Best Part of NOT being a Sexist ASS

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It's partially a reaction to the "Best Part of Being a Man" thread, where a lot of posters mentioned insults toward women as reasons. My point was to clarify (for those who took part) that sexism is not okay, and it was rife in that particular thread.

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Misogyny ( /mɪˈsɒdʒɪni/) is the hatred of women or girls.

NOT the hatred of things women or girls go through.

I think false accusations are just as rotten of a behaviour as misogyny or sexism. I was only trying to get you guys to get your facts straight before you start calling names.
 

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You're male. What's your frame of reference for hating those things?

I think you're forgetting that there's a difference between fear and hate and you're really talking about the former.

I wasn't the person that posted those things but I would think that I'd be better off without periods. Who wouldn't be? The frame of reference could even be the women who would easily tell you that they would prefer not having periods either given that they would still be fertile.

EDIT: Actually taking your comment a little further, fear of things women go through isn't even close to what misogyny is.
 
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It's partially a reaction to the "Best Part of Being a Man" thread, where a lot of posters mentioned insults toward women as reasons. My point was to clarify (for those who took part) that sexism is not okay, and it was rife in that particular thread.

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Is it possible to ban specific members from taking part in your thread? Srk515 and bigirishman are ruining the thread!

@Dolfette Woot for raising children the right way! I want to adopt one day if I could afford to with the right guy.

@Spoon HUGS PARTY CENTRAL YALL!! :biggrin2:

@ Nico I have a niece as well! She is so beautiful...

@Hand ROFLMFAO!!

@rbkwp I love that. By teaching us intimacy is only meant for romantic relationships, society today teaches us to FEAR intimacy. It scares me, because it is through intimacy with other human beings (sexual, romantic, and otherwise) that we understand and relate to the world we live in as well as becoming happy individuals ourselves!

@The_Rob I'll be your wingman if needed!

You can put them on ignore and that way you won't see their posts. :smile:

Sweet thread. So, what I enjoy about not being a sexist ass? I love that I can meet people with an open mind-- ready to learn more about who they are what their journey has been.
 

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Please tell me you don't really think this AM? Is that how ya feel? You realize you, in agreeing with this, paint the vast majority of women as stupid, and such do you not?
Ain't that the truth! :cool:
this in direct response to this:
the worst part of not being a sexist ass is so few women are interested in you because you ardn't treating them like dirt
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I have know quite a few women who do not find asshole guys attractive and a slew of gay and bi MEN how fall over themselves for the asshat with the big dick. Who looks worse? :rolleyes:

I would say a lot of women would find your assertion highly insulting.

Hell i find it insulting. Did one sister fall for the bad boys and assholes, yes until she learned otherwise. Did the other sister fall for them? Not ONCE. If they displayed that crap they were booted to the curb. Have I? Occasionally, when i was young.

If you and TheRob had issues with women who passed you over and you were the good gentlemen who lost to the cocky, sexist pig, then I am sorry. But it is unfair to the nth degree to portray all Women thus, just as it would be to portray all Bi dudes as homewreckers waiting to happen, or all men as uber shallow, narcissistic jerks..
 

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Please tell me you don't really think this AM? Is that how ya feel? You realize you, in agreeing with this, paint the vast majority of women as stupid, and such do you not?

this in direct response to this:

I have know quite a few women who do not find asshole guys attractive and a slew of gay and bi MEN how fall over themselves for the asshat with the big dick. Who looks worse? :rolleyes:

I would say a lot of women would find your assertion highly insulting.

Hell i find it insulting. Did one sister fall for the bad boys and assholes, yes until she learned otherwise. Did the other sister fall for them? Not ONCE. If they displayed that crap they were booted to the curb. Have I? Occasionally, when i was young.

If you and TheRob had issues with women who passed you over and you were the good gentlemen who lost to the cocky, sexist pig, then I am sorry. But it is unfair to the nth degree to portray all Women thus, just as it would be to portray all Bi dudes as homewreckers waiting to happen, or all men as uber shallow, narcissistic jerks..

There is one thing I could comment on about the stereotype of the "sexist and really hot pig" catching attractive glances from many of *those who find men attractive*. It completely and totally ties into hegemonic masculinity. Domination is a trait our society teaches us to find attractive. While true, this isn't necessarily any one individuals fault. However, hegemonic masculinity is a concept I would like to see our society work against and overcome. It causes many problems we see today, like sexism. I think that was part of the point of this thread. To bring clarity to what I just described so that we (anyone in this thread who understands) can move forward and have positive impacts in our own societies (wherever we may lie) with all of this in mind. Awareness is the first step, right?
 

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You can put them on ignore and that way you won't see their posts. :smile:

Sweet thread. So, what I enjoy about not being a sexist ass? I love that I can meet people with an open mind-- ready to learn more about who they are what their journey has been.

Thanks you. Haha, I guess I wanted to say thank you so badly, I didn't stop for grammar. :rolleyes:

I enjoy being able to limit stereotypes to practical and positive uses so that I may see individualism in those I meet and care about.

That's right, stereotyping CAN have practical/positive uses. It is simply very difficult to employ it in such a manner because we currently live in a societal structure that is co-dependent on oppression. In a generalized sense, this makes the concept and use of stereotyping very strained. I hope that makes sense...
 

