best/worst night of my life

[ballin12]

ok first post/thread ever. so im 18 and theres this girl whos one of my good friends, and we're really open with each other and she is awfully horny and hasnt had sex in 3 months. so we decided to hook up last night at her house which was empty. the catch is, this girl is absolutely gorgeous, ive never seen anything so SEXY... spanish, beautiful curves, perfect rack, perfect little ass... she was just the definitive female, and i was just too lucky. and she knows i have a big dick, from her friends so she was naturally curious.

anyway, once we got into her house, she mauled me... she was all over me in a second... we were in another plane, it was just crazy, unlike anything ive experienced before. i ate her out and it was all just foreplay, but i noticed .... my dick wasnt getting hard. i was like, internally freaking out because nothing of the sort has ever happened to me before and i was really worried. so you can imagine her whisper in my ear "i want you to FUCK me", the dilemma i was faced with. i decided to just come out to her and say "wtf i cant get it hard, etc" and she was really understanding and all. and once i actually did get it hard, as soon as i slipped a condom on, it went soft again.

so yeah, im really worried because this girl is stunning and i feel so embarassed, i dont know what to do.. any help is appreciated

 

[Principessa]

"so im 18 and theres this girl whos one of my good friends, and we're really open with each other and she is awfully horny and hasnt had sex in 3 months. so we decided to hook up last night at her house which was empty. the catch is, this girl is absolutely gorgeous, ive never seen anything so SEXY... spanish, beautiful curves, perfect rack, perfect little ass... she was just the definitive female, and i was just too lucky. and she knows i have a big dick, from her friends so she was naturally curious. ​

anyway, once we got into her house, she mauled me... she was all over me in a second... we were in another plane, it was just crazy, unlike anything ive experienced before."​

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I may be wrong; but it sounds to me like a bad case of nerves. You mention how absolutely hot she is and that you were really looking forward to sex with her. You may have even already planned your seduction of her in your mind. Add in that she was very sexually aggressive and sometimes that adds up to sensory overload for a guy and he has trouble getting it up.

I'm not a doctor, that is just a guess.

 

[rob_just_rob]

Two approaches:

- relax. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Slow things down in bed - have her give you a sensual massage, or tease her with your mouth and hands. Focus on the moment, on her, and stop thinking about what you imagined the moment would be like. Or,

- see your Dr and get a viagra or cialis prescription. There's no shame in that anymore, even for young guys, and that might help take some of the performance pressure off your mind.

 

[goodwood]

Oh Ballin!
That sucks! I am sorry that happened. Sounds like bad timing to me. If you are relaxed and she still wants you, you nail her to the wall. Or mattress, or sofa, or chair, or floor, or counter, or banister, or bathtub, or back seat of a car, or hammock, boat, city street, club bathroom, dorm room, or whatever.
The next time you meet up with her or talk to her, just be honest and say let's have another go. And BTW - good for you that you are good at oral. Keep up the good work!

 

[goodwood]

But Rob's advice is better and more mature. Listen to Rob. Really.

 

[jnp]

I sorta had that problem with a hot friend of mine. She was one of my really good friends, and was horny 24/7. Luckily, something kicked in internally and everything sorted out. I would just try to find something that I know feels good to me and makes me horny, and ask her to do it.

 

[D_Rufus Rodzilla]

Ballin, who wouldn't have been a little freaked out? Sounds like she came on way too strong. I think Rob's advice is sound. Take it a little slower and fuck the living hell out of her next time!

Goodwood, I loved your first comment! Hilarious man!

 

[Principessa]

Rob's advice is great; but I wouldn't be so quick to run for the Viagara prescription at the age of 18. Especially since it has only happend once and under rather extenuating circumstances.

 

[goodwood]

Thank you Woody. Appreciate your compliment. lol.
Ballin - really dude. You have to have another go at it and....wait a minute here: were you drunk when this happened?
Well, that is irrelevant. You get that girl again and you will be horny as hell.
You will be just fine. I know it. : ) You keep being mouthy my friend.

 

[ballin12]

thanks so much guys... it is so good to have a place to voice such issues. i think rob is right though... i had already played it out in my mind and to be honest, i didnt even feel myself while we were going at it. i dont know what it was but i just didnt feel like me. but i think shes keen to try again, and she was so cool about the whole thing. funny story though, a good friend called me just beforehand and i told him i was seeing her and jokingly i said: "i cant believe this is happening dude, i bet im gonna have erectile dysfunction or something because its too good to be true." needless to say, i called him again afterwards and was like "ok...remember my little rant about erectile dysfunction..."
*pause......* *much laughter*
ah well.

 

[ballin12]

oh and just for the record, i was not drunk at all, however i did have a red bull (energy drink) before the sex, so im strangely suspicious.

basically, dont drink energy drinks before banging gorgeous women, it wont work in your favour.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

I'd also put it down to nerves. At least now you're past the Worst Case scenario so it has to get better from here on. Also if she is a good friend she will want to 'help' you correct your problem and not to mention she might take it as a challenge and see it as her duty t help you over come your problem

better luck next time , relax and enjoy
:wink:

 

[LargeInLife]

Ballin',
From my personal experience, I would say that the battle to be fought here is almost completely one against your own self. Since you're eighteen, your problem is almost certainly not a physical one, buy a mental one. It could possibly be that you have some other internal conflict, or stress in your life that you haven't released yet. One thing that I have found in my life is that anything you keep inside or a stress that you put on the 'back burner' will present itself in one way or another eventually, often coming out in a way that is physical, some people will break out in shingles, some will have temporary ED.

