Bf has gun fetish.

[Mr Ed in Mass]

Okay, If this is a dangerous act, how can I convince him to avoid it. It's not like I didn't enjoy those moments. In the new year's eve we had a nice time with the airsoft gun "blushed".
I loved every moment with him except when he pointed the loaded gun. But, I trust him. He is naturally a nice guy, never aggressive or temperamental.

Anyway, I will talk to him the safety issues concerned with this act. Thanks for your suggestions.

Please get out while you can, I don't see this ending well

 

[Galloper]

Careful, bud. Next time he might forget is loaded.

 

[AdamHenry]

An airsoft isn't necessarily safe either. Actor Jon-Erik Hexum died as a result of being shot on set with a prop pistol loaded with blanks.

I remember that. I was a kid then but I remember that. They did an expose' on him right before the incident. He seemed like a cool dude.

 

[malakos]

Okay, If this is a dangerous act, how can I convince him to avoid it.

It's pretty straightforward. Explain to him that what he did was unsafe and that when you play with firearms it is a necessity and you unequivocally insist that you play it safe.

It's not like I didn't enjoy those moments. In the new year's eve we had a nice time with the airsoft gun "blushed".
I loved every moment with him except when he pointed the loaded gun. But, I trust him. He is naturally a nice guy, never aggressive or temperamental.

I can understand the draw to this. I could maybe see myself having fun with it. But it definitely wouldn't be worth it to me to deviate from strict safety protocols.

Btw, what does it mean for a gun to be "blushed"?

 

[love2compare]

make love - no war, period.
so this is about the only magnum that i allow in our bedroom hehehe...

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[Phil Ayesho]

There is no way on earth this is normative behavior.

Guns have nothing whatsoever to do with sex, with fucking or with domination.
This is seriously sick, twisted, and dangerous. A loaded gun has no place in sex play of any kind and anyone wanting such a thing is not someone who is safe to be around in any respect. They are unhinged in a way that could result in death with the twitch of a finger.

Run. Run far, run fast, and leave no forwarding address.

 

[nailz]

But, sometimes I feel so weird like, why the guns. Sometimes he loads the gun point towards me.

This is very alarming
I've taken photos with guns in the past but my bf always triple-checked that they weren't loaded and the chamber was empty before letting me near them.

Someone pointing a loaded gun at you is a threat to your life, and not something you should tolerate under any circumstances.

 

[701757]

But, sometimes I feel so weird like, why the guns. Sometimes he loads the gun point towards me.

Lol wtf

 

[Mr Ed in Mass]

I hate to say it, but it sounds like the making of a serial killer, one day, he will get the nerve up to actually pull the trigger. Get out now.

 

[KennF]

If this is a dangerous act, how can I convince him to avoid it.

It isn't HIS responsibility to avoid it. It is YOURS.
You don't convince him. You state, uncategorically, that it is NOT acceptable.

I urge you to seek out a counselor and talk to them. The fact that you are posting about it here with questions means there is a lot more going on.

It's not like I didn't enjoy those moments. In the new year's eve we had a nice time with the airsoft gun "blushed".
I loved every moment with him except when he pointed the loaded gun.

You are mixing up the fear response with the excitement response.

He is naturally a nice guy, never aggressive or temperamental.

Every interview with the neighbors of a serial killer start with "He all seemed like such a nice boy. Never mean or angry."

 

[wavejock]

Hi ,
I am a new member here. I am in an open relationship with a guy. He loves me and cares me well. He is very passionate in bed and I love that. We have been in a relationship for only 4 months now.

Last month he expressed his interest in guns and rifles. He has gun fetish. At first, I thought it was very weird, but then I thought well we can try. One night he brought a .45 magnum revolver and a Remington shotgun. Surprisingly, the experience was awesome. The touch of cold gun metal of the skin was very sensual.

He has big plans for the new year. He wants a combat gun. Since it is not available, he has ordered an airsoft rifle gun, which I think is an exact replica of the real combat rifle.

