i have a question for mostly the women here but guys should chime in too. whats the best way to approach a woman if you want to talk to her at a bar or in public? im a bit shy at frist and i know who is within my league but once you get past the awkward beginning of the meeting someone im fine in that area. i usually date people that are friends of friends so its easier to get to know them but my situation in life has changed and i know almost all of my friends friends so im looking outside of that now. i just dont want to feel sleazy or have cheesy lines to get to meet a girl. so whats a good way to introduce yourself with out being too cocky or coming accross as a douche bag? here is the usual situation for me. i'll go out with friends or by myself and sit and have a drink. i'll see a girl whom i think is attractive. i'll try to make eye contact but not too much. depending on the night if she looks back at me i'll linger for a second or i'll look down like i wasnt trying to look at them... i have always been embarassed about letting someone know im into them. i need to get over that. but after that im kinda stuck, im never sure what my next move should be. should i go up and just say "hi, im mark" and make talk about something going on at that point? i know that not everyone is the same but a little advice would be appreciated.