Best friends going too far?

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  1. D_T_Frothingill_Bellows

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    I guess my best friend and I are a little closer than most. We've never jerked off together, and I've never blown him, though I've offered and he's said if he wanted he'd take me up.

    But he just recently agreed to video something for me, I felt my xtube needed to be vamped, but there's only so many angles you can take when you're taping yourself, so he agreed to do it for me.

    I'm asking what exactly is going too far? As friendships are concerned...
     
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    You are already in a sexual relationship with him if he's saying yes to offer of sex, even if you didn't do it yet. Too far compared to what?
     
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    too far compared to, "let's go see a movie" "let's play video games"

    when I'm like "hey, wanna help me video a porn vid?"
     
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    And he said yes. Are you changing your mind or something?

    You are sex buddies too, that's all.
     
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    Some of my good friends blow me. Ask, and see. Just do not push. LOL , unless your friend enjoys that.
     
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    no no no no! we're not engaging in sex at all haha

    but he, as my best friend, basically has agreed to video tape me getting off, and whatever that entails so that it's got good angles haha

    ie. Me probably fucking a dildo, and jerking while he stands there and videos it...
     
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    Sounds like he might be seeing this as his chance to cash in on your bj offer. If you didn't feel comfortable having him doing that then you wouldn't have asked, and if he didn't feel comfortable then he wouldn't have accepted. So I don't see it as being "too far" if you're both in full agreement.
    Just be sure to post the vid when you're done. :biggrin1:
     
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    Don't worry too much about that!it happens.....I've jerked,video taped,done sexual games,let myself get jerked etc with my closest friends. I've done that with my brother too. I don't mean to say that everyone does that,but if you both agree on that,why should you worry?
    As long as you both have the same wishes and feelings on things it si ok.
    There's nothing wrong in that!if you are close friends and he tapes you while jerking etc. Ask him to jerk too if he feels like!
    Friendships do not have precise canons...every friendship is different because you relate with different people!
    Just have fun and explore your sexuality!repression is worse,believe me!
     
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    Good advice so far. Don't question it or worry about it. Go with it and have fun and feel good!
     
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    What you are not understanding is that the minute he agreed to be there while you have sex with yourself, he is a participant. The technical term is voyeurism, and it is intimate involvement with you. I am not judging, and he is consenting. Understand this and be pleased!
     
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    I WISH I could break that ice. Birocker I want my good friends to suck me off! How the f do you ask? I'm thinking with a guy you gotta ask, not like with a woman where if you ask you ruin your chances.
     
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    Who else can you get to film your porn vids for you? :chuckle: I wish I had a best friend like him. Actually, I do. :veryhappy:
     
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    ENJOY life matey
    I am sure you do
    Share with your friends, as they do you..
    No problems
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    Too crooked for color TV!
     
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