But, sometimes I feel so weird like, why the guns. Sometimes he loads the gun point towards me. I don't know why he is doing that but, I have enjoyed so far. But, when I am alone I think, should I fear him?

Guys, what do you think about his behaviour? Is it okay to have a gun fetish?

no red flags here at all lol

 

[tominrichmond]

I have to second that statement: there is no such thing as a gun accident. Proper training, handling and maintenance is the only prevention if you are going to handle a firearm.

No boyfriend like that for me. I have antipathy to guns. HUGE problem here in the U.S. H-U-G-E.

 

[950483]

@Jaredleto25 What if he is actually getting off on picturing the worst case scenario? (You are dead in that scenario by the way).

 

[moparmike]

I have owned guns my entire life. BB guns, pellet rifles, firearms, including handguns, shotguns and rifles. Never in my ENTIRE life have I engaged in unsafe or "playful" behavior with one. It is not cool. It is not safe. Numerous people have accidentally killed themselves taking selfies with them. They are not a toy. They are not a plaything or a sex enhancer. His behavior is unsafe. Period. Unsafe for you and for him too.

 

[moparmike]

I should also clarify, I only own legal guns, and use them for target practice, sport shooting, and defense. As a former sheriff's deputy, i have the training to do so. This guy has (in my opinion, not provable by me) a tendency that will turn ugly. When an "accident" happens, all of our warnings will be borne out. Please dont let yourself be a statistic.

 

[KuronoB]

Okay, If this is a dangerous act, how can I convince him to avoid it. It's not like I didn't enjoy those moments. In the new year's eve we had a nice time with the airsoft gun "blushed".
I loved every moment with him except when he pointed the loaded gun. But, I trust him. He is naturally a nice guy, never aggressive or temperamental.

Anyway, I will talk to him the safety issues concerned with this act. Thanks for your suggestions.

The fact that he owns guns and still points a loaded gun at you for fun means that he has chosen to ignore MANY warnings from firearm experts that he was exposed to while researching/buying/shooting guns, and perhaps getting a firearms license. He isn't simply uninformed, he is selfish enough to risk your life for momentary pleasure. This is a critically big problem.

The deeper problem is that this guy does not value your life. He might put the guns away next time you have sex, but sooner or later, the fact that he does not value your life will show itself in some other way, shape or form. And when (not if) something happens, you might not be alive to seek help.

Get out of the relationship while you still can. There are millions of men out there. I'm sure you can find another nice guy you can have good sex with, who actually values your life.

 

[Mercurygirl]

You're out of your fucking mind if you stay with this clearly dangerous person.

 

[TheRob]

Hi ,
I am a new member here. I am in an open relationship with a guy. He loves me and cares me well. He is very passionate in bed and I love that. We have been in a relationship for only 4 months now.

Last month he expressed his interest in guns and rifles. He has gun fetish. At first, I thought it was very weird, but then I thought well we can try. One night he brought a .45 magnum revolver and a Remington shotgun. Surprisingly, the experience was awesome. The touch of cold gun metal of the skin was very sensual.

He has big plans for the new year. He wants a combat gun. Since it is not available, he has ordered an airsoft rifle gun, which I think is an exact replica of the real combat rifle.

But, sometimes I feel so weird like, why the guns. Sometimes he loads the gun point towards me. I don't know why he is doing that but, I have enjoyed so far. But, when I am alone I think, should I fear him?

Guys, what do you think about his behaviour? Is it okay to have a gun fetish?

gun play is ok but adding the ammo is a problem....

 

[sexplease]

I once heard, "erotic is with a feather. Kinky is with the whole chicken."
I don't think guns are so much of problem as a loaded one. Accidents happen. period. If you're big enough to have sex, you should be smart enough to know a loaded one is NOT A TOY. EVER.
We like all our members here and hope to hear from you again. and not read about you or him in the obits.

 

[rayray]

Why don't you try to level the playing field? Get a Bow&Arrow and point it at him and see if he likes it . The last time someone pointed a gun at me was during a robbery . GUNS do not belong in the bedroom period .