Happy New Year! I haven't measured myself recently enough to be sure (and have never measured my girth), but I'm probably 5 inches on a good day. Some guys compensate with big muscles or fancy cars, I compensate by being a funny, smart, all-around good guy who (I've been told) happens to be amazing with my hands and tongue. (Mostly) because of my size, I have some pretty bad performance anxiety when it comes to sex. Don't get me wrong, making a girl orgasm almost feels better than having one myself so I'll finger or go down on them until I'm blue in the face (no shortage of confidence when it comes to that :smile, but when it comes to sex, I am, for lack of a better word, scared. I'll even insist that she doesn't have to return the favor for the first few dates just to avoid dealing with my insecurity until I'm more comfortable with her (as unimpressive as I am hard, I am also very much a grower). My last girlfriend was very orgasmic and extremely appreciative (which was a huge turn-on), but while she was never unsatisfied, she did ask now and then why we never had sex. She fell for me pretty quickly and if I hadn't broken up with her, I don't think she would've ever broken up with me because of the lack of sex. I realize there isn't one right answer here but I'm interested in hearing different perspectives. I guess the questions I'm getting at are: 1. In general, do you prefer sex to being fingered/eaten out? 2. Would you be content in a relationship if there was love, affection, the best orgasms you've ever had (again, quoting the ex) but no sex?