I agree with you, PP/AP has a right to decide for herself privately, without question. I do feel, however, that through reaching out to him she opened the door to his involvement. She didn't do this alone and may want him to accept responsibility. Otherwise, what would be the reason for reaching out to him?
putting me in PP/AP's shoes? *pondering* freak out.. i'd thinking "i know i am missing something.." check the calender.. go sheet white. double check dates... followed by a litany of profanity.
i'd call him to double check the date "did we.. ya know.. last thursday or the wednesday before... oh, okay.. *more profanity*... dude, this sucks"
maybe she wanted someone to go with her to get tested.. and seeing how she might not want to haul friend/family with her.. the possible co-parent seems a logical person to freak out with.
Personally, I wouldn't have said anything until I knew for sure, though. A potential pregnancy does not a situation make. As it is, the guy does know and if it were me I would tell the g/f. I base my relationships on borderline brutal honesty so I might even be the wrong person to answer this question.
i'm a bit wonky as a human being, brutal honesty is my default.
just to me.. telling now seems like trying to cover his ass later. is one of those truths told to make self feel better, not another person *not sure that makes sense to anyone but me :redface:*
When I spoke of table turning I meant that if the OP was a woman and her friend the AP/PP. I suspect a feminist roasting would take place.
roasting by feminist or roasting of feminists?
I wholeheartedly agree on this one. If she's having unprotected sex with him and never had a pre condom-shedding chat then it's on her.
life would be easier if ya got a new set of junk for every partner
*j/k*
I think everyone would. A lot of women would be harsh for similar reasons along with a shitload of feminist roasting from some of the male counterparts. It would be a far different thread.
even if PP/AP posted here, i'd tell her to keep her mouth shut until she a. knew she was pregnant. 2. knew what she wanted to do.
This is exactly what I would have done. Smoke =/= fire. If I didn't want the man involved I wouldn't call him. As it is, the cat's out of the bag and it can't be undone.