I would say that depending on whats going on emotionally/mentally in your life you will probably already know if you have some stress or conflict you have suppressed, but maybe thats not the case. It could be possible that you just built the situation up too much in your head and psyched yourself out. Either way, the sooner you can relax yourself the sooner your problem will go away.

I've had this problem once in the past, I was having some serious issues with my dad, and was ignoring his attempts to reconcile and that stress manifested itself physically in my by temporary ED. I would be there, with my beautiful sexy naked girlfriend all over me, and I wouldn't be getting hard, and the more I wanted it, the more I would think about it, and as soon as I would get hard, I would be thinking "OK don't lose it, don't lose it" and then I would lose it. So it can easily snowball into something bigger and mess with your confidence. In my case, I worked out my issues with my dad in the following weeks, and after that I've never had that problem once again.
I hope that helps, good luck buddy!
David

 

[Osiris]

Everyone has given you good advice, but I think one thing stands out in your post. You say that you were lucky and she is stunning. Sounds like you may see her as way out of your league. That said, I am inclined to say nerves.

Your conscious mind is saying yes, yes, yes. Your subconcious mind may be saying what is the deal? Why is she with me? Why would she want me?

Another thought is that when she "mauled" you that she may have done something that is a turn off for you and your subconcious again is saying oh no she didn't!.

I could sit here and analyze all day, but you have some great advice from some great people thus far.

I think Rob's advice (btw I like your posts Rob) is sound and you should take that into account, but also agree with NJQT that Viagra at such an early age is a bit concerning and most doctors are reluctant to give it to someone as young as you. Like others have said, relax and just let it flow. That may help.

 

[duderino]

Dude -- you're not alone. Freshman year of school I was hooking up with a girl I'd been lusting after for the entire first semester -- stunning, by far the hottest in the dorm, and someone who'd I'd have considered far out of my league in HS. I was so nervous and excited that by the time my pants came off, my cock stayed limp.

It's not at all unusual to have these sorts of boner-deflating jitters especially when you're getting it on (for the first time) with a girl you've been drooling over and even more especially when she's the one doing the seducing.

And you should count yourself lucky -- I never managed to get it to work with the girl I was hooking up with.

Good news: Next time you hook up with her you'll have no problem at all, and you can rock out with your cock out. And if she has any problems at all, just be honest and let her know that you really find her attractive, so much so that you were really, really nervous. The one word of advice I can give, however, is to stress that it wasn't her FAULT that you didn't get hard right away. Girls -- especially attractive ones -- can be (in my experience -- I don't want the entire female race yelling at me on this one) very self-conscious, and she might take your nervousness as a sign that she's not hot/sexy/good-in-bed enough. Bottom line: Honesty is your best defense (as usual).

ok first post/thread ever. so im 18 and theres this girl whos one of my good friends, and we're really open with each other and she is awfully horny and hasnt had sex in 3 months. so we decided to hook up last night at her house which was empty. the catch is, this girl is absolutely gorgeous, ive never seen anything so SEXY... spanish, beautiful curves, perfect rack, perfect little ass... she was just the definitive female, and i was just too lucky. and she knows i have a big dick, from her friends so she was naturally curious.

anyway, once we got into her house, she mauled me... she was all over me in a second... we were in another plane, it was just crazy, unlike anything ive experienced before. i ate her out and it was all just foreplay, but i noticed .... my dick wasnt getting hard. i was like, internally freaking out because nothing of the sort has ever happened to me before and i was really worried. so you can imagine her whisper in my ear "i want you to FUCK me", the dilemma i was faced with. i decided to just come out to her and say "wtf i cant get it hard, etc" and she was really understanding and all. and once i actually did get it hard, as soon as i slipped a condom on, it went soft again.

so yeah, im really worried because this girl is stunning and i feel so embarassed, i dont know what to do.. any help is appreciated

 

[dudepiston]

I'm not sure why we're so quick to say that Viagra might be harmful for this young man. He already admitted he drank an energy drink and those are probably (at the alchemical level) just as 'dangerous' as a low dose of viagra. Sure common sense dictates that because of his age, viagra 'shouldn't' be necessary (we all know how horny we were at 18) but speaking personally, had this situation happened to me back then, yeah I might have lost my erection, just from the nerves of it all. If Viagra could help with that, I'd take it, given that I'm otherwise in excellent health.

Advice such as 'relax, dude, go with the flow, don't think about it so much' just rings hollow to me. Extreme sexual excitement is the opposite of relaxation! It's supposed to be.....

I don't have the best advice for this young man, but I'm going to think about it and try to come up with something better than what I've said. I suggest we all do the same. =)

 

[ballin12]

hmm i'd rather not test the viagra alternative just yet, but the update on the situation is that shes going away for a week and im pretty sure she wants to go again when she gets back.

however im getting really concerned about this "snowball" effect because after that night with her, ive tried just lying in bed, thinking about her and trying to get hard and it hasnt really worked..i think i just need techniques to relax, because i dont really have any additional stresses or anything like that. Even porn isnt really doing what it used to... its quite strange because seemingly overnight, my dick has gone from being able to get rock hard in no time at all, to me having to play with it for a while before it gets hard, and even then i cant seem to maintain the erection. what the fuck

 

[Hemicudap]

I'm not going to say relax but don't get nervous is what they mean.