BF is too BIG for me

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Hey guys I have somes question regarding sex with my boyfriend. I have never had sex with someone as large as him. Hes 11.5 x 7. 5 and sometimes I sware it seems bigger! I am a bottom. He has a sex drive that I can’t seem to keep up with him, it always hurts for days after we have sex. I appreciate any help in advance.
1. My first concern is that I doing real damage to myself when he wants to having sex when I am still hurting. What I mean is that usually the day after I feel a lot of pain. He always seems to be telling me I don’t want to have sex with him because I am still hurting. I dont like to turn him down but I cant seem to get him to realize is that it hurts because of his size. I don’t usually bleed. But, If I do its very rare. Just a lot of pain!
2. What do I get to help with pain and does it ever get easier? We have been together for 6 mo’s.

I am at a point now where I don’t care if he goes out and has sex with others just to get him off my back. I know that may seem harsh to say but I really mean it. As much as I love him hes too big for me its seems?
 
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Sex is not supposed to hurt like that...

I mean, yeah, sometimes, it does hurt a bit at the beginning when the top is hung but... for days after? I'm sorry to say, but you're probably doing permanent dammage to yourself whether he agrees to wait for you to stop hurting or not (which is TOTALLY DISRESPECTFUL to you).

Your BF has sort of a handicap, he must accept it.

If you really love him and he really loves you, I'm sure you'll find a solution togheter. But talk. :)
 

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Man, even smaller 8 inch and 9 inch guys have to be careful how much cock they slide into their mate! It is perfectly feasible to adjust stroke length to a guy's capabilities!
It is reasonable to expect that after years with this guy, you will get better at taking more of him! However, allowing him to cause you pain each time you mate is not wise.
He is way larger than almost everyone else and you must help him learn to adjust his stroke to fit your butt!
Good luck guy!
 
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Hey guys I have somes question regarding sex with my boyfriend. I have never had sex with someone as large as him. Hes 11.5 x 7. 5 and sometimes I sware it seems bigger! I am a bottom. He has a sex drive that I can’t seem to keep up with him, it always hurts for days after we have sex. I appreciate any help in advance.
1. My first concern is that I doing real damage to myself when he wants to having sex when I am still hurting. What I mean is that usually the day after I feel a lot of pain. He always seems to be telling me I don’t want to have sex with him because I am still hurting. I dont like to turn him down but I cant seem to get him to realize is that it hurts because of his size. I don’t usually bleed. But, If I do its very rare. Just a lot of pain!
2. What do I get to help with pain and does it ever get easier? We have been together for 6 mo’s.

I am at a point now where I don’t care if he goes out and has sex with others just to get him off my back. I know that may seem harsh to say but I really mean it. As much as I love him hes too big for me its seems?
I call bullshit on the 11.5x7.5
 

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Thanks for everyone who responded. I will try to answer the questions some of you have. Ali and I meet in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. He’s 27, I’m 42. He’s 6’3 and extremely thin. I think he’s weights in at approx. 160lbs (total guess). He’s good in bed! I am not complaining trust me! I just wonder if anyone else has this issue and what they are doing about it? I mean do plugs help? Do you have to have multiple partners? Is there a lube that is better than others? What types of foreplay?
When he gets back from on Monday I will take a few pictures to give you an idea of what I am dealing with.
 

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All I know is that sex should not hurt, especially for days afterwards. You guys need to change things up.
 

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More and better lube, and longer periods of gentle foreplay are your answer.
If there is pain, there is resistance. Your sphincters are not as relaxed as they need to be.
Anticipation of pain could easily cause this. Have him gently warm your ass up, both sphincters, until they are really relaxed. Use as much lube as you need, as often as it will help.
Best of luck with this tough problem.
 

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My BF is no where near as hung as yours (although he's respectable enough!). However, I have noticed that he sometimes wants to fuck me the way he see's guys in the porn films do it. Really hard, lots of whapping noises, etc. Don't know if you and the guy are porn fans, but might it be a matter of technique? He's a hot guy with a big dick and if you're a bottom like me, the rough stuff is sometimes welcome. That's a big old guess on my part, of course.

The guy who said lots and lots of lube is also TOTALLY on the money. Often, we lube up, get it in and the bottle goes back to the bedside table. Lube needs to be refreshed, especially if the guy is a biggun.

My $.02
 

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Thanks for everyone who responded. I will try to answer the questions some of you have. Ali and I meet in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. He’s 27, I’m 42. He’s 6’3 and extremely thin. I think he’s weights in at approx. 160lbs (total guess). He’s good in bed! I am not complaining trust me! I just wonder if anyone else has this issue and what they are doing about it? I mean do plugs help? Do you have to have multiple partners? Is there a lube that is better than others? What types of foreplay?
When he gets back from on Monday I will take a few pictures to give you an idea of what I am dealing with.
... Oh Wow. I'm really looking forward to seeing them, and if I may make a request that at least one of the photo's has his whole torso (obviously you'll want to keep his face just out of shot.... or not.?)
This way we can get a real sense of proportion.... (I'm prepared to send/swap photo's privately with you.... )
 

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Thanks for everyone who responded. I will try to answer the questions some of you have. Ali and I meet in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. He’s 27, I’m 42. He’s 6’3 and extremely thin. I think he’s weights in at approx. 160lbs (total guess). He’s good in bed! I am not complaining trust me! I just wonder if anyone else has this issue and what they are doing about it? I mean do plugs help? Do you have to have multiple partners? Is there a lube that is better than others? What types of foreplay?
When he gets back from on Monday I will take a few pictures to give you an idea of what I am dealing with.

OK, that explains the 11 x 7.5. Your sense of sizing things up seems exaggerated. I am sure your BF is huge and you do have an issue at stake.

A guy that tall with that weight would be thin, but not extremly thin. 140lbs and below for that height would be. Any UFC fans remember Cory Hill, 6'5"- 155lbs and what he looked like?
 

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Cool...Thanks guys for all who have helped. Its Ramadan so I having trouble convincing him to let me take some pictures. He a bit bitching from fasting. But, I will get some pictures up soon.