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Please tell me you don't really think this AM? Is that how ya feel? You realize you, in agreeing with this, paint the vast majority of women as stupid, and such do you not?

this in direct response to this:

I have know quite a few women who do not find asshole guys attractive and a slew of gay and bi MEN how fall over themselves for the asshat with the big dick. Who looks worse? :rolleyes:

I would say a lot of women would find your assertion highly insulting.

Hell i find it insulting. Did one sister fall for the bad boys and assholes, yes until she learned otherwise. Did the other sister fall for them? Not ONCE. If they displayed that crap they were booted to the curb. Have I? Occasionally, when i was young.

If you and TheRob had issues with women who passed you over and you were the good gentlemen who lost to the cocky, sexist pig, then I am sorry. But it is unfair to the nth degree to portray all Women thus, just as it would be to portray all Bi dudes as homewreckers waiting to happen, or all men as uber shallow, narcissistic jerks..

Nico, I have to disagree with you here....

First, Rob said "so few", not "none", so no one is portraying "All" women this way. So far, Most of the women here, on this board, are intelligent enough not to act that way, so they are automatically not included.

But, I have to tell you, that not dating women, you didn't get to experience it. I can't tell you how many times that I was either turned down, or broken up with because, and I quote.."You're just too nice". WTF? :confused: In fact, that was one of things that my own ex-wife told me after 7 years of marriage. I recall one time when she was just being a total bitch and I had finally had enough, lost my temper and said "Shut the fuck up and don't ever talk to me that way again". She actually said that, that caused her to be more attracted to me than ever. Again, WTF? :confused:

There are a lot of girls/women out there that go for the type that treat them badly. I still see it with women at work.

So, be careful applying some of the opinions expressed here, to the "good" women here. :smile:
 

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I wasn't the person that posted those things but I would think that I'd be better off without periods. Who wouldn't be? The frame of reference could even be the women who would easily tell you that they would prefer not having periods either given that they would still be fertile.

Well, guys don't like getting aroused in public for no reason and showing either, but they wouldn't give up the goods so I get your point. I wouldn't say we'd be better off without periods. They regulate our reproductive system and give us a sense of time.

EDIT: Actually taking your comment a little further, fear of things women go through isn't even close to what misogyny is.[/QUOTE]

Fear is what misogyny is usually based on.
 

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Nico, I have to disagree with you here....

First, Rob said "so few", not "none", so no one is portraying "All" women this way. So far, Most of the women here, on this board, are intelligent enough not to act that way, so they are automatically not included.

But, I have to tell you, that not dating women, you didn't get to experience it. I can't tell you how many times that I was either turned down, or broken up with because, and I quote.."You're just too nice". WTF? :confused: In fact, that was one of things that my own ex-wife told me after 7 years of marriage. I recall one time when she was just being a total bitch and I had finally had enough, lost my temper and said "Shut the fuck up and don't ever talk to me that way again". She actually said that, that caused her to be more attracted to me than ever. Again, WTF? :confused:

There are a lot of girls/women out there that go for the type that treat them badly. I still see it with women at work.

So, be careful applying some of the opinions expressed here, to the "good" women here. :smile:
Ok I would modify my post to reflect your points
However even though I didn't go though it directly I had predominantly straight male friends. I saw a handful of them get dumped by the women they dated for the bad boys. I saw A handful BE that assine person. I saw my straight female friends, for the most part (80% if I had to place a number on it) go for the good boys.

So While I am not saying yours, Rob's, and Alpha's experiences didn't happen or were not valid or not common enough, i would point out that a lot of my hetero friends, didn't experience that at all.

So I amend my statement to say that MOST women MAY find what was said offensive. Again I am sorry for whatever AM or Rob went through. I am sorry for what you went through. I never said that there weren't women like that. I just felt the need to point out that they are not the norm, or at least not always and definitely not in my (borrowed) experience.

Now some of them did. J did. Se went for 3 bad boys before wising up. JG also went through it. But A, S, Ml, Mir, Jgr, R, Lb...they went for the good kinda overlooked guys. The ones who treated women well. The gents.

But that's life, huh. Everyone's experience varies.:smile:

I am just glad you and AM found each other. Kinda makes up for the crap moments, no:redface:
 

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I've had a few 'nice' guys accuse me of only going for 'bad' boys. The accusation occurs after I've dated the 'nice' guy for a little while and it just ends up not working out.

In my experience, sometimes 'nice' guys confuse being nice with being a doormat. I don't know about other women, but I don't want a relationship with someone who agrees with me all the time, clings to me all the time and never seems to have his own opinion. I have a big personality, and at times I felt like I had a lapdop following me around or a house boy - someone who would hold my purse, pick up the tab, drive me places and say 'yes, dear' to everything I said. It made me feel horrible about myself. He deserved better and I wanted a real partner.

I have a close friend - high maintenance woman. She always had the 'nice guy' boyfriend. She'd break up with them after a few months and then date some jerk for a few weeks, almost like a palate cleanser. Neither kind of man made her happy. Then she met a truly nice guy. Treats her like a queen. One day she's on one of her rants and he stops her. He says, 'Look - just because I agree with 90% of the time doesn't mean I agree with you all the time. I don't agree with you now. So you need to stop. I'm going for a drive and I'll be back in half an hour. Calm down. If you're not calm, I'll go for another drive and we'll keep doing this until you can talk to me rationally." When she told me this story, I thought - yup, she's going to marry this guy. And she did. Two kids later and she's married to the nicest guy in the world.

That's just my experience.