you call these boys out! Ha Ha!

Our dear OP has used his bi friend for his own fantasy fuel without telling him the truth! Meanwhile (just as CUBE explained) his trusting bi buddy 'fessed up to an honest attraction. Now he gets the cold shoulder and wonders what he did wrong. His married friend uses his love for his wife as the reason for the sudden distancing.

Something about this is very dishonest, and not on the part of the bi guy. Somebody else in this story is bi too. Still, all is not lost.

The friendship could be rescued if they have the talk, but PDuvalEE has to confess what he's been up to and apologise, agreeing on the rules for what level of physical contact/closeness is going to be most comfortable for the two of them from now on. (If we can assume that his bi friend can forgive him).

The more difficult path would be for PDuvalEE to approach his wife, telling her the whole story and saying that he wants her permission to explore the possibility of sex with a close male friend. Then he can return to his buddy and say, "Sorry for leading you on so long. I've explained it to my wife and she wants to see if I can get it out of my system by trying it out with you. It's something I've secretly wanted to do for a long time, and since we have been so close, I hope I can trust you to handle this situation delicately. If you don't want to have sex with me now, I understand. I'd still really like to be just your friend, so long as we can trust each other to observe any limits that we need to put in place now."

I'm not very optimistic about this working out well for all 3 parties.
 
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Honeslty, I think you should consider some safe exploration with him. Do not be offended the is interested, show it off, plunge into the situation, take it all the way to the other side, and see where you land. Dare him to compare size, compare notes....Slip on a porno, jerk off in the same room and let him get an eyefull. My guess is that you will be better bonded as friends after. I think you should self examine a bit, stop putting heat on him and just be a good friend. There is a range of activities that can be engaged in that does not cross the line, and we would all be better off for just enjoying the shades of grey of sexual behavior and attraction.

If my husband started jerking off with dudes, I would be upset. I only want him to jerk off alone, or with me. camming with strangers wouldn't bother me, but jerking off together in the same place? That crosses the bounds of our particular relationship. If I busted him, I'd see no problems giving into my own impulses, and getting off with other men too, which he has said out loud, he doesn't want. *shrug*
 

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I hope you listen to CUBE and clear the air between you. Nudity is not the same as exhibitionism, but if somebody stares all the time, whether you have cloth over it or not, it's got to be addressed.
 

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In a fun way, tell your wife that your bud likes seeing your cock.. If she says she wants to see your bud suck your cock in front of her, then do it.. I just don't see a big problem here.. Let him suck your cock man..
 

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In a fun way, tell your wife that your bud likes seeing your cock.. If she says she wants to see your bud suck your cock in front of her, then do it.. I just don't see a big problem here.. Let him suck your cock man..



IMO....Very bad advice. These actions would most certainly ruin any chance of friendship you have left.