Anyone have nay suggestions? I've mentioned cock rings to him. I have used them with ex-husband, who by the way kept his erection for a long time, but we divorced due to his HUGE drug addiction problem. This BF isn't too much into things that help. He states that he hadn't been with a woman (he is straight) for 5 years before me, and his ego is very damaged that he can't keep an erection long enough for me. We are very frustrated, esp. since he can get off in about 3-4 min. and i'm left very upset. I'm tired of him finishing me off with a vibrator and when we do 69, I still have to have fingers inside my vagina & he claims that the angle that he has to turn his wrist hurts. We have been dating since mid august & exclusive since 10/08 this year & I've ha donly 3 orgasms with him, twice with his using 2 vibrators, one was on my clit. He is a very loving man & very hard working & has a professional job. He is talking of marriage, and I will consider thatl However, at this point after having been raised in an extremely sheltered home & not knowing a thing about sex until I was married at age 20. Then that husband had two affairs & became a drunkard, we divorced. My 2nd husband whom I mentioned in the beginning of this post has a severe drug addiction problem & it only got worse & to the point hwere he did not want to have sex by about once ever 3 months. I have a high sex drive & about to go out of my mind trying to find someone compatible in every way. I had always believed until this BF that sex would just happen and never have a problem, now I have found out otherwise. I'm considering trying to find some one on here who is also willing to meet me so I can be fulfilled in every way!