Hello Folks!
So I was thinking about this topic throughout the weekend and it bugged me that I'm 23 and don't have a real best friend. Maybe a guy/girl who i can confide in and be there to support me and give me advice..someone who knows me and cares about me genuinely.
A little background..I moved to the states and left my friends back home and when I moved here I didn't really know any English or knew anything about being cool or fashionable and even though a LOT of people were nice to me and introduced to the culture I didn't really become that close to anyone. By the time high school rolled in, I had a few friends and actually knew English and topics of conversation that were relevant to the youth so I did a little better but still no best friend.
Then I started to hang out with this kid who shared most of my interest and was really smart so we complimented each other well. He was a really close friend. One of the kind where you don't necessarily have to do anything...we would just be happy sitting there talking.
The only person closer was my girlfriend of four years. She knew my ins and outs. We all hung out together and were like a family.
Then we broke up and the two of them started to date. At the beginning, i was pissed at both of them. He hadn't talked to me about it and had gone behind my back and apparently when my gf had complained to him about me in the past, he had advised that she should dump me. I took this as a backstabbing move since he never talked to me about it and never got my side of the story and as intentions to be with her. He never called or came to see me. He texted me...didn't say he was sorry or how bad he felt..he just asked if I was ready to talk. I didn't reply. Suddenly I was all alone. I had roommates and other friends but for the most part I was hanging out alone.
They broke up..she tried to get back together. I declined. They got back together..broke up.
We haven't reconnected or talked. I don't want to. I have forgiven them but honestly...with friends like that, who needs enemies?
haha geez...I know that's a long story..sorry about that but it has completely changed my outlook on how I see people and how much of myself I will expose.
The discussion I wanted to start is the way we come across honest people that we can call best friends. Have they been in your life for long? Did you meet them in high school? College? Have you been screwed over by a close friend? Is it your significant other or a family member?
Thank you in advance for your input!
Cheers
So I was thinking about this topic throughout the weekend and it bugged me that I'm 23 and don't have a real best friend. Maybe a guy/girl who i can confide in and be there to support me and give me advice..someone who knows me and cares about me genuinely.
A little background..I moved to the states and left my friends back home and when I moved here I didn't really know any English or knew anything about being cool or fashionable and even though a LOT of people were nice to me and introduced to the culture I didn't really become that close to anyone. By the time high school rolled in, I had a few friends and actually knew English and topics of conversation that were relevant to the youth so I did a little better but still no best friend.
Then I started to hang out with this kid who shared most of my interest and was really smart so we complimented each other well. He was a really close friend. One of the kind where you don't necessarily have to do anything...we would just be happy sitting there talking.
The only person closer was my girlfriend of four years. She knew my ins and outs. We all hung out together and were like a family.
Then we broke up and the two of them started to date. At the beginning, i was pissed at both of them. He hadn't talked to me about it and had gone behind my back and apparently when my gf had complained to him about me in the past, he had advised that she should dump me. I took this as a backstabbing move since he never talked to me about it and never got my side of the story and as intentions to be with her. He never called or came to see me. He texted me...didn't say he was sorry or how bad he felt..he just asked if I was ready to talk. I didn't reply. Suddenly I was all alone. I had roommates and other friends but for the most part I was hanging out alone.
They broke up..she tried to get back together. I declined. They got back together..broke up.
We haven't reconnected or talked. I don't want to. I have forgiven them but honestly...with friends like that, who needs enemies?
haha geez...I know that's a long story..sorry about that but it has completely changed my outlook on how I see people and how much of myself I will expose.
The discussion I wanted to start is the way we come across honest people that we can call best friends. Have they been in your life for long? Did you meet them in high school? College? Have you been screwed over by a close friend? Is it your significant other or a family member?
Thank you in advance for your input!
Cheers