Better sex with someone you arent that into?

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  1. Beachboy19

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    You arent that into him, so you completely let go and the sex is great. Does it make sense? Do you do that too?
     
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    Doesn't make sense to me, I can't have great sex with a guy I'm not into..it's awkward :confused:

    Maybe others can shed some light on this.
     
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    I think it's often the case with anything...if the pressure's off, then there's more scope for enjoyment. It doesn't mean to say that would continue though, as the reasons for your indifference would still be there, and become increasingly apparent.
     
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    It makes a lot of sense, actually. The best sex I've recently had was with someone I had known for all of two hours. I fucked him like it was nothing. And every time after that was great too. But with past boyfriends and such (when I feel the need to do good) I get all anxious and can't stay hard and stuff. Hmm.
     
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    Wow yes indeedy Beachboy19, this makes a lot of sense to me actually lol :eek:

    I recently had an experience like that, where a guy i didn't really know that well (or fancy that much) offered me sex lol and for some reason I went for it lol.

    I did what you said - just went with the flow - and he was quite expert and I enjoyed it more than i was expecting lol ;)

    But then with a boyfriend who I loved to bits it was always kind of tense and awkward, as I wanted it to go so perfectly that I came across all nervous lol, which is the opposite to how I am in bed usually lol ;)

    Your post rings true with me buddy.

    Was it just a one off for you, or have you repeated it? :) And if so, was it good again?
     
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    I'm not wired that way. If I was with a person I didn't care about...I wouldn't care what he was feeling and the whole motivation/fulfillment structure that I feed from would collapse. I think I'd rather just whack off by myself.

    Not sayin' its a bad thing...of course I'm not at all famous for my freewheeling "completely let go and the sex is great" kinda sex either. :wink:
     
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    Its not that you arent into him. Its just that you arent THAT into him.
     
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    Yup... I've tried it before and I just wasn't into him on many levels, but he was hot and hung. It just was not enough.
     
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    It seems that if you follow this logic, prostitute sex would be the best then. This style seems so onesided and maybe the enjoyment comes from the fact that you dont have to worry about the other person's pleasure.

    Could this be the case? The great inhibitor is consideration for your partner's feelings?
    Hmmm... Food for thought.
     
  10. TheRob

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    I wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't really like
     
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    Yes you could have better sex with a guy that you are not into at all. In my case I would have to find him to be attractive but I do not need any emotional connection with him.
     
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    I cannot have sex with someone I am not into [on any level any time].
     
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    if the sex is good then that might change from not that into him too.. into him
     
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    No great expectations, no anxieties... No problem.

    If it's someone you really fancy and want to have a relationship with, all sorts of thoughts go through your mind: "What if he doesn't like what I'm doing? Will he think this is kinky? Will it put him off me? Does he want me to do this? He didn't enjoy that. I shouldn't have done it," and so on, which can spoil your enjoyment.

    If it's someone you just want to have fast hot sex with rather than someone you want to impress, it's a case of getting on with it and if they're not too keen on what you're doing, you try something else and don't worry about it.
     
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    Anyone I have sex with I will get well into - at least 8"!

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    So far, this rings true to me. I get anxious when emotions are involved.
     
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    No. If I'm not into a woman, I probably wouldn't be interested in sex with her.
     
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    Sex is always better with someone I'm in to...hot for...click with...have chemistry with. The few times I have hooked up with someone that I wasn't it wasn't as good. And even if they had a big cock or had some skills, without the attraction or "being into him" it just isn't worth it.

    And for the record...the more I'm into the guy, the more awesome it is.
     
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    best sex is with someone I just picked up ... by the time you get to know someone, and develop feelings, the sexual experience with that individual has already lost a lot of it's excitement, and by then, I'm ready for someone new

    for example, this past Saturday evening, I hooked up with a guy that was into a lot of intense biting and sucking ... as exciting and intense as it was ( I woke up to find hickeys and bite marks on my neck, nipples, and chest) I'm sure it would soon become less than as exciting as it was that night
     
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    sex for me is with women.... and it is much the better when I have good feelings for the lady.
     
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