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On a trip with my best friend we sat im the back next to each other. It was a long 17hr drive to our destination. On the way up my best friend laid his head on my shoulder to go to sleep he would position himself on and off again. I was cool with it even I myself ended up laying my head in his shoulder and he would lay his head on mine. And on the way back he did the same thing even laying his head on my lap with my arm on his back. So question here is, does this mean anything? He is straight as far as I know and im curious I mean alot of people have questioned his sexuality but I am know him to well but just def found this unsual he is not the touchy type and especially when it came to him laying his head on me shoulder. I mean we always sleep in the same bed whenever we sleep at eachothers place, change in front of each other, share clothes with one another. Maybe a typical bromance haha...or maybe just what best friends do? What's ur input and stories?
 

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As far as I would be concerned it means nothing other than he is just very comfortable with you .... as best friends should be.

I wouldn't just jump in and assume anything. Many times my girl friends and I hug, hold hands and put arms around each other, often in public.... (my sisters and I do it every time we meet and are out.) It just means we love one another and are very comfortable expressing our love. Love comes in many forms... these experiences and expressions are not sexual in the least!!!

I think, too often, people try to infer sexual connatations into every movement, word spoken, or touch. Stay cool and keep your head on straight. If I were on a 17 hour road trip it really wouldn't matter who was next to me, they be used as a pillow sometime duing the trip.... LOL..

Just my opinion.
 
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As far as i'm concerned it means nothing more than he's comfortable around you as his friend. Would you really want to ruin that by trying to make it anything else?
 

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As far as I would be concerned it means nothing other than he is just very comfortable with you .... as best friends should be.

I wouldn't just jump in and assume anything. Many times my girl friends and I hug, hold hands and put arms around each other, often in public.... (my sisters and I do it every time we meet and are out.) It just means we love one another and are very comfortable expressing our love. Love comes in many forms... these experiences and expressions are not sexual in the least!!!

I think, too often, people try to infer sexual conitations into every movement, word spoken, or touch. Stay cool and keep your head on straight. If I were on a 17 hour road trip it really wouldn't matter who was next to me, they be used as a pillow sometime duing the trip.... LOL..

Just my opinion.

Another case of simultaneous post with the same result!
 

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Don't get me wrong at all i had hoped this was nothing more than a great friendship! But im glad to hear that its just the closeness that he developed towards me as a friend! I'd want nothing more just was curious since nothing like that has ever happened lol.
 

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dude i literally kiss my best guy friend goodbye on the mouth and tell em i love em- not a makeout kiss just a peck on the cheek or mouth and say love ya dude-- he's my best male friend and i love him.... id spoon with him ahha im not sweating it...
 

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On a trip with my best friend we sat im the back next to each other. It was a long 17hr drive to our destination. On the way up my best friend laid his head on my shoulder to go to sleep he would position himself on and off again. I was cool with it even I myself ended up laying my head in his shoulder and he would lay his head on mine. And on the way back he did the same thing even laying his head on my lap with my arm on his back. So question here is, does this mean anything? He is straight as far as I know and im curious I mean alot of people have questioned his sexuality but I am know him to well but just def found this unsual he is not the touchy type and especially when it came to him laying his head on me shoulder. I mean we always sleep in the same bed whenever we sleep at eachothers place, change in front of each other, share clothes with one another. Maybe a typical bromance haha...or maybe just what best friends do? What's ur input and stories?



ahahahaha.... no it doesn't mean anything and why the hell would you drive 17 hours... is there no airports where you were going?
 

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Being a gay male, I will say that I was very fortunate to have this kind of closeness with one guy who was straight. He and I would share my bed all the time whenever we smoked weed or just wanted to sit there and shoot the shit about our days or life in general. It was nice having a friend where there was nothing sexual, just pure comfort. I'll never forget the day that this beautiful girl that he had been seeing broke up with him via text because she wasn't ready for a relationship. He had just gotten back from walking two miles in the snow just to take her soup (she was sick- he wanted to be nice). He just collapsed in my arms and teared up a bit. I didn't enjoy his pain from that, but I felt very blessed to have a friend where there was never confusion or concern for our sexual-orientations. All we knew is that we loved one another, and he was one of my best friends. He's moved and is engaged to a reeeeeally sweet girl now and I'm happy for him. I know that we both miss each other though.


So treasure this, man. If you've ever wanted to experience love with another man that never goes beyond this place, then take advantage and appreciate that you found someone who is comfortable enough to cross the line of social norms with you. There's nothing like a bromance.
 

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What a great story, and how lucky you both are!

Treasure that friendship. If you will nurture it, stick with it through thick and thin, it will last.

My best "bro" friend, straight, and I have been friends now since 1972---that's 41 years (we were 14 when we met). We live in different cities. We still call each other every day. We are poles apart politically (I'm liberal, he's conservative), in fact, we really don't agree on much--other than our desire to keep our friendship going for the rest of our days.

When I worked up the courage to come out to him, he was mad as fire. NOT because I was gay--he had that figured out way before I did--but because I had kept from him something that important. "So, you didn't think enough of our friendship that you thought something like that would mess it up?!"

It's funny, he's very straight and very religious, but he talks to me about my dating life and I talk to him about his. He let me have it about my last boyfriend (weird term at 56, but we weren't partners, just dating). My buddy didn't like him at all, thought he was all wrong for me (and he was right).

Really good friends are a treasure, and if you go through life with one or two, you're rich.
 

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I have two str8 male friends like this, no sex, ever. We share stories, one guy since our teens, his mom calls us #1 and #2, lives hours away, still visits.Phone always ends, I love you too. Other guy was roommate for 8 years, 3 kids now. They come and visit, all of them every summer, yes I am uncle to them.Oldest is gay so that made it easy in his family.
 

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What a great story, and how lucky you both are!

Treasure that friendship. If you will nurture it, stick with it through thick and thin, it will last.

My best "bro" friend, straight, and I have been friends now since 1972---that's 41 years (we were 14 when we met). We live in different cities. We still call each other every day. We are poles apart politically (I'm liberal, he's conservative), in fact, we really don't agree on much--other than our desire to keep our friendship going for the rest of our days.

When I worked up the courage to come out to him, he was mad as fire. NOT because I was gay--he had that figured out way before I did--but because I had kept from him something that important. "So, you didn't think enough of our friendship that you thought something like that would mess it up?!"

It's funny, he's very straight and very religious, but he talks to me about my dating life and I talk to him about his. He let me have it about my last boyfriend (weird term at 56, but we weren't partners, just dating). My buddy didn't like him at all, thought he was all wrong for me (and he was right).

Really good friends are a treasure, and if you go through life with one or two, you're rich.

That's beautiful!
 
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On a trip with my best friend we sat im the back next to each other. It was a long 17hr drive to our destination. On the way up my best friend laid his head on my shoulder to go to sleep he would position himself on and off again. I was cool with it even I myself ended up laying my head in his shoulder and he would lay his head on mine. And on the way back he did the same thing even laying his head on my lap with my arm on his back. So question here is, does this mean anything? He is straight as far as I know and im curious I mean alot of people have questioned his sexuality but I am know him to well but just def found this unsual he is not the touchy type and especially when it came to him laying his head on me shoulder. I mean we always sleep in the same bed whenever we sleep at eachothers place, change in front of each other, share clothes with one another. Maybe a typical bromance haha...or maybe just what best friends do? What's ur input and stories?

I think you answered your own question there. What he did tells you that he trusts you enough to let his guard down around you and nothing more. I had the exact same experience with my old bromance when I was in university.