Best friend gets involved and forgets about you.

[sab84]

It's life... your friends meet other peole... enter dating/hooking up/relationship.... you get sidelined or lower priority... then you get to meet/be with/hang out less often... Don't worry in the intial stages of any relationship... the it happens... once they settle down/break up.. they will again have time for you... but don't forget one day thier will find a partner and settle in life... and so would you.... so no need to feel the pain.... you might feel like moving apart which not necessarily be true... just remember that if he's your good/best friend then be ready to be with him when he needs you and it's only fair to expect the same in return... Let life happen and live it... you happiness depends on you...

 

[blg3floor3]

I'm with you bud. During the last two years, I've been lucky to see my best friend of 12 years once a month, if that. We used to see each other all the time (especially when I came home from college for the summers), now it's rare. He met this girl 3 years ago at the place he works at. First they were co-workers. Then they weren't, because she got a job elsewhere. But they still kept in touch and hung out occasionally. Then about 2 years ago they became fuck buddies. Over the course of those 2 years they then became friends with benefits, then boyfriend/girlfriend, and now they're married (as of July). I've seen him once a month or less during these two years and now it's going to be even less with them being married and living together.

So, I'm feeling pretty abandoned, but, I'm trying not to be a whiny, selfish douche about and just trying to accept that I guess it's simply time to give up my best friend to the whole wife-who's-nine-years-older-and-has-a-16-year-old thing. People getting older, settling down, blah blah fucking blah.

Oh well. It happens I guess.

 

[montanaguy]

This reminds me of an e-mail that I had received a couple of years ago. I liked it so much that I saved the e-mail. There was more to the e-mail, but I didn't include it, because it makes it look like a chain-letter otherwise and most people don't read chain-letters. However, it is very true, as I've had all 3 types of friends described in it.


True Friends

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON
I am sending this to you to see how many actually read their email. Your response will be interesting.
Pay attention to what you read. After you have
finished reading it, you will know the reason it was
sent to you. Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide y ou with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at
an inconvenient time, this person will say or do
something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid
emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the
lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

 

[rvd9009]

Trust me I know what you are going through.The same thing is happening to me except my best friend which I have known for 7 years is dating a girl that I have known for 13 years.My best friend and me were roommates for 4 years and then she started coming around again after I had not seen her in almost 5 years.Her and her 2 children started staying at my house alot and then tells me that she has feelings for my best friend which did not go over well considering I have always had feelings for her.She tells me that she understood and said she would not pursue him.About 4 months passed and things went back to normal or so I thought.In february 2 days after my birthday while I was taking a shower my best friend just left and I did not hear from him for 2 weeks.During that 2 weeks his new girlfriend kept calling me and asking me if I had heard from him because she was worried about him and had a bad feeling that something had happened to him.Well 2 weeks after he had left he called me and told me he was coming to get his clothes.After he had got all his stuff the next day they post pictures of themselves together on myspace and announced that they were together.She has since then turned my best friend against me which is pretty fucked up considering she has known me alot longer then she knew him.There is alot more that she has put me through over the last 8 months but its just hard to talk about.If you really care about your friend just be patient with him.If he truly is your friend he will come back.Just give him his space.Trust me I didnt and I dont know if i will ever get my best friend back.Good luck to you and take care of yourself.

 

[blkbro510]

Believe it or not your are still his best friend! I have friends who gotten married and I didn't see but once a year or once a season but when we are together its like we pick up where we just left off. And also they KNOW that they haven't spent time with you and they do think of it a lot. But check it out guys this is time make new friends and also keep in mind when its your time to fall in love that you become aware of how you treat people. Those are the things you have control over!

I'm with you bud. During the last two years, I've been lucky to see my best friend of 12 years once a month, if that. We used to see each other all the time (especially when I came home from college for the summers), now it's rare. He met this girl 3 years ago at the place he works at. First they were co-workers. Then they weren't, because she got a job elsewhere. But they still kept in touch and hung out occasionally. Then about 2 years ago they became fuck buddies. Over the course of those 2 years they then became friends with benefits, then boyfriend/girlfriend, and now they're married (as of July). I've seen him once a month or less during these two years and now it's going to be even less with them being married and living together.

So, I'm feeling pretty abandoned, but, I'm trying not to be a whiny, selfish douche about and just trying to accept that I guess it's simply time to give up my best friend to the whole wife-who's-nine-years-older-and-has-a-16-year-old thing. People getting older, settling down, blah blah fucking blah.

Oh well. It happens I guess.

 

[B_theOtherJJ]

Sounds pretty typical. Allow your friend to have his space and his fling. Going forward, expand your horizons, and dont put all your eggs in one basket. Have other friends to fall back on, that way you wont feel hurt or disappointed when you are put "on hold". And never be dependant on anyone or anything. Its much more freeing when you arent.